In Love With An Aquarius Man, help?

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rochelle2008
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My boyfriend of 5 years on and off broke off our relationship again?he's an Aquarius, which is a very difficult sign to deal with when it comes to being in a relationship. We are very much compatible and we love each other very much, so I thought. We break up to make up it seems every single year because he gets scared and wants to run away and then realizes what we share is great and then comes back? this time it was very hard for me, it caught me off guard totally and he did what he always does, leave. We went from him telling me to stop working and go back to school and that he would take care of everything to it's over and I need time! All the while telling me he loves so much and every time we see each other now, he expresses how much he loves me and thinks of me on the daily?.. he said he had to leave me because he didn't feel he was the man he needed to be in the relationship?.. he says he loves everything about me and we both have never loved another the way we love each other?.. It's only been 3 months, it hurts every time I talk to him, every time I see him?. he acts as if all is good and I can't handle that? not to mention every time we break up he ends up sleeping with someone?. he's not emotional at all and anyone that knows an Aquarius probaly share that same thought?. I can't understand how he claims to be working on himself to better himself but can still sleep around? I'm being told that it's very much possible and that I shouldn't worry about that?. How can he love me so much but always just so willing to give up on us? If he really loves me can he just up and walk away with no regrets? It was a 5year relationship that we were very much into each other, whenever he got stressed or overwhelmed, he self distruct and ran away! Every time. I always want to reach out, text him, call him, tell him to come get the rest of his stuff, knowing I don't want that! He ignores my text when I say that or if i'm getting emotional, he'll ignore me totally. How do I deal with this? Do I let go? If so, how?

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Well sweetheart let me say that my first love was an Aquarius. They are wonderful!!

First of all ... if he slept with another woman you shouldn't have taken him back.

Second of all if he says he loves you he does!! They NEVER forget there first love. 5 years is a long time to keep him. They are usually the last to commit to a relationship. I mean like late late 20's even into the 30's. Believe me that he does think about you all the time. Mine came back several times until the last time ... I knew it was over.

They want their freedom. You will never forget him girl ... but you MUST move on. It took me 2 years to get over Justin. Now I don't mean move on as in go fall in love with the next guy you meet, but keep yourself busy. You have a life outside of him ... RIGHT? Of course you do. You have goals and dreams; so concentrait on those. Guys should fit into your life. By that I mean you live your life and whatever happens happens. God determins that. God knows whats best and even though I don't understand why we didin't last ... I look back now and it shows. You will see it one day.

Don't get me wrong it hurts like hell and you will never completly get over him. He will always be in your heart. But it will get better. He never wanted to hurt you ... but as you can see his freedom is more important right now. They usually come back, but that doesn't mean your gonna want him back right? It could be years from now ... who knows. You just live your life and hang in there. If you have anymore questions just email me. I have been there ... I honestly feel your pain. It will get better. Have faith and pray.

Southernbeauty
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rochelle2008
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Thank you SOUTHERNBEAUTY,


So exactly when did you know it was over completely with your ex Aquarius? He didn't cheat on me, it was that every time we broke up he ended up making new female friends and sleeping with them immediately! We would get back together and then he would cut them off completely. I don't get it, I would hate to think that the connection we had meant nothing and we will never have anything.... how do i know?
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I don't think we ever really know ...

No matter what men will be men and that means SEX is always on his mind, however, if he really loved you or had intentions of getting back with you then he shouldn't have slept with them.

The way I look at it is sex is something that you share with your husband/wife. That is the way God intended it. Sex outside of marriage just leads to problems.

When did I know it was over ... I always hoped he would come back. I cried myself to sleep everynight for about a year. He was my world. Now looking back I see that we were just silly little kids in puppy love. Was it real ... of course it was ... but love like that doesn't last. I havent seen him in 2 years and I have no idea what it would be like. Sometimes people can break up and then years later get back together and there still be that fire. Depending on how old he is ... he may need time to mature. Even you as well. But if thats the case, and you want to wait on him, what ever you do keep living your life. It will come to you when you least expect it. Love has it's own funny way of working. My advice a couple of years ago would be to play hard to get ... but lets be reasonable and mature here. If you really love him ... TIME is what he needs. He will commit when he is good and ready.

But that doesn't mean wait around the house and eating jumk food and watching chick flicks. This is what I did and it made me feel so much better.

1) Join a gym ... get in shape!
2) Change your hair, clothes, ect.
3) Work on your goals and reach them.
4) Do things to make you feel good. Nails, wax, poems, spa's, ect.

When you start taking care of yourself you will feel alive and confident. Go out with your girl friends ... let other guys flirt with you and buy you drinks (if your 21).

Don't let him control you and your happiness. You are a women so you already have power over him. And like they say ... there is always something better out there. If you wait for him (this is hard I know) God will provide. It will hit you like a book on the head. Stay in there girl.

Oh and one more thing. Aquarius men think everyone is there friend. So he is going to wanna remain friends. If that means not talking to you for 10 years and then running home and acting like old times ... he will do this. So try not to get that confused with wanting to be with you. Mine did this and led me on for the last couple of monthes in our relationship. Beware of this, but be nice.
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rochelle2008
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I never considered myself to be desperate at all.... I felt like how could I be upset about what he did when were not together.... It would be months we would be broken up for and then we would always get back together unintentially..... he never asked to come back and i never asked him to, it was just that every time we came back around one another we ended up back in the relationship.... I would consider myself in love, not desperate but now I do think he's somewhat of a loser and I never felt this way about him in the past and I should have.....
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rochelle2008
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Thank you for your response and Your absolutely right, I've decided to let it go completely, no phone calls, no text messages, no visits which is something I've never ever done with him, curious to know how he's going to feel about that but knowing that AQUA he may be happy I'm finally letting go..... it seems as he doesn't get it though, he text me yesterday asking why am I ignoring his calls as if he has no clue how he's hurting me over and over again, it's like he doesn't really care.... I can't be apart of that anymore and I do realize I have to different to get a different result...