need help please

Hi everyone,I am going through a very difficult situation.I am deeply in love with a Pisces man,he is the one who approached me first,did a sweets talks with me,asking for my pictures,calling me a special person,invited me on a date and then hold my hands,want to stay with you forever and when, I express my feelings to him he rejected me by saying he is committed to his mother, and when I asked him have you ever liked me or loved me, he replied I never said you anything like this, which is right he never said that to me but then why all that special person,more than a friend and send me your picture I want to see you daily talks for. The problem here is not that he rejected me,but the problem is he still want to be in touch with me,I blocked him but he didn't.Its been a two months and I am still in a emotional trauma which is effecting my health and my relation with my family,he never ever even like me this thing is killing me because he is the one who approached me,I don't even know him.I just want to ask all of you,Is it me who misread or misjudge his chats or talks and think that he likes me?Or he was really playing with me?

Hi everyone,I am going through a very difficult situation.I am deeply in love with a Pisces man,he is the one who approached me first,did a sweets talks with me,asking for my pictures,calling me a special person,invited me on a date and then hold my hands,want to stay with you forever and when, I express my feelings to him he rejected me by saying he is committed to his mother, and when I asked him have you ever liked me or loved me, he replied I never said you anything like this, which is right he never said that to me but then why all that special person,more than a friend and send me your picture I want to see you daily talks for. The problem here is not that he rejected me,but the problem is he still want to be in touch with me,I blocked him but he didn't. Its been a two months and I am still in a emotional trauma which is effecting my health and my relation with my family,he never ever even like me this thing is killing me because he is the one who approached me,I don't even know him.I just want to ask all of you,Is it me who misread or misjudge his chats or talks and think that he likes me?Or he was really playing with me?

Thankyou dear jynja.Your reply mean alot.I am trying my best._—

Trust me the only help you need is to get away from the guy. Pisces men are liars cheaters manipulators with the backbone of a marshmallow. The internet is full of stories of woman that have been duped by these douchenozzles. Dont waste another tear. Take your rose colored glasses off and realize you were duped and manipulated.

Yes, some can be that awful... But I know ONE that is truly not like that.

Thank you, your tale is decipherable now.

Your issue has nothing to do with this guy ... the other person in this duo isn't causing you to believe feelings = love.

you do that to yourself

The only thing that will emotionally save you with this heartache and all the ones you have in your life, will be only one thing.

To have feelings for a person does NOT automatically equate to love.

Your feelings for love for this (high school boy) is solely in you, and he has no responsibility in reciprocating feelings of love.

From what you wrote, it sounds to me as though he has feelings of like. But, he was unable to like you because that wasn't enough for you. It had to be love or nothing.

So, this whole relationship was ruined because you had unrealistic expectations on him. There is nothing you can do and crying over spilled milk will only encourage your madness to continue ... so, the only recourse a person has is to learn so that you don't inflict your same bullshit onto the next person. As will all people.

* with


As with all people.

Posted by 14leo

.... and when, I express my feelings to him he rejected me by saying he is committed to his mother, and when I asked him have you ever liked me or loved me, he replied I never said you anything like this ....

If you are causing a response in a male in where he is compelled to think about his mother, in turn making him defensive about his love for his mother ... then that means you must have laid a pretty deep guilt-trip on him or some kind of inappropriate talk that was making the insinuation that your love would take the place of his mother.

The sooner you realize how fucked up that is in you, the quicker you will be free from experiencing this disgusting shit.

every woman is allowed to fall for "sweet talks" once in a life time. after you made this mistake once, you are allowed to be a wise woman.

Forget him. Pisces and Leo are quinqunx after all and not soooo compatible. They'd live besides each other if married. I know cause my Pisces brother is married to a Libra (also quinqunx). They are more roommates than a couple. Also every now and then they think about divorce.


you need to find the farm where you can be the queen bee. he is not your farm.


Of course he won't let you simply go. In his mind architecture everything is at its right place.


But natural women know that you can't count on the male mind architecture. In matters of heart, health and family women have still the leading role. I'm talking about "intuition and knowledge" and not "wearing the pants".

Posted by 14leo
Thankyou dear jynja.Your reply mean alot.I am trying my best._—

do you know how to get rid of him? or do you need advice from people here?

Posted by P-Angel

Posted by 14leo

.... and when, I express my feelings to him he rejected me by saying he is committed to his mother, and when I asked him have you ever liked me or loved me, he replied I never said you anything like this ....

If you are causing a response in a male in where he is compelled to think about his mother, in turn making him defensive about his love for his mother ... then that means you must have laid a pretty deep guilt-trip on him or some kind of inappropriate talk that was making the insinuation that your love would take the place of his mother.

