POLL: Should couples work together?

I hear people talking about how great of an idea OR taboo it is for couples to live together before marriage, BUT what about couples who work together?

Now granted, if a relationship contains even 1 insecure/jealous person, working together will almost always be a bad move BUT what about the couples who actually seem to be in very solid/secure relationships?

I know companies sometimes frown on friends/family members working together b/c of the higher risk of distractions or drama (especially from outsiders always trying to be in your business) but what about couples working together?

A friend of mine works at the hospital with her fiance & I think she made the mistake of telling her boss that her fiance was her fiance. The min. her boss found out that this guy was her fiance, she conveinantly started making sure that their schedules were the complete opposite, even though she didn't even notice they were together before my friend said something. Maybe her boss is an old insecure hag who hates to see couples in love b/c she's miserable, but it's not like my friend & her fiance spend all day passing notes or kissing while at work.

I personally think that it's ok for SECURE (keyword) couples to work together as long as they don't necessarily make it a point to announce it to the world and/or get others involved with their relationship's personal business. I think it's even ok if 2 people that are together work on separate floors or hold different positions (barely see eachother).

I think the couples who work together AND live together (married or not) probably deal with the strain of working together simply b/c they never have any space from eachother. They wake up together, have to see eachother all day at work & then have to come home together. It's not to say that constantly seeing your partner is a bad thing, BUT I think there def. needs to be some space during the day, so that the anticipation can build up by the time each person gets home.

Plus, let's not even get started on how awkward/straining it'd be if a couple who worked together were to break up & yet STILL have to deal with/see eachother at work everyday!

Even if no one knows you are seeing each other, I wouldn't want to work together. You need some time apart. It's not an absolute, I mean it can work and lots of people do it but in general, no thanks. Also from the employer side of it, I don't hire family... mine or yours. It sets up the possibility for drama that is so easily avoided.

I agree. 1, it's hard for couples to hide for long that they're actually together. And every place of employment has a drama queen & nosy employees lurking around, it's best to keep your relationship on the down low. T

he last thing you'd need is others going back & trying to start drama b/w you & your partner. And even if 2 people are secure in their relationship, it's inevitable that if ENOUGH people keep poking at your relationship, it will eventually start to affect the relationship.

Then there's always someone on the job whose miserable & loves miserable company. Ya know, those who hate to see others happy and/or in love b/c they themselves, aren't happy. Those are the WORSTS kinds of people to reveal your relationship too. They'll do whatever they can to make sure that you end up alone & single just like them.

My biggest fear in working with my partner would be the breakup factor. What if things don't work out? What if the breakup is a nasty/dramatic one? Surely, 2 people may be able to hide their relationship when things are great, but the min. things end or go wrong, someone is bound to start talking and/or venting to other co-workers. The min. that happens, congratulations, you've just invited the whole world into your drama. And we all know that other people will cause as much ruckus as they can if they have the access too. Smh

I dated a co-worker and we were really good at keeping the relationship a secret at work... no one would ever guess we were together. Well things ended and we were still friends. So everything went on just as it always did. But up until a couple of months ago I decided I didn't want him in my life anymore. It was extremely annoying seeing him everyday at work but I got switched to a different section so I wouldn't have to see him so often. But its still annoying. I'm never dating a co-worker again!!

don't do it guys!

Also, I notice it would distract me from my work... he would say things to get a rise out of me and I wouldn't be able to say anything back because it was a secret. So I would be distracted the whole day. Then after a while the only time we would ever see each other was at work and I got sick of it.

People notice an improvement in me since the split. I'm way more focused on my job and he only brought out the worst in me...

That's true. Even if 2 people keep it a secret, it's very important to keep things professional, no matter what. Other co-workers might snitch if they even see 2 people kissing/excessively hugging or showing too much affection either b/c they're jealous or b/c they feel it's inappropriate.

Either way, if 2 people are going to tell the world they're together, they should atleast keep it appropriate while at work. Employers could care less that you're in a relationship & that you want 5 kisses every hour!

Some couples take it too far. They're always fighting & getting others involved when they need to vent, or showing lots of affection, which can make even the average person feel uncomfortable in other public environments.

Oh I love seeing how 2 people interact after the break up happens. The awkwardness is hilarious! HA! They try to pass eachother w/o looking at 1 another, or they'll still be territorial over the other person, hoping & wishing the opposite sex will try to make a pass at their ex so they can strike!

I will say though that it's kind of hard to hide your love/admiration for someone you absolutely adore. Body language or SOMETHING will eventually give it away!

Posted by krysrenee7
That's true. Even if 2 people keep it a secret, it's very important to keep things professional, no matter what. Other co-workers might snitch if they even see 2 people kissing/excessively hugging or showing too much affection either b/c they're jealous or b/c they feel it's inappropriate.

Either way, if 2 people are going to tell the world they're together, they should atleast keep it appropriate while at work. Employers could care less that you're in a relationship & that you want 5 kisses every hour!

Some couples take it too far. They're always fighting & getting others involved when they need to vent, or showing lots of affection, which can make even the average person feel uncomfortable in other public environments.

Oh I love seeing how 2 people interact after the break up happens. The awkwardness is hilarious! HA! They try to pass eachother w/o looking at 1 another, or they'll still be territorial over the other person, hoping & wishing the opposite sex will try to make a pass at their ex so they can strike!

lol!! omg the awkwardness... yes. even I find it hillarious! I'm sure other people have noticed we're not as friendly with each other anymore. luckily no one has asked questions.

"I will say though that it's kind of hard to hide your love/admiration for someone you absolutely adore. Body language or SOMETHING will eventually give it away!"

True. On one hand trying to hide to for too long can end up leaving the parties involved feeling confused thus wondering who and when the first move will be made and anticipation can lead to impatience. On the other hand for some, sometimes it's appreciating the adored/loved from a distance and enjoying the internal appreciation.

Posted by Archimedes
"I will say though that it's kind of hard to hide your love/admiration for someone you absolutely adore. Body language or SOMETHING will eventually give it away!"

True. On one hand trying to hide to for too long can end up leaving the parties involved feeling confused thus wondering who and when the first move will be made and anticipation can lead to impatience. On the other hand for some, sometimes it's appreciating the adored/loved from a distance and enjoying the internal appreciation.

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Yeah, depending on the relationship & the 2 people in them, alot of people these days like to have that validation. They like for others to know & be aware of their relationship with someone b/c it makes them believe that if others are aware of who they're with, that it somehow makes the relationship that much better or real. They also like for the whole world to know b/c it's their way of marking their territory.

Problem is, when you're at work, you're supposed to leave the world of your bedroom & enter into the reality of the boardroom. Alot of people can't do that. And the reality is that alot of relationships nowadays aren't of 2 people who are actually secure in that relationship. Problem with that is, the less secure you are in your relationship, the more VULNERABLE you & the relationship is when you start opening the doors for others to walk in & have access to your relationship. That's why co-workers should stay out of the business. They're not real friends. They'll never treat someone else's property with care like they would their own!

And omg, Lord forbid someone else at the job liking your partner! It's like ww3 or battle of the sexes! I've seen alot of relationships go down the drain the min. a couple start working together. It's even worse when you have a sexy/hot partner. Everybody wants a bite. And if you're actually with someone who appears to be really true/faithful/good to you, it only opens the door for more people to want what/who you have! And the worst thing you can do is get involved in drama with a co-worker over your man/girlfriend!