I DONT KNOW HOW TO BE ALONE? PLEASE HELP?

Ive Just recently gotten out of a horrible break up with some one I love so much. We needed the Break & since i have been Taking care of me & finally loving myself again. We turned on each other over money and We lost all affection(in the past 3 months) He Had a GREAT day with me After a BAD BAD fight the night before, On top of everything else we Make music together and i feel like I lost my other Half. I cant even play our songs. And then he Left. RIght in front of me he said to "cook" for him He'll BRB and left. Such a Coward move I know.Its been 2 weeks He hasnt called and there is no number on Him right now. Everyone was shocked Weve been inseperable for 4 years When im busy im ok. I dont want to seek Any other Bed companions to take away the lonliness. (or tylenol Pms) They say time heals I know. I deserve a PHONE CALL my question is HOW do i Get past the Nighttime/Morning Time LONLINESS?? it makes me literally sick. That was cruel of him.

Oh dear. And Still...keep yourself busy. Seriously it distracts from intense feelings and you must do that. Put yourself on even ground, find a center.

That blows.

It's tough but keep yourself busy any which way you can. Surround yourself with people who make you laugh/smile whatever and even if you don't feel like it GO OUT and try and have some fun.

Posted by Morningmist12
Here's a joke to cheer you up : (Stolen from my friends who think they are clever on facebook)

After Monday and tuesday even the week goes W T F.

What? It's funny.

Haha my friend posted that last week!

I know the pain you are feeling inside. I understand the confusion. The sleepless nights.

You say that you know it takes time and are wondering how to pass that time... there is no secret to it. It sucks. PERIOD. Each day it will suck a little less. In the meantime, do what you have to.

Take care of yourself. Find ways to occupy time.

If you normally do fast easy meals, learn to cook. It'll take up time and it's better for you.

Start exercising. Again, it occupies you and it's good for you.

Go out with your friends. Even if you have to force yourself at first. Right now everything reminds you of him... go make new memories with friends.

While you may "deserve" an answer, you also have to accept that you may never get one.


It may not be that "feel good" answer you were hoping for, but it is the truth... at least it's been doing okay for me for the past few months.

Posted by Mr Nice

Posted by pigeonpie
Well, the OP was asking for advice 🙂
Exercise is better than punching walls maybe ?

Nah, that bloody hurts I tried that once.

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You can't punch the studs... it gets ugly.


As for the exercise advice, no it isn't for everyone. Do what works for you. Exercise does release endorphins though which have been proven to elevate your mood.

Everything said so far and a really really good therapist! Seriously...........they can show us things that are right in front of us yet we so conveniently choose not to see. It's amazing how the human brain functions to protect us from ourselves!

Posted by LibraSid
I know the pain you are feeling inside. I understand the confusion. The sleepless nights.

You say that you know it takes time and are wondering how to pass that time... there is no secret to it. It sucks. PERIOD. Each day it will suck a little less. In the meantime, do what you have to.

Take care of yourself. Find ways to occupy time.

If you normally do fast easy meals, learn to cook. It'll take up time and it's better for you.

Start exercising. Again, it occupies you and it's good for you.

Go out with your friends. Even if you have to force yourself at first. Right now everything reminds you of him... go make new memories with friends.

While you may "deserve" an answer, you also have to accept that you may never get one.


It may not be that "feel good" answer you were hoping for, but it is the truth... at least it's been doing okay for me for the past few months.

Agreed!


I can't say each day feels better because when I lost my first love each day seemed to get worse. I stayed in bed and didn't eat much either. First things first: let it all out. Cry. Crying helps. Don't think too much but write it all down instead every time your mind fills up. Keep a notebook on the table with a pen or pencil ready and just start off with anything. Writing helped me so I'm hoping it helps you too. It feels like it's on the paper instead of in you. And then talk to good friends, bond with them. Have dinner out with people who make you happy. Tell yourself that it's new but maybe I can get back into the single life for a while and flirt with all the good looking dudes. Go to the gym and let out all those emotions on a excersising. Just focus on yourself. And if he does cross your mind, don't fight it, just let it run around and get lost in deep thoughts for some time. Usually people say that you should try to avoid thinking about it, but I think that just adds a whole other pressure on yourself. You're only human and as human there's allot of things that you'll think about. You might blame yourself even, but then ask yourself questions like: how the heck is it my fault? And so what if I feel like I made him leave! Screw him! He wasn't perfect either. And it's okay to remember good moments too. Just let it flow and let yourself feel what ever it is you feel.

Oh and the money problems.... hm... that's tough. My mommy still suports me in that case so I wish I knew what to say.
What do you do now? Maybe you can try ... i don't know, a yard sale for extra cash...? And try to save more then spend. I don't know really...
You said you two made music together? Are you a musician? Are you guys in debt? House or apartment? Isn't there a finance section on this site? It would be easier if you shared that part

awwww honey, that is terrible. Having a broken heart is such a disappointing cliche. It happens to everyone at some point in their life.

Try to breathe. Try to take it moment to moment. Drink lots of water.