The sooner you realize how fucked up that is in you, the quicker you will be free from experiencing this disgusting shit.

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You just said SHE is responsible for her own

feelings... it follows that this guy is also

responsible for his, as well as his "commitment"

to Mother.


jeeez

Posted by DwellingOnMove
every woman is allowed to fall for "sweet talks" once in a life time. after you made this mistake once, you are allowed to be a wise woman.

Forget him. Pisces and Leo are quinqunx after all and not soooo compatible. They'd live besides each other if married. I know cause my Pisces brother is married to a Libra (also quinqunx). They are more roommates than a couple. Also every now and then they think about divorce.
you need to find the farm where you can be the queen bee. he is not your farm.
Of course he won't let you simply go. In his mind architecture everything is at its right place.
But natural women know that you can't count on the male mind architecture. In matters of heart, health and family women have still the leading role. I'm talking about "intuition and knowledge" and not "wearing the pants".

lol @ farm and queen bee. *smh* that's our leo aunty with pisces husband. And they are both very very RELIGIOUS. this gal doesn't sound like the religious/christian type with the pisces guy.

and what would you call this gal, who is married to a pisces guy happily— she's not queen bee on a farm. Kate Beckinsale w/ her pisces husband:


maybe you should get yourself a man before you start telling people they can't be with eachother, you'd be a HAPPIER woman.

Jeeeesssszze louissseeee. The single women around here who tell other women to NOT date or be with someone. *smh*

Posted by 14leo
Hi everyone,I am going through a very difficult situation.I am deeply in love with a Pisces man,he is the one who approached me first,did a sweets talks with me,asking for my pictures,calling me a special person,invited me on a date and then hold my hands,want to stay with you forever and when, I express my feelings to him he rejected me by saying he is committed to his mother, and when I asked him have you ever liked me or loved me, he replied I never said you anything like this, which is right he never said that to me but then why all that special person,more than a friend and send me your picture I want to see you daily talks for. The problem here is not that he rejected me,but the problem is he still want to be in touch with me,I blocked him but he didn't. Its been a two months and I am still in a emotional trauma which is effecting my health and my relation with my family,he never ever even like me this thing is killing me because he is the one who approached me,I don't even know him.I just want to ask all of you,Is it me who misread or misjudge his chats or talks and think that he likes me?Or he was really playing with me?

get your crown, wipe your tears. and RESPECT that he loves his momma. Don't try to break that apart, just love his momma too, if you love him. Because his momma is part of his life.

ironically, our leo aunty had this problem. the mother didn't trust her. but in the end, her loyalty and love proved strong. and she realized that leo aunty is a good wife to her son.

Loving your momma and forsaking all

others for your momma are two entirely

different things, though... don't you

think?

But dear friends,my question here is if he is committed To his mother, that she is the one who choose a girl for him.

Then why he did all that,I even asked him and again he run away without a word.

Parents are very very important and I respect his commitment towards his mother but that commitment allow him to do sweets talk,holdings hands but no commitment to girl.

Wow now it's true every sign is a douche..And a momma's boy are hard to keep interested and will always have to compete for their son..Move on, and just change your number

Posted by 14leo
But dear friends,my question here is if he is committed To his mother, that she is the one who choose a girl for him.

Then why he did all that,I even asked him and again he run away without a word.

Parents are very very important and I respect his commitment towards his mother but that commitment allow him to do sweets talk,holdings hands but no commitment to girl.

every woman is allowed to fall for "sweet talks" once in a life time. after you made this mistake once, you are allowed to be a wise woman.

Forget him. Pisces and Leo are quinqunx after all and not soooo compatible. They'd live besides each other if married. I know cause my Pisces brother is married to a Libra (also quinqunx). They are more roommates than a couple. Also every now and then they think about divorce.


you need to find the farm where you can be the queen bee. he is not your farm.


Of course he won't let you simply go. In his mind architecture everything is at its right place.


But natural women know that you can't count on the male mind architecture. In matters of heart, health and family women have still the leading role. I'm talking about "intuition and knowledge" and not "wearing the pants".

Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
... a momma's boy ... have to compete for their son..Move on, and just change your number

^^^ this

Posted by 14leo
But dear friends,my question here is if he is committed To his mother, that she is the one who choose a girl for him.

Then why he did all that,I even asked him and again he run away without a word.

