sex in relationship

hi people,lot of relationship have ended becos lot of people have taking it to be a major factor in relationship......very interesting people say of sex....yeh it is a good thing to have a good sex with ur partner...but it is a bad thing to make sex a major thing in ur relationship.maybe sex in relationship needs a to be adjust...people pls come in with more ideas...thanks

No of course it's not the most important part, but i am how do you say it? i have a very sexual healthy appetite, lots of passion new and different things and stamina..so i would like my partner to be very good in that area, bc no matter what people say i feel it is a big part of a relationship, but like i said theres so much more.

A deep, penetrating experience involves true intimacy. Intimacy entwined with sex may be connected or confused with sexual feelings. For me, intimacy has more to do with shared moments than just sexual interactions. When you bring them together the partnership becomes richer, stronger and incredibly powerful. I think most relationships end because some people aren't ready for it. You have to allow yourself to be vulnerable to experience the depths of closeness that sex initiates. The sex alone is not going to get you to that threshhold, or that, out-of-body euphoria partners hope to achieve.

so do you think the amount of time you wait to have sex with someone necessarily determines how strong the relationship will be or how long it will last—
i am hanging out with a sag guy who wants to hold out on having sex with me until the moment is right...he says that when he has sex with girls right away, he automatically loses interest in them. we have been hanging out as more than friends for a month now, and he says he wants to wait another couple of months, or when it feels right...
any thoughts?

More than a month? That's really pushing it. I think hanging out for a mo is a good amount of time to find out if there are just some no-nos about the person.

MC: Hopefully it will feel right for him very soon. I am a female Sag and if I have sex with someone too soon than, I also loose interest kind of quick unless it is going to be for just sex. If I wait a while and get to know someone and than have sex well, they usually get my heart too.

PS......Love having the foreplay and the teasing, though. It's great to build up sexual frustration and than unleash it on someone you really care about. 😉

shonesho,

Looking at relationships of friends and family . . it seems, like you said, everyone views it differently. For instance . .

One couple I know, who have been married for over 20 years, base their union strickly on their sexuality. Together, they are hot and everything esle is worth sacrificing for that coupling. However, they fight everyday, and pretty much don't like each other as people and their little idiosyncrasies. Yet, to them, they are happy.

Others have less passion; they're happy together because they share other interests. Those seem to have better communication outside the bedroom and so they rarely argue. And, they are happy without having a lot of sex.

So, I guess, my take on this topic would be, so long as the two people have an understanding of the internal dynamics of the relationship, and both are content with the structure in which the union was built . . happiness can be obtained.

However, if a person feels it necessary to end a relationship because the sex wasn't insync . . then that's the right thing to do for self and the other person involved. The sex HAS to be compatible by both parties . . it's just a matter of finding someone who views it's priority in determining the value of your bond, the same as yourself.

PS......Love having the foreplay and the teasing, though. It's great to build up sexual frustration and than unleash it on someone you really care about.

-yeah, that's exactly what he does to me, and we have only been hanging out for a short time...i don't know if i like him taking his frustration out on me this early on.

i don't know if you should pin point a day really to say okay "in three weeks, we will have sex" I just think it's up to you (more the female) trust yourself to know when you feel it's right timing.

If your getting bad vibes about it, i suggest you don't do it then & if your unsure about it, then wait it out and go with the flow.

i am not unsure of anything...i would have sex with him now, but he wants to wait until the moment is right. he wants more than sex from me, wheras i don't know if i am ready to start a relationship again considering i just got out of one 3 months ago.

for me sex is an important part of a relationship because it is one of the ways i express feelings my towards my partner. a 'communication of the souls' so to speak; sounds goofy, but for me an intense emotional connection is renewed and energized during physical intimacy.