Mohini
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"He is a good man". (cosmopolitan type quiz)
Cosmopolitan quizzes have multiple choice answers. I feel set up.
Posted by BullShitTrue. Myself included but with experience I feel like I'm getting closer to a better way.
I believe scientifically we are prone to remember the good more then the bad. So when one empathizes with the person they love who hurt them it's due to those memories. Hope is still alive and it will make you do things you've never done before, or have done countless times in a shameless manner. We're all guilty of this unfortunately.
We tend to glamorize the good despite the bad.
But where is that even keel mind I need and seek? 🙂 thanks for responding.
Posted by LillyPetalHaha
Cosmopolitan quizzes have multiple choice answers. I feel set up.
You can choose b or c and those are most likely correct.
Im serious though.
I just think the people who should read this the most will be the first to disregard it because they can't publicly answer trutfully.
Or because they dont know.
1. What's makes a partner worthy to you,?
If I like them, they like me, if we work well together, if we make each other happy, if the flaws are manageable
2 what' about them makes you sure they are the real one!?
Th 'real' one? I don't worry about whether someone is 'the one'. If they meet the above conditions then that's good enough.
3. What do you over look specifically in sake for their better good?
There's nothing specific. As long as the good outweighs the bad then that's fine. There are certain things that would be automatic deal breakers, but I'd only know if they came up.
4. Is it worth it to yiu.?
What, dating?I mean, sure. I love getting to know people on an intimate level and dating is pretty much guaranteed to lead to that. I don't care too much if it works out or not. I mean, sure, I'd like it too, but I'd pick myself up fast and move on.
If I like them, they like me, if we work well together, if we make each other happy, if the flaws are manageable
2 what' about them makes you sure they are the real one!?
Th 'real' one? I don't worry about whether someone is 'the one'. If they meet the above conditions then that's good enough.
3. What do you over look specifically in sake for their better good?
There's nothing specific. As long as the good outweighs the bad then that's fine. There are certain things that would be automatic deal breakers, but I'd only know if they came up.
4. Is it worth it to yiu.?
What, dating?I mean, sure. I love getting to know people on an intimate level and dating is pretty much guaranteed to lead to that. I don't care too much if it works out or not. I mean, sure, I'd like it too, but I'd pick myself up fast and move on.
Posted by CruellaWhiteHa.... *sideways eyes ya*
Will he let me in his window ..it gets coooooooOOOOOOOOoooooooold on the other side let me in on your windooOOOOOOOOoooowww
Is this a pun off one of my older posts when I crawled in my exes window? Lol.
@bullshit (lol at your user name )
What is the "better way I think I'm approaching?"
It's open for debate, as all opinions are. : ) For me, I've spent a decade in codependency to a man whom could have been, "the one" but never should have begun in hindsight. I gave all, anger, passion, fears, insecurities, and the elusive, hatred but in vain.
My better way is to understand another by their actions alone. To not go off words or empty promises. To know another soul I must witness their own habits where all life is concerned and I fake it all info consideration. The way they treat their siblings, their own blood, to the way they behave at work and to their subordinates, to the waitress or valet, to their pet and right down to how their plants thrive in their home. These are tell tale signs. I am a guliable woman. Ive had to learn to not give my trust blindly, but only to the fee who have earned it. (May seem like a small feat but not for me)
I love how you used love and war to explain this .. In a way, the single most defying factor is how two humans respond to each other in crisis/war and how they adorn their love when all is blissful.
Are they not one in the same? If in war it's kill or be killed, and in love, it's sacrifice ourselves if it comes to it or risk our mate being harmed, is there any road too perilous to keep them safe? If it takes a war to save the, even.
We remember the good because it brings us pleasure. We forget the bad because of the association we have to it. It brings about an emotion We'd prefer to forget. At the end of the day,we are inclined to lean towards what brings us happiness, thus releasing serotonin, we want that rush. But I can be found in the darkest of places as well.
((I'm so off topic but I ranted) hopefully you can follow my crazy thoughts. Ha. It is Late and I need to sleep.
What is the "better way I think I'm approaching?"
It's open for debate, as all opinions are. : ) For me, I've spent a decade in codependency to a man whom could have been, "the one" but never should have begun in hindsight. I gave all, anger, passion, fears, insecurities, and the elusive, hatred but in vain.
My better way is to understand another by their actions alone. To not go off words or empty promises. To know another soul I must witness their own habits where all life is concerned and I fake it all info consideration. The way they treat their siblings, their own blood, to the way they behave at work and to their subordinates, to the waitress or valet, to their pet and right down to how their plants thrive in their home. These are tell tale signs. I am a guliable woman. Ive had to learn to not give my trust blindly, but only to the fee who have earned it. (May seem like a small feat but not for me)
I love how you used love and war to explain this .. In a way, the single most defying factor is how two humans respond to each other in crisis/war and how they adorn their love when all is blissful.
