To be whipped.....

What does it mean when another man says a man is whipped? Is it a bad thing to be whipped?

To be whipped is to be a man who is being controlled by his woman and thus not carrying out his natural dominant role as "the man". It is never good to be whipped.

Ok...thanks. So whats the difference between being really sweet towards her and you seeing her as being controlling? And, if a man is too nice to his girl do other men see him as being whipped?

Posted by coldwater
Ok...thanks. So whats the difference between being really sweet towards her and you seeing her as being controlling? And, if a man is too nice to his girl do other men see him as being whipped?

If you ask him to take out the garbage and he wants to do it tomorrow, you insist and he does it, that's being sweet to you. On the other hand, if he wants to go watch football with his friends and you deny him and he stays home that be the bitch controlling him.

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Posted by coldwater
Ok...thanks. So whats the difference between being really sweet towards her and you seeing her as being controlling? And, if a man is too nice to his girl do other men see him as being whipped?

If you ask him to take out the garbage and he wants to do it tomorrow, you insist and he does it, that's being sweet to you. On the other hand, if he wants to go watch football with his friends and you deny him and he stays home that be the bitch controlling him.

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AND if he isn't gettin' any as PH said, he is now not even "pussy whipped" he is just "whipped". And that means he has something wrong with his inner male dominance mechanism.

Ohh wow pothead.

Im just sooo aggravated at him and his working schedual. So tonight was supposed to be our night. He promised. He of course had to go into work. I got soooo upset and we argued a little and then I stopped. Well...i just told him im still gonna go out tonight and if he wants to spend all his time working then thats fine. So I started pulling out some dresses and laying them across the bed. Then I grabbed like three pair of five inch heels and threw them on the bed too. Soooo...before he left out of the door he just stared at me trying them on, the shoes. I looked up and he kissed me hard three times. He apologized and he said he would make it up to me. Hes like all I have to do is work, mail off some packages and ill be home. I have no plans for tomorrow. I was like oh ok.

Well i dont want him whipped...I want some more time. Weve just been arguing more because of his work schedual. I just want some of your time is all. I have adjusted my schedual to try to accomidate his hours off. Not days off, but hours off. I want to go to movies tonight. He was supposed to take me. So I told him ill just go with my gf. I mean that wasnt wrong. So he gets mad and hes soo quiet. He will sit and think about this all night, but what am to do. Just stay home and wait and wait?

I guess Ill just stay home. If I go out then it will fuck up his mind all night and he will ask how my date went. ALl we were gonna do is appetizers and a movie. But....since I know how he will take it and I love him I will stay home and wait on him.

Sigh...you are right......We never argue about anything but this. He cant help it. I know he has to go but I still get angry because I feel cheated.I am human. I try not to let it bother me, but hes so intuned with my emotions he can tell.

I just didnt want to demasculate him which is why I asked about the whipped question.

Can't he look for another job which gives him reasonable working hours? I don't think this situation will get better with his current job and your frustration will ultimately destroy the relationship.

Thanks Incandesant.....

I think its part him too. He told me about his past relationships and I put two and two together. They didnt care basically if he worked all the time because they just went and did their own thing. They loved the money he brought in. One even cheated because he was gone all the time. They just let him work himself to death. Then he felt used and not appreciated. I, on the other hand, want the man, not the money. I dont want him to get sick, which he was recently and he is more than a paycheck to me. I honestly love him. I laid by him the entire time he was home with the flu. I just kept feeling his head and help covering him up.

He stands out on his job. Hes a great worker. Hes already been pulled into the office by three upper level boses and they say he will go far in this company. Hes such a good worker that takes pride in his work. Hes always in some sort of management spot.

If I even pull away he freaks out. He will get very angry sometimes and just walk and have to go and clear his head. He hates to fight, but I cannot pretend that it doesnt bother me. I know he loves me. He has from the first time he met me.

If I love him im gonna have to let him be. He was raised that a man works. Hes been working all his life. Its what he knows to do. You are right though...if we continue like this it will destroy us.

Im just gonna have to let him be the man he wants to be. Or rather support him to be the man he wants to be. Sigh.

Rarely is a man truly "whipped". The smart ones have just learned to pick their battles. You can't go to war over everything. It's so much easier to simply say "ok".

Posted by Nala13
Rarely is a man truly "whipped". The smart ones have just learned to pick their battles. You can't go to war over everything. It's so much easier to simply say "ok".

That's what my dad told me when I was 16 and I was having problems with my first girlfriend. great piece of advice 🙂.

Posted by coldwater
What does it mean when another man says a man is whipped? Is it a bad thing to be whipped?

it means a man is beaten.
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I love whipping men. 😉

Posted by LunarMaiden
I love whipping men. 😉

I am sure you do 😛.

Posted by incandescentcancer

Posted by LunarMaiden
I love whipping men. 😉

I am sure you do 😛.

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I get the feeling you would enjoy being on the receiving end. 😉

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Posted by LunarMaiden
I love whipping men. 😉

I am sure you do 😛.

I get the feeling you would enjoy being on the receiving end. 😉

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I enjoy everything to the fullest possible 😛.

his job is like the 3rd wheel in the relationship

Yes is it DMV.

He told me today that he talked to his bosses and explained what impact it was having on his home life. They told him that other men had brought up the same subject. The men stopped picking up their phones when the first and second boss calls. Now the company boss calls them into work. They said they need for us to be patient. US as in significant others.

He went to the docs today. He has the flu with two ear infections. He needs his job,but he needs to rest too....

I dont trust them. Probably not. I dont trust them to let up. He cant work more than seven days a week anyways. Hes already doing that. Besides,hes just trying to calm me down. I dont even think he believes it.

Well....Ill just let him make his own choices. I dont want him to appear "whipped" in front of his male friends. He does try to appease me, and I do recognize that. I in no way want to demasculate him. No matter how angry I get, he just tells me he loves me if he doesnt know what else to say. He sent me that Alicia Keys song "No One" the other day.

Imma just focus on other things for now. If I dont Ill just shut down. Its not like I want all his time. I just would love 24 hours.

well, consider the opposite... a broke dude with no job who has nothing but time on his hands to spend with you.

Posted by coldwater

.... tonight was supposed to be our night. He promised. He of course had to go into work. I got soooo upset and we argued ...

...i just told him im still gonna go out tonight and if he wants to spend all his time working then thats fine. So I started pulling out some dresses and laying them across the bed. Then I grabbed like three pair of five inch heels and threw them on the bed too.

The man had to go to work. You know, that responsibility that grown ups do .... you don't get that.

Instead, you attempt to make him feel bad by showing him the hot clothes you are going to wear out.

Why would an adult, like yourself, boo-hoo because he's man enough to own up to his responsibility to his job?

Unless you're 8th grade, and pretending to be mature .. which according to what you wrote here, your acting skills suck because clearly you act very immature with this particular situation.

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Posted by coldwater

.... tonight was supposed to be our night. He promised. He of course had to go into work. I got soooo upset and we argued ...

...i just told him im still gonna go out tonight and if he wants to spend all his time working then thats fine. So I started pulling out some dresses and laying them across the bed. Then I grabbed like three pair of five inch heels and threw them on the bed too.

The man had to go to work. You know, that responsibility that grown ups do .... you don't get that.

Instead, you attempt to make him feel bad by showing him the hot clothes you are going to wear out.

Why would an adult, like yourself, boo-hoo because he's man enough to own up to his responsibility to his job?

Unless you're 8th grade, and pretending to be mature .. which according to what you wrote here, your acting skills suck because clearly you act very immature with this particular situation.

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i think she knows where the door is