Online Dating Site- Do they Work—??

Okay
Do these work? I'm on True.com and I have Yahoo dating.
I've looked at other sites too. I've not joined any yet ( $ $ $ )
Because I see the guys that wink me or send me flirts and I've got to say I'M SCARED.

So here is another question.
For those who have tired the online thing; Is it just a hook up, or have you found genuine people to date??

My sister-in-law (my ex-husbands brother's ex-wife) has found a guy on some dating site...She's chatted for 3 months; met and now are dating him exclusively. He seems to be a very nice guy.

YET! I'm certain there are some people on these sites that are out for just you know what.

Be safe, Be careful, Be wise.

you can find genuine friends on there
just dont go into it thinking that everyone youll meet
is gonna become a friend.

Hmmmm well yes there are some interesting people on there...Ive found most of them aren't sincere/genuine but there are a few...as has been advised...be careful, be safe and keep your eyes wide open 🙂

But just remember that profiles are so very deceiving and many times what seems perfect for you? is actually a nightmare in the making....everybody lies and wants their profile to find that perfect match...lies come out though and if you find that the model look alike or the Batchelor of the year won't approach you in real life, you can almost guarantee that they're really not so perfect and they may very well not be who they claim to be....Ive heard of so many situations where people have met after chatting for some time and the other person doesnt even resemble the photograph (or it was a photo of 10 odd years ago and many pounds lighter)...quite funny but it happens a lot.

Then there are the players who will reel you in and then when you're lovestruck? they'll say..."Im not ready for a r/ship, cya, next"...be careful 🙂

I'm a current subscriber to Eharmony.com and I really do not like it and would not recommend it at all. IMO, whatever you do, don't do Eharmony.com. It is a complete waste of money!

"When dating online, there's no permanent value. It's basically a place for people with needs, holes in their hearts that need to be bandaged for a while. ... I want to escape from it to real people with real hearts, to see them, talk to them, touch them if I so desire."

I believe in happenings too, but what if you have no happenings? I mean, honestly, you can wait years for that, and who's got years?

I don't think that everyone on online dating sites are in such a negative state as you describe, holes in the heart etc. I think you are exaggerating.

Whilst meeting people online is not my first preference, it certainly beats hanging around a dingy nightclub, spending money to feel shit the next day.

I think if you go into it with the right attitude - not to find love, but to meet people selectively as you would in real life, then i don't think it's a bad idea. You must remember to be choosey though and as one other poster said, be aware that some people will lie on their profiles. This is where the messaging thing comes in, you should be in no hurry to meet. Just chat with them online for a while and see where it leads.

Personally i like to touch and feel people too, but my social life is a desert right now so meeting people online is a good option 😉

(Btw, it does feel a bit alienating sometimes, and i sometimes wonder what the point is, but i've decided to persevere with some friendships i have on there and to possibly meet with them).

Good luck whatever you decide.

Aqua: "But I like it that someone understands this negative effect of modern ways of communicating. This coldness that takes over the ordinary human communication... There must be some story, some drama behind the whole happening, spontaneity etc., just don't force me into those facking structures and rituals of meeting people and those soulless typed texts.

We the people are forgetting how to enjoy each other. That's very bad.

DOWN WITH THE RITUALISM OF MODERN SOCIALISING! DOWN WITH THE ONLINE MEETING OF PEOPLE! IT'LL ALL TURN US INTO HEARTLESS ROBOTS! LET US ALL GO OUT AND HAVE FUN TOGETHER!"

I totally get what you are saying! But, i don't know where to meet people... All the people i know, and i love them (they are my friends i guess) are interested in different things to me. They like partying, i don't. I really am over it. I would just love to go and see movies, have a deep conversation somewhere, or go to the hills, but most of them won't do this, because they are either dis-interested or busy recovering from the night before. I can be lonely not having anyone around who shares your interests.

I don't know where to get these 'happenings' from, i truelly yearn for them and have always met people through other people, but for a while i have been at a loss.

You know, going online and plucking 2-3 good souls, like me, from it seems like a good option right now.

Man, if i could meet 2 (or possibly 3) people just walking down the street, then i would do it.

I don't know, it's tough.

I know 2 people that were members of online dating and both people are now married to the person they met online ... and happily!!!

There is merrit to this kind of service, and as long as you use common sense and are safe about it ... why not try it!

I've done an about-turn on it... Today i'm feeling as if it is not quite working. I feel that if i can sit there and edit what i say, then it's not that authentic. Whilst i agree with what Aqua said, i viewed it as a viable altnertative for a while (and that was to meet 'friends' only), but now i think it is alienating and weird.

I dunno, perhaps going through a weird stage with it, but i think for now, i will give up and just let my membership ride itself out.

It's a shame and a bit disappointing, but what can you do?

PS. Aquaj, how do you turn around a conversation into actually meeting? I find that the weirdest part.

Aquaj,

That's really cool 😉 Maybe i have not been honest enough. I am on there looking for friends and if it becomes something more, then so be it. I haven't said that on my profile though, i guess somewhere underneath i still entertain the idea of fate and how romantic that is... I dunno.

I just told someone i have been talking to for about a week, "i find online dating a bit alienating, so if i don't speak with you again, have a good life". Lol...

Do you think i did the wrong thing? I was just being myself.

"if you meet someone and just do email and im for months...there seems to be no point..."

Yeah, i'll see what happens. I am kinda busy at the moment, which doesn't make things any easier.

Well, Aquaj, i did become very honest with this girl, so i'll see how she reacts. Truth be told, if she can't cope with it, then she's not right for me, even on a friendship level. We'll just see.

Too tell you the truth, i was kind of testing her as well. Should be interesting. I don't think she will be able to handle my level of honesty. My theory is that people are going to work out what you're like eventually, so why not be upfront about it from the start?! May not work for me, but at least i am being true to myself. I think i'd have far more success if i was a 'player'.