Parents are very very important and I respect his commitment towards his mother but that commitment allow him to do sweets talk,holdings hands but no commitment to girl.

well then, that's WEAK.


i love a man who loves his mother, but if the woman he loves becomes a backburner....

fucking WEAK.

also,

you have to consider, that he's not ready to make a marriage/commitment because he probably doesn't have a careeer in line to be supportive in anyway.

usually men who feel confident enough to pursue a woman or allow a woman in their lives are already career-oriented and have whatever it takes to keep a woman.

there's some things that might he might be running from.


a comment below made by P. is correct, where if you are insinuating that you're gonna replace his mother, by YOU being the center of his universe, it will compell a man that you aren't ready either.

so, OP, you are NOT compatible with any man at this point, especially if he has a mother he's close to.

*some things he might be running from, from his intuition telling him that you're wrong for him.


so weiiirrrd that the women who commented against this guy are _____ (you guessed it!!)


talk about being hateful towards mothers and taking it to the extreme.

Dear friends,you all right and I am not replacing his mother because I was the one who said him that I am a Leo and Leo and Pisces is not a good match and then he replied it's wrong because his mother is Leo and he and her relationship rocks..

Anyway he is not a good person,he is using his mother as a rejection excuse I guess else I don't know Thank you Alot my all dear friends.

Posted by 14leo
... his mother is Leo and he and her relationship rocks...

Does their relationship rock? Or is he living well besides her? like cooperating?

you could google about quinqunx.

His mother isn't the problem here. On a Virgo thread, the girl is jealous of the dude's dogs ... so the person or thing that the guy loves isn't what put your head in a tailspin over.

What happened here is that a guy liked you, and tried to develop a relation with you ... and you pushed him into love.

this will haunt you for the rest of your life if you don't a fucking grip. Look around at dxp, at all the insufferably desperate GROWN women in here who are whining about this very thing. And it's because they never learned, and so put unrealistic expectations on a dude, and then get burned because of it.

Same will happen to you. You'll be a 35 year old whinny bitch who never really was able to keep a man.

the sooner you stop putting expectations on him, or any guy ... the sooner you will be free from this kind of disgusting experience.

You say " a date . Have you only gone out on one date with him? I think you misread his actions as actions of undying love. I think you read into it and didn't see the other signs. Perhaps you expressed your feelings too soon?

Anyways, he did some major backpeddling when you expressed yourself and I think to save yourself any more heartache, you shouldn't respond to him at all.

Besides.... a grown man that committed to his mother? Red flag, unless she's got a chronic illness, and he's all she has.

Although situations like these suck & are unfortunate, I'm not so sure that the problem is really him or 'men' who end up leaving women in these situations.

Your ego and pride shouldn't be doing the 'dating' for you. It's not his fault that you allowed your very emotion, action and/or reaction to be tied to his every word or action. You're not hurt b/c he's really a bad guy or lead you on. You're hurt b/c your ego, pride & baggage (all things he never created or had anything to do with) control you...

I'm not saying that it's not supposed to suck when someone you really like rejects you. Of course it sucks. But at some point, you've gotta say, well wait a minute...is it that he's really a bad guy worthy of feeling oh so betrayed by, OR is the problem that I gave him an impossible & unfair task which was to be responsible for my emotions, before he even had the time to truly prove himself?

If this guy has you so emotionally distraught off of pure rejection alone, then perhaps you're not really ready to date. You can't be the type of gal who goes about finding love using wishful thinking & fairytale land as her main tools.

He may not have told you what it was before, but now he has. So listen. And please do yourself the honors of politely (although painfully) stepping away & only giving your feelings to those who gratefully & gladly want you. You harping, overanalyzing what's not meant to be understood & making him responsible for your devastation (despite the fact that he, like everyone else has the right to at any moment decide that you're not the one) will just magnify the level of rejection you feel.

Politely, pick your head up, give yourself the permission to move on, make the mental and emotional decision to move on & keep it moving. That process is actually a lot less stressful than making the CHOICE to stay in a rejective state with someone.

Yes my dear krysrenee7 you are right..its been 2 month,I learn to live without thinking about him all day.

But I shared my feelings with him after 8 months when I was Sured enough that I like him and through his actions that he liked me too.But commitment with mother,I don't get it(commitment with your mother allow you to do a sweets talks,talking to a girl all day,asking her for pictures as you want to see her daily but if she express her feelings then all of a sudden the commitment with your mom appear in your head )

The main problem is he is not letting me go after all this.I ask him to block me or delete my number but no he wants to remain as we are right now(may be as a freind)

I respect his honesty,but he should not have started all this and always protect his commitment.

Presently,we don't talk much but he always share his trip details and his trip pictures with me(I never even ask for).

Now I am afraid of my feelings and I have decided to not fall in love, and will marry someone my parents decided for me.

The wound he gave me or i gave myself can't be heal.

Let me get this straight. His excuse was he was committed to his mother? BS

The travesty here isn't what he said .... it's that she is so desperate (like 99% of females are), that she thinks he's a prize to win.