finding balance

I have a few questions for everyone. I realize there is no "answer" to this type of question but would like to know what's works for you.

I'd like to know about how you spend your free time when you are in a relationship. I think the age or stage of a relationship could seriously effect answers so go ahead and state yours as a basis for your responses if you would. Ok, so...

How often do you go out and do things together?

How often do you spend evenings at each other's homes?

How often do you spend your evenings without your bf/gf, in and/or out?


I am also curious about boredom in general and as it relates to our romantic relationships.

Do you consider yourself a boring person (I won't attach a negative stigma to boring if you don't)? Why or why not?

How much boredom is to be expected in your day to day life?

How do you keep your relationship fresh and exciting?

38 and single at the moment. I'll help as much as I can.

When I'm in a relationship, I like to go out with my lady as much as possible. I plan outings but I also like to be spontaneous. Doing this, means knowing the other person. Their likes/dislikes etc and some of the things they've always wanted to do but never really had the chance. One must be careful because doing this all the time becomes monotonous and routine. It loses its luster. It is important that both of you have interests outside of the relationship. That can be tricky. Some people may feel that you are being selfish by pursuing those interest and will voice displeasure of course.

As far as evenings at each others homes, switch it up and don't follow the same pattern.

As to boredom, often times that boils down to the individual. With all that spontaneity and fun, eventually relationships "mature." It doesn't mean they get boring. Life in itself presents enough challenges to keep you two on your toes. It's like two people on the same surf board riding the waves together. Adjusting together. Learn to find the passion in not seeing each other as much. The longing. The making each encounter special. You trade in the long weekends together for the challenge of living life together and accomplishing things together. Quantity is switched for quality. All it takes is a little imagination and being with someone who appreciates it.

And of course I don't consider myself boring...I'm a Sag lol.

Also LS, don't look at everything in terms of "balance." You don't have to balance everything because life itself is not.

My bf works two weeks one/two weeks off. These numbers are based on when he is home. When he's gone, he's stuck with 12-15 guys and I spend time with my son, my friends and my family.

How often do you go out and do things together?
Once to twice a week.

How often do you spend evenings at each other's homes?
About two to three, not counting the once or twice we go and do things.

How often do you spend your evenings without your bf/gf, in and/or out?
50% with them, 50% apart.

Do you consider yourself a boring person (I won't attach a negative stigma to boring if you don't)? Why or why not?
Sometimes its nice to be quiet and watch television together, sometimes I'd rather go out and about and be social. Maybe a little of both. lol!

How much boredom is to be expected in your day to day life?
A bit. Everyday can't be all glamour and roses.

How do you keep your relationship fresh and exciting?
I have a silly sense of humor and he has a smart ass sense of humor! Humor is a big thing. Also we alternate from being social to being homebodies and try to do different types of activiities when we do get out and about.