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I know this topic has been in many forms on astrology boards but this is not suppose to be an astrological topic..

So, I have been thinking a lot about my current relationship and also the old ones. I know what I think but I'd also like to know what men think about these things..

1. Why do men keep in touch with other women?

2. Why do men keep in touch with ex?

3. Once a cheater always a cheater?

I'm kinda ready to leave relationships out of my life. Right now I'm in a process of ending up my long-term relationship and just need outside opinions to work these things before moving on. Any thoughts? Thanks!

I know I just have to go through it and I'm not afraid of facing it. I know I'm gonna be stronger after this experience. I know what to do when I'm through this. I think it's time for me to be happy. He can keep struggling with his nature with another victim.. haha.. I'm happy I can still laugh after all these years in sorrow.. 🙂 Thanks for your input.

Sweet&sour, I'm not a man, but I'm also very interested at seeing some answers to your questions.

I'd like to know what guys say about #1&2. Most of my exes still want to keep in touch with me, but when I'm done, I'm done. I don't see the point really. There's one who really irks me. He still calls me almost every day even after I've told him repeatedly to stop and haven't answered his calls in months. Of course when we were together he didn't call nearly as often.

As far as #3, I really hope not.

Sorry to read about your struggles. I've been there with letting him go on to the next victim. Once you let him go, you are no longer a victim, you're a survivor.

Good luck. 🙂

lol.. I knew that he still wants to sleep with her and that he will always be a cheater.. But that money and car thing is something new.. haha.. I'm sure it's just about the money.. haha 😉

other women, Is it possible that a man can be friends with a woman without sex? believe it or not yes.

why does he keep in touch they were a part of his life.

with an Ex if there are childern or business concerns you need to talk.

as for number three depends on your deffanetion of cheating

Its like death
when someone you care about dies that person is dead and is gone from your life. But the relationship will always be there that doesn't go away.

chow

Ok.. They don't have children together or business concerns of any kind. What I know about that is that they used to have a sex relationship. Then this woman (my age) got married with another man but they still had a sex relationship, till I met him. They knew each other years before I met him and she had cheated on him long time ago. After that they just had sex together. I don't know if he was with her still when we had met but I think they could have been because my husband was a real player. I just found out too late and I think there's still more to find out.. Who knows.. Anyway. They started to keep in touch again about a year ago. I've been thinking of divorce already for a year now and when I found out (just recently) he still keeps in touch with this woman I thought that it's time to move on.

I have been thinking that I wish I could have known the truth earlier. But then I wouldn't have my kids. So I just take this as a very valuable experience and now I know I can appreciate my own time and my life from now on.

Thanks for your answers! 🙂

Btw.. He doesn't know about my thoughts. He's asking me if we'll move to a bigger house.. I should tell him now that why not to move 2 separate houses..

"Why don't you give one of your ex's a call just for fun?"

God. Why would I do that? I don't want puke. It makes me feel sick even think of my ex's.. God.. yukkie..

"ya'll knew his MO form the beginning, or had a uneasy felling, but you still went for him anyway."

But I didn't know first, and when I began to feel that he's not honest I decided to break up with him, not just told him that yet. Just one week before I found out I was pregnant. Now that's a long time ago. After that went 1 and half years before I found out the truth about him. So my daughter was almost 1 year old when I found out the truth. What is done is done. We are not just good together. And I accept that. There's no one to blame, we are humans, we do mistakes. He did his mistake IF he after our divorce thinks he shouldn't have been a dog. I don't care about what he thinks. I only care that I'm gonna survive and I'm gonna be happy soon again. I know that I have learned my lesson. The only bad thing is that somehow I feel awful when a man touches me now, I almost feel sick. I hope that'll go away.

Dear s&s

you will need to keep in touch with your ex because of the childern.

"you will need to keep in touch with your ex because of the childern."

Yeah, true, maybe a couple of text messages will do that.. lol

jrussou..

It's genuine.

And I don't think of those guys, my ex's, they belong to my past.

Now you made me think one of them though. I guess he's the only one that I don't feel sick to think about but we were together for only 6 weeks and after that friends for a year and a half. He told me after 6 months we had decided to be friends that he still wants to be with me. But I was already with someone else, I had met my current husband. That guy was more like a friend, very smart, had a good job, he was like a gentleman, a little bit too shy for me though. We just didn't have that something between us. But I don't feel sick about thinking of him, he was really nice, maybe the nicest man I have ever met. I wish there was more men like that..

Thanks for your comments. I finally decided to divorce him. Tomorrow I will bring the papers. And I'm relieved. He said he wants to stay with me but I want something else. I already met yesterday someone I had good chemistry with. He gave me his number but I deleted it already. Never give a woman your number.. 😉

s&s,

I just posted something under the Relationships forum called The Seven-Step Pyramid of male/female Relationships. The description below goes under the heading of Divine Companion. This analysis has given new meaning to what's considered a SOULMATE and other couplings. It reminds us that we are not all meant for "...until death do we part".

A Divine Complement is someone who shows you the exact mirror of where you are living. This person could be anyone at any given time the Higher Self sends to mirror your exact image. Often times it reflects our negative vibrations, while other times you are blessed with seeing the beauty that is you. A complement could come in and out of one's life, or stay around for a while completing many lessons for both parties involved. This would be a very good reason why marriages on Earth shift all the time. People change with age and move on. Many times this does not happen together, and so two partners end up going their separate ways and rightly so in this kind of environment. Remember, relationships on Earth are in preparation for moving you to a higher level of being.

Let's hope this new transition will lead to your True, Divine Mate. Good Luck!