fucked up relationship

So I'm a CancerLeo male... I met a CancerLeo female online on a very particular dating site and we hit it off immediately. We have so much in common, from taste in music to hobbies to sexual desires... the sex was 11/10, too. We spent a lot of time together, but have only known each other a week (too much time in my opinion, but...)

She is an addict, looking to get clean. When I realized how much I liked her, my primary focus went from sex/hanging out (our goal when meeting) to helping her get clean, because I wanted to pursue some form of relationship with her and would want her to be clean before doing so. In my efforts to get her to stop using, I became slightly controlling, but I thought that is what she needed.

Two days ago she told be she doesn't want to be sexual anymore but we could remain friends, because she liked someone else (another user) more... basically breaking up with me. I remained cool and said she could do whatever she pleases and I was happy for her that she found somebody. She said her main reason for ending our sexual relationship was because I had been so controlling and I didn't understand what she was going through.

She told me about him and I was okay with it besides the fact that he was a user. I argued, why be close with him because when you get clean you won't be able to see him anymore? He is way, way older than her, and I am five years her senior. Her first impression of him was that the sex was good but they had nothing in common, her first impression of me was the sex was amazing and she basically 1) felt like she had known me forever even though we had just met and 2) it felt like we had become best friends in one night.

The situation is so complicated and ridiculous I don't expect anyone to understand...

But I'd like validation in that if I leave her be for a short while, not being controlling at all, that I'll be able to reignite the passion between us. I've never met anyone I clicked like this so instantly, and hoping she goes to rehab and gets clean, we could try and work on something long term in the future.

I know it's crazy, we've only known each other a week, but based on the chemistry and how similar we are, I feel like I love this girl. I've been in slower-forming love relationships before and it feels much the same, minus all the chaos.

I don't know what to expect in responses here, but I want to talk it out.

We're both polyamourous (meaning we support the idea of multiple relationships).

Sell her some drugs n shell come crawling back.

The person you met, and fell for .. isn't her.

If she is a drug addict, then you've never even met her straight. so you don't even know her.

Straight - she could be a completely different person.

It seems silly to me that you are so smitten that you cannot rationalize this.

A person who is a junkie has such clouded thoughts, that they don't even know how they are themselves ...... that is, if her addiction is junk.

But, even just a stoner ..... if they stay stoned all the time, then their thoughts are clouded.


How could a rational minded person be so blind to that?

She doesn't really want to get clean. You're better off without her, honestly. Otherwise, it's going to be one disappointment after another and more frustration and pain on your end than you deserve.

I applaud your willingness to help her, but she doesn't really want help at the moment, otherwise, she would check herself into rehab and get clean.

You've only known her for a week, I vote to cut your losses before you invest more of yourself into her.