Obsessive Aquarian in love with a Moody Gemini

Hey, I'm new here. I came in here in search of some answers on how to deal with my Gemini lover and soul mate I believe. We met five years ago. I started truck driving school and he was an instructor. The attraction was instant magic which turned sexual very quickly then to love pretty quick as well. It's one of those once in a lifetime deals. In time, I found out he was living with someone which he'd kept from me, later saying he was afraid to lose me and he didn't know exactly what he wanted at the time. I kept seeing him for over a year behind her back and then finally had enough of his promises to leave, etc. It ended pretty bad as I made sure she found out about me...yeah, spiteful I know...I was so crushed and lashed out. She forgave him and they eventually married. A couple of years later he got hurt and she began to treat him very poorly and him and his friend told me she never got over what happened with me...kept throwing it up. He left her. About a year later, we reconnected and it felt like serendipity the way it happened. We spent a few days talking and then met in person, both afraid of how we'd feel. The magical feelings and love and lust was as powerful as it was in the past...felt even more so for me because I'd loved him all these years and hadn't been with anyone since him...he is the only man to touch me in the past five years. He has said that he wants to be with me, but he doesn't want the past to ruin our future, so we have some things to work through. He says he loves me and I believe it when he says it. I see it when he looks at me. He gave me some songs to listen to to express how he feels and what he's going through. Very enlightening. He is also still dealing with his health, he's had back surgery and needs knee surgery and is financially strapped depending on workman's comp, which is, of course, giving him the run-a-round.

We have only seen one another that one time as we just reconnected a few months ago and live in separate cities and I drive a truck. He was calling and texting every day a few times a day at first, then it just stopped. He says he's twisted up about his health and his financial situation and has asked me to wait for him to get his life in order, but he reassures me we will eventually be together. He will send me cute memes that say things like, "maybe not tonight, maybe not tomorrow, maybe not next week, but things will be okay one day." I get a text maybe every three our four days asking how I'm doing, etc. Then nothing for three or four more days. He ignores my texts and my expressions of love and I'm thoroughly confused. I'm also obsessive and impatient...but I don't want to be. I just love him so much and have loved him a long time...he's the only one for me.

So, I give him his space and do my best not to contact him unless he contacts me,.but now and then I have enough and have to initiate contact. I know I need to stop this and let him be. What do I do besides trust what he's saying and be patient? Because of the past history, I do have some trust issues where he's concerned. But I know the man he is inside. Ugh...sorry so long, please Gems or anyone please help me understand this man.

Posted by MysticalSoul
Aquarius' and Geminis are made for eachother, in my opinion.

Aquas are quirky, unique, and interesting.

Gems are social, witty, and exciting.

You probably feel like you two have a lot in common. Don't blame you.

Good luck with him. Take care xox

not for me.

happy with mine.

maybe for some aquas.

some geminis are happy with other 11 signs.

if you're here asking, he's probably not into you.

and yup he sounds like he lost interest.

Posted by MysticalSoul
This is such a cute story..

Hate to break it to you though, maybe he has lost interest.



When someone is into you they go out of their way to check up on you because they care enough to want to hear from you. When they aren't, they don't... because they feel that you're not that important to them.

When he gives you excuses as to why he doesn't want to speak to you or even see you that's just another way of him saying that he really doesn't want to.



Just imagine the things he's doing when you don't speak to him for days... he's probably speaking to other women. Geminis are known to be players..

Logically though I think he has a lot on his plate right now. Maybe he just needs space? He said it himself, he needs to get his life in order. What i've noticed with most men is that when they believe they're slacking or falling behind they distance themselves from others because they don't want to be seen as a chump or a failure. Maybe he feels embarrassed about his health/financial situation and doesn't want to bring you into his life until he's completely ready?

I start to think that and I leave him be and then he suddenly appears and wants to talk...just four days ago he sent me that cute meme about things eventually being okay...so, I'm not so sure he's lost interest. The non contact is confusing though, but I've read in this forum with other people having the same issues with Gems disappearing and then reappearing. They're notorious for that.

He also goes out of his way to tell me he's not talking to other women...when I leave him be, why would he just not leave me alone and pursue other interests...he always reappears...confusing...lol

I'm hoping it's what he keeps saying he just needs time to get his life in order....

Posted by MysticalSoul
Aquarius' and Geminis are made for eachother, in my opinion.

Aquas are quirky, unique, and interesting.

Gems are social, witty, and exciting.

You probably feel like you two have a lot in common. Don't blame you.

Good luck with him. Take care xox

You are so right on with this...it does seem we are made for each other...so much in common. And thank you for the well wishes.

