does he still care?

hey guys! im new to tthis so not sure how it works... but here i go

... me and my ex broke up 6 months ago (long time now) and we dated for 6 . we broke up because of the distance (both left for collage).. too hard on both of us. but we agreed we still loved eachother and always would. He got a girlfriend quickly after. and immediatly stopped showing any interest in me. Never called. acted indifferent ..etc. yet he would still answer my calls even when they were at 5 am and talk to me.

he says he loved his new gf now. but would of never broken up with me if it werent for the distance. but i have a gut feeling its just because he has her there with him and not me. does this sound rediculous?
now heres where im confused and i hope guys wwill give me more input ... he still has my pictures up on facebook right in the same album where he put pictures of his him with his girlfriend.. and in several pictures he has on the shirt i hand sewed and designed for him as a gift on his birthday.. the design it has on it was an inside joke between me and him... i think its a little weird he wears a hand sewed shirt and still has pictures of me on his facebook...

im just confused... i am a girl and i know girls would delete all traces of their exes to get over them.. why does he still hold on to our memories? is it possible he really does still care?

i also forgot to add i had told him to not wear that shirt after we broke up (to take care of it). and also asked him to please delete the pictures of me and him off of facebook and he said he didnt want to ...

i dont think he is using me as a backup.. because we are too far away to get back together anyway.. since he " cant handle" the distance..

blackbird,

Long distance relationships are hard. You said so yourself that it was what caused the demise of your relationship. You can't blame him for moving on with someone who lives where he is; as should you. It's hard getting over someone and continuous contact will not make that process any easier for you. Even if he does still care in his own way, the fact remains that he HAS moved on with another woman.

Him moving on does not negate your relationship. You shared some nice times/memories. Its just not the right time/place for you guys so pick yourself up, wish your old friend all the best and move on with your bad self ; )

blackbird, I think it depends on the guy. A guy I dated for a few years kept a key to my apartment -- on his key ring -- up until he got married -- some 8 years later! And I had moved twice in those 8 years, so what was the point? He also kept pictures of me and letters that I wrote to him when he was in college. I wouldn't be surprised if he still had them. I got rid of all that stuff when we broke up so that I could forget him. He is a leo, so it could be conceit, I guess, as MarKella says. I think he's just sentimental. Maybe your ex is sentimental?

Guys don't always let go in the same ways as women do. Outwardly, it may look like that, but inwardly it's different. Most times if they get another girl right away after a meaningful breakup (you only broke up b/c he couldn't handle the distance), he only did that to try to forget you. I read somewhere years ago that guys don't sit around and cry (not saying you cried) or talk to their "friends" about a breakup like women do to get through it, they go and get another woman. So I think he still cares for you, but he's handling it the best way he can. He doesn't want you to hang on, because he already knows he won't be able to see you and he doesn't want you to stay "hurt".

Not after 8 years...

Posted by strawberrykush
He probably doesn't care anymore

How are you even finding these posts...lmao