Are they not one in the same? If in war it's kill or be killed, and in love, it's sacrifice ourselves if it comes to it or risk our mate being harmed, is there any road too perilous to keep them safe? If it takes a war to save the, even.
We remember the good because it brings us pleasure. We forget the bad because of the association we have to it. It brings about an emotion We'd prefer to forget. At the end of the day,we are inclined to lean towards what brings us happiness, thus releasing serotonin, we want that rush. But I can be found in the darkest of places as well.
((I'm so off topic but I ranted) hopefully you can follow my crazy thoughts. Ha. It is Late and I need to sleep.
... I should proofread but I'm a sag. 🙂 so decipher at your own will.
1. What's makes a partner worthy to you,?
that he can COMMIT.
2 what' about them makes you sure they are the real one!?
connection. that you can feel he is your destiny.
3. What do you over look specifically in sake for their better good?
?? I don't understand the ques.
4. Is it worth it to yiu.?
which? being with someone you are happy with? yes.
that he can COMMIT.
2 what' about them makes you sure they are the real one!?
connection. that you can feel he is your destiny.
3. What do you over look specifically in sake for their better good?
?? I don't understand the ques.
4. Is it worth it to yiu.?
which? being with someone you are happy with? yes.
Posted by BullShitI read that as "ovulating."Posted by tizianiYou're absolutely correct on that actually, i should have been a bit more clearer on the timeframe. This would be during the initial phase of shock where one is scrambling to find out how to keep things from breaking apart. If they had remembered any of the bad with as much strength they remember the good, they would lose some of that steam to fight the impossible battle of having the other person hold on as much as they themselves are. I've experienced myself always remembering the good when I'm trying to keep shit together but really that's me overvaluing and "fairytaling" the good because i don't want to lose something that made me extremely happy. If that makes any sense on my part.Posted by BullShitIn what context?
I believe scientifically we are prone to remember the good more then the bad. So when one empathizes with the person they love who hurt them it's due to those memories. Hope is still alive and it will make you do things you've never done before, or have done countless times in a shameless manner. We're all guilty of this unfortunately.
From what I've seen and read we remember the good feeling in terms of being the focus of someone else's attention but when it comes to remembering them and their actions towards us we're 7 times more likely to remember negative feelings arising from a partner's actions than postive feelings.
We are prone to overvalue our contribution to relationships and undervalue other's contribution. In the context of social psychology at least.click to expand
Posted by LillyPetalIt can interchange seamlessly. : )Posted by BullShitI read that as "ovulating."Posted by tizianiYou're absolutely correct on that actually, i should have been a bit more clearer on the timeframe. This would be during the initial phase of shock where one is scrambling to find out how to keep things from breaking apart. If they had remembered any of the bad with as much strength they remember the good, they would lose some of that steam to fight the impossible battle of having the other person hold on as much as they themselves are. I've experienced myself always remembering the good when I'm trying to keep shit together but really that's me overvaluing and "fairytaling" the good because i don't want to lose something that made me extremely happy. If that makes any sense on my part.Posted by BullShitIn what context?
I believe scientifically we are prone to remember the good more then the bad. So when one empathizes with the person they love who hurt them it's due to those memories. Hope is still alive and it will make you do things you've never done before, or have done countless times in a shameless manner. We're all guilty of this unfortunately.
From what I've seen and read we remember the good feeling in terms of being the focus of someone else's attention but when it comes to remembering them and their actions towards us we're 7 times more likely to remember negative feelings arising from a partner's actions than postive feelings.
We are prone to overvalue our contribution to relationships and undervalue other's contribution. In the context of social psychology at least.click to expand
I mean.. Hormones can delude a mind as well am I right?
Posted by littlemegabytesWhat do you define as your, "shit" lol
1 & 2: He puts up with my shit 😆
3. I would look over some physical "flaws" that women notice, for example - maybe something such as a receding hairline, bad teeth, being sort of short, etc in virtue of his other positive traits. I wouldn't be able to sacrifice intelligence or a good sense of humor, since I have to be with this dude, in theory, for forever. Appearances fade.
4. It depends. Usually, no. Currently, I think I found a good one though,I am giving him the benefit of the doubt 🙂
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So let me ask. ...
1. What's makes a partner worthy to you,?
2 what' about them makes you sure they are the real one!?
3. What do you over look specifically in sake for their better good?
4. Is it worth it to yiu.?
Just curious.