Do you have to play games?

To make a relationship work? Especially in todays dating world; can you just meet someone, and fall inlove.
Is all the games necessary like playing hard to get?
What happened to Old Fashion Wooing ?

I hate the games!! I am honest with how I feel. Although sometimes the games can be fun to test them. Ignore them to see if they will contact you, etc. The emotional games are ridiculous though

The Emotional games are the ones i hate the most. Its so confusing! 😢 like do you like me or not?
Why does everyone think its necessary to play to get to make yourself seem more interesting.... Cant you just be yourself for once

I hate to say this but it does involved games and the main reason for this to me is because men like to chase so women we can't just meet a guy, fall in love, and live happily ever after. the men won't be happy they want to chase you and the women has to play the game with the men and not seem so available, it's all really stupid if you ask me but it's how it seems to be.

I say no... if you were meant to be with someone you shouldn't have to do x, y, z to have this certain scenario play out. It's not an science experiment.

When you play games and/or act like someone who you are not, that crap gets old pretty quick and to me, I think it is childish and it will lead to issues down the line.

If a person likes you and wants to be with you then you shouldn't have to set the bait or play this certain game or have this type of strategy.

Scorpdiva is right that guys do like the chase, but I will say some guys want to engage you, but then you engage back and that starts it off. You should have to run then feign being caught to keep a guy. Some guys, yes, you do... they always want to chase and when they have you they become board. I think Sag men are like this, correct me if I'm wrong... too bad their so damn cute... anywho.

Some guys like to take the lead and start things off or the "chase scene" and some don't like that aka Taurus... they like to be the ones chased. Some signs don't give a damn about all that aka pisces. We find that crap to be off putting.

In my mind, I thought I had to deal with all that crap and did for a while, but I FINALLY learned when you meet "the guy/gal" you don't need to. It will just click... no games, no bullbutter. Thank God, I found that.

Good luck to you and yours. 🙂

To me, games=insecurity. If a guy has to chase me to feel satisfied, then that = insecurities. If a girl has to play hard to get, that = insecurities, etc. Not to mention games just make everything more difficult than it needs to be. Tell me straight out, and I'll be direct with you. I don't play games and would not consider going out with someone who seems to do that. Just isn't my cup of tea.

Yes, if you want to be in a BS non-relationship. No, if you want to build a life with someone.

Im a v e r y straight forward person. If a like a guy, ill let him know.
To avoid any drama, misunderstandings etc. and ive notice that not alot games,like that.if you tell a guy you like him they immediately think youre being desperate or in their,lingo nowadays. Youre being thirsty. Its all very fustrating, that you have to play the cat and mouse game with them.

I think guys just like to earn what they get. This might be old-fashioned, but remember, I'm from a different generation than most of you. Too many women put out too soon. So, for a guy to be proud and stay interested, he must earn it. Everyone appreciates what's earned. I don't think it has to be a game though. If you have your standards and are up front about them such as "I don't sleep with anyone until X amount of time" then stick to it. If you say it, and you do it before that time, then you just proved that you are willing to compromise your standards.

One lesson my daddy taught me when I was young was "just make sure he likes you and not what he's getting from you". Basically, dear old dad was saying if he's coming around and not getting sex, then he must really be into you.

I think it's silly that we're not supposed to call/text when we want, but it feels so much better and is more rewarding for me when he calls/texts first. Feels good knowing he's thinking about me and wants to talk to me. I will initiate contact some, but let him do it most of the time. Besides, if I initiate and he doesn't respond for a while because he's busy or in a meeting, I will drive myself nuts wondering why he hasn't responded. So, I try not to initiate much so that I can spare those feelings/insecurities. lol!

No games. Playing "hard to get" = not worth my time.

It just feels like a Predator and Prey game to me always. We women or the prey, and the men or suupose to try and capture us. but if we were suppose to trade places us girls would be considered "desperate, aggressive and unlady like".
Whats so wrong with a woman taking the lead in the dating game ?

Women can. It's all in HOW you take the lead. Getting him to chase you instead of you chasing him.

sooooo Truecap, How does one get a man to chase you? Gentelmen feel free to join in and let us ladies in on some insight? 🙂 Seems to me now days most men want a woman to chase them? I've been told by a few guys it's due to not being sure if a lady is into them...which I think men can sense it anyway *shakes head*