Help please!!! Does this cancer guy like me—

we started talking in august. (my friend hooked us up) so until early November we had just been talking on the phone. we would be on the phone until like 4-5 in the morning and we would talk about everything and anything. we both told each other we had feelings for one another.

the day we met for the 1st time: the day we met he had someone drive him over to where i was at and once he got out of the car he was all smiles, he came over gave me a hug and we started walking together. the whole time he had his arm around me, gave me his jacket and told me i had pretty eyes. we were together a little more that day then he left gave me another hug and watched me walk back to the house smiling at me the whole time.

from that day things were different...his grandma died..after then we stopped talking like we used to so i got concerned and asked him what it was and if it was because i wasnt what he expected, he said no it wasnt that and he thought i was questioning the fact that HE wasnt what i expected. so basically, a misunderstanding.

i really dont know what it was but we stopped talking and didnt hear anything from him, nor from me and in february this year my cousin saw him and she told me he asked about me wanting to know how i was and why i had stopped talking to him, when all along i thought he stopped talking to ME. so a couple weekends later i saw him at this game i went too, he was smiling really hard, gave me a hug and said it's good to see you..he had to leave so he told me he would text me...time went by..he didnt.

so i was getting concerned and i texted him the next week and ask him what happened and he texted me saying sorry and his grandma's funeral was that day and he didnt feel like texting ( i checked...she really did die, so that means both of his grandma;s died) so i left him alone and gave him time to be with himself.

soooo more time went by and around 3rd week in march i hear some things he said. ( my mom knows his dad, they went to school together) so she tells me that his dad says that he talks about me alot, thinks im pretty, and he wants to get to know me better. another thing was that he is hesitant to ask me out be cause he doesnt know what he wants to do with his future and he may be going to the military.


the other day i just decided to be direct w. him and see what was up heres how the conversation went

me-hey hope your doing well u kno i like u n i dont want to waste your time or mine I wanted to see what was

so the conversation was

me-hey hope your doing well u kno i like u n i dont want to waste your time or mine I wanted to see what was up with us
him- hey i dnt think we can be serious right now because if im far away we cant do anything together
me- ok well you have my number.
him- yea its just i know other guys can be around and im not saying i dnt trust you its just anything can happen
me- i understand what your saying but if we were together i wouldnt do anything like that to you just because other guys are around doesnt mean anything
and no reply.......so im confused.

The day he saw you in person, was the day everything was different, and by different, it appears to be when he stopped contacting you. He would reply to you, just not initiate contact.


That is the sign on the wall.


It's not saying anything bad about you ... it's simply saying that he didn't feel any chemistry.




"i wasnt what he expected, he said no it wasnt that and he thought i was questioning the fact that HE wasnt what i expected."

^^^^^ you two barely know each other, and have only seen each other once physically ... and he already questions that you put words in his mouth to attempt to it his fault as to why there is no chemistry.

What you should do is walk away and wait for a man who is into you.

However, if you are dead set on being with him eventhough he is clearly signalling (which most women do) ... then Cancers are easily seduced with money.


Throw money around, pay for everything, pamper him with lavish gifts ... and he'll be sniffing all around you, telling you any/everything you want to hear.

We've seen each other more than once and its not that he didn't initiate contact with me at all because he did it was his grandmothers death that made him shut everything out......my question is why would he tell his parents about me if he wasn't interested at all.....I'm confused...

I left him alone for awhile and he came back..

How do you know he told anyone about you?


He didn't come back ... he told you he can't be serious, and you told him he has your number.


that isn't coming back ... that is blowing you off.

When he mentioned that other guys are around and anythign could happen, he wasn't syaing that he wants to be with you, you thought so and became confused.

He said that just after you told him he has your number, and that was his way of telling you he's not going to call.


Seriously ..... he doens't want you, grow some dignity and walk away

When people see him, he tries to be polite, with smiles .. and even to you when you saw him at the game. Then he never follows through ... and this is because he's doesn't want to continue with this.


the sign is written bold and bright on the wall ..... why do you refuse to acknowledge it's there?


.... because you want him to want you?

thanks..