No Contact Birthday Message??

My bf and I were inseprable for a little over a year and a half up until 3 days ago. He made a huge deal out of my birthday. Partied it up with me and my friends took me out to dinner the next day bought me a nice present. The works! Lately things have been strange and he got mad at me for something really stupid. IDK whats going on but it's been weird lately. I know he's been under a lot of stress but who knows. He told me he didn't want to be with me anymore because of something very silly so I didn't really take the fight serious. I called him a couple times and got the same grumpy rude response. So I figure fine I tried, whatever. I guess I have to back off and enforce the no contact rule. The problem is his birthday is in 3 days. I feel really bad just ignoring his birthday after the big fuss he made over me on my birthday. Yet he's done everything to push me away. He's even changed his phone number. (kinda strange because I wasn't trying to call him at all). Do I send a card or an email? Or just stick to the no contact and let him come around if/when he cools off if i'm available?

Let me make clear that I'm not trying to invoke a reaction or remind him that I exsist.

My birthday was back in july. Yah I know that was a while back but it's nice that we make a big stink about each others birthday. I've told him before that he usually reacts emotionally to situations and does things when he's upset that he might not have done under calmer conditions. He's never violent but changing his phone number? Come on!! It's really not that serious.

Yah he's being childish and acting like a 5 year old brat. Yah he's probubly someone I don't need to be with anyway. But my feelings for him and for being excited about his birthday hasn't vanished with his old phone #.

He's been acting like he doesn't care if I come or go lately and I need to back off to either move on and find someone new or make him remember what life is like with out me. If he's happier with me gone then by all means go. If not, recognize I can move, you will lose me so don't take my love for granted.

Sending a card is too much work for someone acting like an ass. I was thinking maybe just a quick email wouldn't hurt. Or would it?

Well I mean like I wasn't blowing up his phone like a psycho. but i called the next day to check on him and saw that he had changed his number.

He changes phone numbers like he changes his underwear. He's done it before about a year ago. Funny thing was last time he did it was after an arguement that happend earlier in the day. I had no clue until I got a text from a strange number later that day. Atleast before he made an attempt at reconciling.

Will be 31 on wednesday

Yah your telling me?? Major brat!! And thats why I have to pull back because all this reassuring ive been doing has him acting meaner and meaner. Like he thinks i'm going to be around no matter how stupid and childish he acts.

It just sucks that we have to be in a fight during his birthday. It's like having Christmas without your family around. 😢

Yeah u and me both!!

Ok guys last call.. Tomorrow is D day or actually I should say B day lol. Its been 5 days since our fight and no contact. The withdrawl has faded and i'm just getting used to not talking to him 20 times a day or seeing him everyday.

I'm leaning towards not sending the birthday email. I thought of sending him a joke fb message from a fake account we created a long while back to try the system out before deciding to join. I thought it would be funny because the fake account holder is a picture of this big muscular guy. And was thinking of saying something like Happy Birthday STUD MUFFIN. He knows the account is fake and the guy on the pic is not real. And he def would know its me sending the message. Good Idea? Bad Idea?

I think I have come to the realization that this guy is way to immature to hold a relationship and if we ever have contact again I won't take him so serious. I do miss his friendship. I think I was more wrapped up in the time and effort and energy i've vested into this relationship more than anything else. My heart can't take being with a guy that will pull the rug from under me at any time for the silliest of reasons.

Any last suggestions?

Yah i'm starting to think against it also. But the stud part is not me complimenting him...it's as if the big buff guy in the fake fb account is hitting on him. Thats the whole humor it in. But it may go over his head as he would know its really me behind the pic.

knowing him hes prob starting to feel like crap by now since he reacted the way he did bec he was pissed. Then after a few days of him trying to convince himself that it's better that we break up anyway since he's got a lot of bs to deal with right now. Then he starts to miss me and the little baby boy brain that he has will want his "mommy" back. I have no ways of contacting him anyway since he's changed his number, blocked me from his fb account and I also have a sneaking suspicion that he's spammed my email address. How ironic the psycho is trying to treat me like i'm the psycho.

I guess the fact that it's his birthday is a blessing in disguise and an opportunity to make him feel more like shit for acting like such and idiot.

Besides I have already made exciting weekend plans and don't want him around to ruin them.

We'll he seems to think I lied to him because I went out to eat with my friend and her mom called and wanted us to come pick her up from the Casino since her friends wanted to stay later than expected. So he calls me wondering why I haven't left the restaurant yet and I tell him i'm at the casino picking up her mom. He gets all mad saying thats a lie and I'm going because I wanted to go.

It really wasn't a lie and I got irritated because I was thinking my goodness what a controlling psycho why are we even having this argument right now. So I called him when I left and he's still being a baby.

Next day I was trying to break the ice again and hes still furiouse. He's saying now that i'm not working I have too much time on my hands and am all over the place and he wont acccpet it. And it's probubly better we break up because we see things differently him and I. I ended up letting him know through text messages that I feel like he's been acting insanley insecure and jealous and he needs to quit because its all in his head. Also I told him that it's weird that he's giving me these mixed signals like he's psycho about something stupid and then he acts as if he doesn't care if I come or go.

Before that any dumb little arguement we got into he would act like too bad take it or leave it. But it would confuse me since he would get mad if I was to stay out late or spend to much time with my friends.

The guy is insanely jelouse of anything anyone male or female that occupies my attention then he wants to push me away and act like he doesn't want to be with me. I think he wants me to put up a fight or something and show up at his door step or something stupid like that.

I'm sorry I have no problem replaceing him and I have no energy to try to read into his actions anymore. I'm taking it as face value and it is what it is. You want me gone then so be it.

Agreed!! Oh Guess who signed back onto his yahoo messenger.. Does he think I'm going to send him a happy brithday IM?? His birthday is in 1 hr and 40 minutes and my yahoo messenger is staying signed off.

We both have blackberries so it's on his phone. I'm sure he's waiting for me to say something. Well he can keep on waiting!!

Your right he's an idiot!! This is sooo his loss and my gain!!

I wasn't hangin out with any of my old guy freinds. That wasn't the problem. He was tripping because I was with my girlfriend and went to go pick up her mom from the casino without me calling to check in before I went. Although I did pick up when he called me and I did let him know were I was and I got my head bit off. I have never known him to call me and check in everytime he changes locations.

Actually he's an aqua because his real bday is 2-12 so hes an aqua but when he came to this country as a kid they put 2-24 on his pass port for whatever reason. It's kinda weird bec he doesnt aknowledge 2 12 as his bday but whatev.

No i didn't call him or message him but he messaged me at like 9 pm letting me know whatever happend between us that he still plans to pay me the money he owed me which really wasnt even worth mentioning bec it was like 200 bucks and hes spent wayyy more on me. It was a total excuse.

I replied and said no worries not a big deal. And he kept going on and on about it. it was a total excuse to message me. I did end up sayin happy bday btw. then i think cuz i wasnt trying to see him he started makeing up shit about old trashy ex girlfirends that hes going to see and how hes on his way to the strip bar.

I just kept replying with have fun and enjoy.

then i said ur games never end thanks for reminding me that losing u wasn't such a bad thing. 🙂