Stalking

is serious business. i didnt think too much about it but lately ive been reading more and more about how people just cant let go. obsession turns into stalking. worst case scernario, the person being stalked dies.

just recently a man was stalking a woman who didnt even know him. she had called police to let them know but they were not very much help. 2 days later, the man walked into her place of business and shot her dead. come to find out, the same man tried to kill his ex-wife.

anybody have any stalking stories? how do you guys feel about stalking? have u ever been stalked or have stalked someone else?

This subject is quite serious although it's not always taken that way. I think at some point of time we have all done some level of stalking be it showing up somewhere to "accidently" bump into a person, seaching internet sources for information, riding pass their home or job, or more extensive things, but when you get to the point where a whole chunk of your day is spent searching out a person's whereabouts or information on a person that want's nothing to do with you, it's time to seek proffessional help, plain and simple.

As for Facebook, early a relationship with an ex, I was surprised that she had went through my Facebook account...as in my friends list. She politely mentioned it to me and I explained the composition of it. It didn't bother me per se, but it made me aware of the fact that she was investigating me, which has all sorts of implications. To me there is a difference between doing it out of obsession and simply trying to get information and one can argue that both are simultaneous reasons when you do it. I have a very high level of value and respect for privacy, but sometimes seeing it with your own two eyes serves the best purpose.

i dont know how i would react if someone told me that actually wen through my facebook. scorp mentioned some "facebook only info" to me a while back and i quickly removed him.

i think tauri men are stalkers no doubt. this tauri i used to screw showed up at my job. i work an hour away from my house. this other tauri guy who my aries bff cant leave alone, im confident, he put a GPS in her car and one her phone, computer. he's a cop also. detective, undercover.

ive had a few bad stalking cases. gives me the shivers.

Posted by Mya
This subject is quite serious although it's not always taken that way. I think at some point of time we have all done some level of stalking be it showing up somewhere to "accidently" bump into a person, seaching internet sources for information, riding pass their home or job, or more extensive things, but when you get to the point where a whole chunk of your day is spent searching out a person's whereabouts or information on a person that want's nothing to do with you, it's time to seek proffessional help, plain and simple.

i agree. stalking shouldnt be a job..more like a mild hobby

Posted by beautifulsoul74
As for Facebook, early a relationship with an ex, I was surprised that she had went through my Facebook account...as in my friends list. She politely mentioned it to me and I explained the composition of it. It didn't bother me per se, but it made me aware of the fact that she was investigating me, which has all sorts of implications. To me there is a difference between doing it out of obsession and simply trying to get information and one can argue that both are simultaneous reasons when you do it. I have a very high level of value and respect for privacy, but sometimes seeing it with your own two eyes serves the best purpose.

u ever seen that verizon commercial when 2 people are speed dating and the girl uncovers all this shit about the guy. i think thats acceptable stalking.

I agree... If you have a public account on FB... I don't know how private you are really trying to be. Checking out someone's FB page is really not what I would consider stalking. Heck, in this day in time... it might be a smart things to do if your just meeting someone... lol

Posted by IntriguedScorp
If its on your Facebook and its viewable by people, its for public consumption. I don't see how looking at someone's Facebook page can be considered Stalking. Then again I might just be thick so could someone explain this to me? Thanks. 🙂

I didn't consider it stalking at all and I didn't have a problem with it. It was a first for me to have someone do that...or to at least know about it lol. I guess I'm applying it to the wrong subject. I don't FB tat often though and I leave my profile open for public consumption. I have no problems with it. I guess "trust, but verify applies."

Posted by Ellybean
What people nowadays call "Stalking" behaviors take place in context too. A guy you've been on one-three dates with sending flowers to your work will be judged creepy or romantic depending upon how the woman feels about him at that exact second she receives the flowers. Plus a lot of people are so used to the shared social network that they freely give out info and then act shocked when someone who they met in high school for two classes sees them in the grocery store and says at the end of the typical polite chit chat of five minutes "Oh have fun in Costa Rica!" And people get freaked the person saw what they volunteered to show all their friends list. Silly if you ask me. You can't share your whole life with the world(or at least all your friends, family and loose acquaintances) and still be a private person, it doesn't work like that.

Not to take away from serious stalking problems. Some people are very sick and need help though. Some are so ill that nothing will help them. Some stuff is def creep factor, strange and odd. But not everyone with stalker tendencies becomes a hunting serial killer. Be safe and aware for sure, but don't be paranoid imo.

I had an Ex that you could say by standards stalked me for a while after the break up. It didn't scare me then and doesn't really now even when I think back on it. Despite I called the cops on him once(wasn't for a stalking related incident though) He was just really mentally ill. The break-up sent him into a breakdown. I wouldn't label him a stalker though. Ironically he was a Taurus lol.

I 'stalk' places sometimes. I like to drive by or sit at places where I shared memories, sometimes good, sometimes bad. It makes the memories feel stronger just to pass or be where me and the ones I love had the memory. Tons of times I've driven by a friends house when in the area, but only for people who have said to me before "Drop by sometime if your in the neighborhood"

Maybe I'm a stalker. LOL.

tauris are stalkers hands down.

I tried to post here but it did not come out OH well we try again

Every step you take
every vow you brake
every move you make
I'LL be watching you

Oh can't you see you belong to me.

God I lov that song its Stings best.

I agree with stalking being an unrealistic obsession with someone that carries over into real life activites, perfect explanation.