Posted by lisabethur8
if you're here asking, he's probably not into you.

and yup he sounds like he lost interest.

I hope you're wrong...but my fear is maybe you're right. What's confusing is he keeps coming back and wanting to let me know he's still thinking about me...just Saturday he told me, "I haven't left you." He's a very unique person and handles his stress so different. I too feel he's lost interest most of the time and I back off for the most part, but why would he continue to say things like he said Saturday...why not just let me go?

I'm currently posting about trouble with an aqua moon and here you are posting about trouble with a Gem.

I know the males are different and dissapear probably much more than the females and it seems harder to get their attention and hold onto it but I can tell you from a gem female's perspective, if I am into someone I will be in contact with them 24/7. I might wait for them to initiate contact first to see where their interest lays but otherwise, once you speak to me, I will be trying to keep the convo going etc and I will contact you over different platforms. Whether texting, whatsapping, facebook, etc.

The fact that he is still appearing says something IMO. If I am going through tough personal things I generally hide away. It seems like he has interest and cares but right now just isnt the best time.. I know all too well about the gem and aqua connection and its amazing.

Your on the road, that's a scary dangerous job especially as a female.

If he cared he would text, call, spend hours talking to you when your tired to keep you between the lines. He'd check in every night and every morning to make sure your ok.

He was bad news the first time and its the same broken record this time around.

You haven't had sex in 5 years and have built him up as a fantasy no other man can compete with. Even if you do end up living together it won't be the magical thing it's become in your imagination.

Get over him. Get under someone new.

Posted by Fem_Aquarian62

Posted by lisabethur8
if you're here asking, he's probably not into you.

and yup he sounds like he lost interest.

I hope you're wrong...but my fear is maybe you're right. What's confusing is he keeps coming back and wanting to let me know he's still thinking about me...just Saturday he told me, "I haven't left you." He's a very unique person and handles his stress so different. I too feel he's lost interest most of the time and I back off for the most part, but why would he continue to say things like he said Saturday...why not just let me go?

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Your the one that always comes back. He can lie, cheat, and hell even marry another woman and you'll still run when he calls. Shit girl... the cat is going to toy with the mouse,its in his nature.

Posted by LadyNeptune

Posted by Fem_Aquarian62

Posted by lisabethur8
if you're here asking, he's probably not into you.

and yup he sounds like he lost interest.

I hope you're wrong...but my fear is maybe you're right. What's confusing is he keeps coming back and wanting to let me know he's still thinking about me...just Saturday he told me, "I haven't left you." He's a very unique person and handles his stress so different. I too feel he's lost interest most of the time and I back off for the most part, but why would he continue to say things like he said Saturday...why not just let me go?

Your the one that always comes back. He can lie, cheat, and hell even marry another woman and you'll still run when he calls. Shit girl... the cat is going to toy with the mouse,its in his nature.

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Ouch...I appreciate your honesty...maybe you're right. It's hard to let go when he reels me right back in...It's also hard when I've never felt this strong for anyone in my life and I'm 54 years old. I tend to be cold and detached myself...I don't think I've ever been truly in love until him. It hurts to hear this, but probably what I need. Thank you.

Posted by LadyNeptune
Your on the road, that's a scary dangerous job especially as a female.

If he cared he would text, call, spend hours talking to you when your tired to keep you between the lines. He'd check in every night and every morning to make sure your ok.

We're both truck drivers..the job is dangerous, but when you're a true professional, you know how to maintain your safety. He knows my skills, he taught me. I'm very good at my job and very dedicated to it.

But you're right, he should contact me more to check on me.

Posted by Fem_Aquarian62

Posted by LadyNeptune
Your on the road, that's a scary dangerous job especially as a female.

If he cared he would text, call, spend hours talking to you when your tired to keep you between the lines. He'd check in every night and every morning to make sure your ok.

We're both truck drivers..the job is dangerous, but when you're a true professional, you know how to maintain your safety. He knows my skills, he taught me. I'm very good at my job and very dedicated to it.

But you're right, he should contact me more to check on me.

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My sister is a bad ass mofo who has her carrying permit and can handle herself and anyone who gets in her way. She travels for work and I check in with her daily. I make her text me her hotel room address and phone so that if anything happens or I can't reach her I have a place to start.

That she can take care of herself isn't the question. I WANT to know she's safe so I check in.

He knows you can take care of yourself. But he really should be contacting you more than 1-2xs per week.

The signs are all around you, pay attention to them. He'll keep doing what he's doing as long as you keep doing what you are doing. So stop enabling his behavior because you deserve better.