my GF has a stalker issue

Ok so my GF about to be 5 months has a stalker probably. She was with him for a year and a half and he was just so horrible to her making her feel like if she didn't do the things he asked then she didn't love him. It was in middle school so yeah. But now that I've gotten her emotional wall down somewhat she's starting to build it up again cause he keeps sending her notes calling her saying she hurt him and that he loves her and all that bull.

I've starting walking with her to get her lunch so I can pull her close to me when he walks by so he can get a clear picture she wants him to go away.

My question is how can I help her be able to move on so we can be closer and move our relationship farther. I know it'll take a while but im willing to do anything for her if it means her forgetting those horrid memories.

The guy also said he was going to kill my GF and her best friend last year before I was dating her And he meant it.

wow ok so they were going out from middle school? so are you high school then? well just wondering because it makes a differance in how long ago it was they were together. anyway I think 2 things. the first is that he sees now that she's gone he sees how wonderful your gf is and clearly wants her back. body language and actions may seem like the way to show someone your not intrested in them but somepeople are so blinded by likeing someone they don't see it and get confused. so what she needs to do is tell him upfront how she feels to make sure he knows. then my seconed thought is if it's been a while since they were together he sounds a bit obsesive and may seem like he has some mental problems but I don't think so, he just wants her to know how he feels and he's trying to win her back that's all. if she tells him how she feels and he still doesn't stop maybe talk to you school and let them know what's going on and you can get a no contact contract kinda like a restraining order....him buging your gf is not good for YOUR relationship. so to answer the last thing what you should do. be there for her let her know you care. listen when she telling you things and offer her advice but don't do anything on you own to solve this.... it's both your problems but it's up to her to fix with you help. just be there and give her what she needs...... comfort, advice, opinions and stuff like that.

anyway, I hope it turns out good🙂
-bri

There's something you need to know about Aries .. they usually don't fully end a relationship, meaning, they always leave the possibility open to their exes that some day there might be a possibility. Also, they enjoy having people fight over them .. the girls, mainly, feel adored and wanted when two guys are battling over who gets her love.

My point in telling you this, is that since she's still young and hasn't really grown her horns yet .. it's possible that this boy has been led to believe that she still has eyes for him, irrespective of what she has led you to believe.

This is just the nature of the beast. With maturity, it's outgrown somewhat, but, not completely .. even in adulthood, they will lead a perspective employer to believe that they were/are in demand of another, they will lead friends to believe that they are the bestest of best friends of another in hopes of this friend WANTing them to be the best friend. They will lead a potential partner to believe that several others are in love with them, with intentions of making the new one want to be possessive of her.

Pretentious by nature .. and though, I'm not faulting them, for they are who they are .. I only tell you this so that you contemplate that it's possible this boy is following her because she is leading him on, even if it appears to be innocent.

An Aries girl, especially a young one, will tell her boyfriend things like ... He hit on me, or, He wants me.

Most of the time, it's not true .. this is an attempt to get you to want to battle over her affection and attention.

"I've starting walking with her to get her lunch so I can pull her close to me when he walks by so he can get a clear picture she wants him to go away."


Anyway, I just really want you to think on this because IF this boy really meant to kill her .. he would have.

Yet, you are led to believe .. "The guy also said he was going to kill my GF and her best friend last year before I was dating her And he meant it."


If a person says they are going to kill themselves, and they don't, then wanting to die is NOT the truth .. for if it was, they would be dead.

"It was in middle school so yeah"

"I've starting walking with her to get her lunch"

Dumb & dumber strikes again .....

"I would only question her story if she's been known to make up stuff in the past."


Where in my story did you come to the conclusion she is or ever was known for making up stuff.

"Where in my story did you come to the conclusion she is or ever was known for making up stuff."

"The guy also said he was going to kill my GF and her best friend last year before I was dating her And he meant it."


theskaboss .. there's a high probability that this was made up by the person who told you, on account of .. she's not dead, and if he meant to kill her, she wouldn't be your girlfriend because she would be dead.

my GFs friend told me that if the stalker did anything like he did last year he would have a broke neck. Oh and also the stalker went to an alternative school