krysrenee7
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Rejection
Everybody can't be "the one!"
I'm sure you haven't wanted to be with or marry every single person that's ever shown interest in you, right?!!! And even though you have rejected others doesn't mean that you're suddenly a "bad person" or someone who "missed out," right?!!
I'm sure you haven't wanted to be with or marry every single person that's ever shown interest in you, right?!!! And even though you have rejected others doesn't mean that you're suddenly a "bad person" or someone who "missed out," right?!!
I agree that taking rejection is natural
I also agree with you that with rejection, there's always a way to turn it into a gain, whether it's gaining time you might've lost with the wrong person or gain in terms of being that much closer to whose right for you
The way people have extreme negative reactions to rejection is what I'm talking about
I'm talking about the people who take rejection so personal that their own sense of self-worth starts decreasing
I also agree with you that with rejection, there's always a way to turn it into a gain, whether it's gaining time you might've lost with the wrong person or gain in terms of being that much closer to whose right for you
The way people have extreme negative reactions to rejection is what I'm talking about
I'm talking about the people who take rejection so personal that their own sense of self-worth starts decreasing
I agree that taking rejection is natural
I also agree with you that with rejection, there's always a way to turn it into a gain, whether it's gaining time you might've lost with the wrong person or gain in terms of being that much closer to whose right for you
The way people have extreme negative reactions to rejection is what I'm talking about
I'm talking about the people who take rejection so personal that their own sense of self-worth starts decreasing
I also agree with you that with rejection, there's always a way to turn it into a gain, whether it's gaining time you might've lost with the wrong person or gain in terms of being that much closer to whose right for you
The way people have extreme negative reactions to rejection is what I'm talking about
I'm talking about the people who take rejection so personal that their own sense of self-worth starts decreasing
Rejection straight up is fine.
Months/years later after I have served my purpose/been used for what you wanted at the time and after you have bullshitted about how the great the sex is etc etc is NOT OK.
That does make you the bad person/azzwipe etc that can go fcuk themselves.
That is a waste of my time. I could have been with someone who actually gave a sh it about me.
I don't fcuk people over like that and I sure as hell don't appreciate it being done to me.
Months/years later after I have served my purpose/been used for what you wanted at the time and after you have bullshitted about how the great the sex is etc etc is NOT OK.
That does make you the bad person/azzwipe etc that can go fcuk themselves.
That is a waste of my time. I could have been with someone who actually gave a sh it about me.
I don't fcuk people over like that and I sure as hell don't appreciate it being done to me.
It's a failure, whether it is a job, a business or a relationship. The process is you have to look at your involvement in the breakdown and learn or work on your own shortcomings as you were a part of the equation. If you never look at any of the reasons why, and feel you weren't a part of the failure then you are way above yourself!
I don't think it is solely about beating yourself up, rather, excepting that we have faults and we can learn for the future and with the next venture.
I don't think it is solely about beating yourself up, rather, excepting that we have faults and we can learn for the future and with the next venture.
Posted by Prince_Pisces
I don't take it personally, it just shows me that person is crazy or stupid, or possibly both LOL!
See that's the mentality that doesn't make sense!!
If everyone whose ever rejected you for whatever reason is crazy or stupid, then you're just as crazy or stupid for rejecting any of the people you have in life!
Are you stupid all b/c everyone that wanted you or liked you weren't people you wanted to invest in?!!!
If that's true then that means that we oughta allow all people into our hearts, businesses & lives at all costs!
Posted by KingVirgo
No lie I'm 26 and still till this day I hate being rejected.
I think alot of us do
Rejection sucks! I've been rejected a few times. I was like *shrug*. However, the rejection that hurt the most is the one who said/acted like he was in love with me. Love never came up until he said it. He lied. So I was strung along for awhile until I realized his actions didn't match his words. He wasn't into and could have let me know but he chose to lie to keep me around. That hurt like hell. Glad that one is over.
Posted by GemStar05
Rejection sucks! I've been rejected a few times. I was like *shrug*. However, the rejection that hurt the most is the one who said/acted like he was in love with me. Love never came up until he said it. He lied. So I was strung along for awhile until I realized his actions didn't match his words. He wasn't into and could have let me know but he chose to lie to keep me around. That hurt like hell. Glad that one is over.
Of course it hurt! Even the most secure high self-esteem person can admit that rejection doesn't feel good!
BUT understand that you just listed a bunch of things that HE did wrong & could've done better. So the problem wasn't YOU. That should be enough incentive to not allow yourself to lose sleep or discredit yourself as a person over someone else's flaws & short-comings
Rejection = It's not meant to be. Simple, move on.
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