Urgent help needed.

Okay. So. It'll be a bit long I'm sorry but I need advice. So. I am a Gemini and he's a Leo. We've been friends since last 3 years. We suddenly met one day and as days passed by we kept meeting everywhere and all. Fate. And I liked him. And I thought he too.We became friends and soon very close ones as we talked a lot. His gestures and all said it. And we had all these eye contacts and everything. So. About a few weeks ago our final exams in Feb. I randomly called him and told I liked him. He seemed happy when I called abs the next moment he turned very rude. He said that everything will be fine and all. And he won't judge etc. Then he blocked me. I texted and all.He himself unblocked me and he was like he needs to study. He can't disappoint his parents ever. That I felt was the true reason. He said he didn't like anyone that way and all. After a week. I called and I had to be a bit please and all. And then he suddenly called me back.It was unexpected he had called and been like he needs to go after sometime and asked me to message him in the evening. We talked for an hour and everything was sorted sort of. He didn't want to talk about it. So we instead about how important our friendship was and all.He said he was very hurt. Then our school started at first he was normal I was too. Then our new year at school did. And we both began by ignoring And then I was unwell so I didn't go for a few days and so he didn't see me and that following week he said hi to me. And then the next week our buses got clubbed and he said hi and talked. It felt normal. I thought if he's making an effort I should too and so I messaged him last week a hi. Somehow his phone his took 10 hours to receive it. He did very late at night. He didn't reply. And it was the first time he didn't reply to me. Even when that thing had happened he had replied. I was puzzled. The next day I sent a message to him saying I was trying to curb the awkwardness and that when he wishes to stop dragging then tell me about it. He didn't reply. He didn't come to school after the weekend for 2 days. I thought maybe something must have happened considering he missed his test too. Then yesterday. I was expecting a hi or an explanation and all . He ignored. And my friend went to confront him. She pretended she didn't know anything about what happened. And he told her everything was normal between us and all. And asked her if I said anything she said no. That I said that I thought he hated me and seeing my face

*Continuing She told me he instantly said no. With a lot of sincerity. And he was trying to control his laugh. Of course about as to how someone can think this. Then I went there. He said hi. And I just looked a him. He didn't look away We kept looking at each other then he I felt gestured me by his eyes to say hi too cause there were people and all. And so I did. And then he said that they were talking about me. I gave a puzzled look. He said that your friend feels you're upset cause of me. I said ya so. He was like why what have I done I gave him the look saying do I need to tell you. And then u said it's personal. And my friend and another person went. I said you didn't reply. He said that I am obliged to reply to whoever I want. He was being mean. He's always been so sweet to me. And I was like shocked and I said you could have told and that he was not being normal or something he said ask anyone I'm like that with everyone I said I didn't need too. And I knew how he is. And then he was like the convo doesn't stand or something. I was like our friendship is important to me is it to you. He changed the topic. I asked again is it. He said that I'm a psychology student and I must know how people react. I didn't get it. Then I said if I respect you need to too. And then he said you came to my class and was like your friend will tell the other person I said no I didn't tell anyone about it and it was our personal matter. He said it's your personal matter and I'm like your included too he said your beliefs and then his friends came so he was like my friends are here and he started talking to them so I left. I cried a bit. And then after that I was just standing when he was there with his friends and he looked at me and kept looking. And then I passed him and when I turned and all he didn't look I didn't too. And then after school in the buses area he went pass me and I looked at him he at me. And we have each other a look. When he went back I didn't look I was talking to my guy friends. What does this behavior means ? He keeps looking and all. I want our friendship back but what should I do ? Help please. Do you think after our convo yesterday we aren't friends ? I'm so hurt by his actions. I thought that maybe he's still not over what happened and needed time and if I won't come infront it'll help.Will it? He's behaving so differently no guy does this. Is it like he liked me too and he's very hurt and it's his hurt speaking ? Please help.

Posted by Confused28

He's behaving so differently no guy does this.

Yes, they do... esp in highschool.


(I don't miss being a teenager.

Ever.)

Posted by Confused28
Is it like he liked me too and he's very hurt and it's his hurt speaking ? Please help.

What hurt?

Your great offense appears to be telling him

that you liked him.


Unless....

Posted by Confused28
I randomly called him and told I liked him.

He seemed happy when I called abs [and?]

the next moment he turned very rude.

He said that everything will be fine...

And he won't judge etc.

Then he blocked me....

He himself unblocked me and he was like he... can't disappoint

his parents ever.

That I felt was the true reason.

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Instead of what?

Won't judge you for what?

You did something in there that you aren't mentioning.

Tell us about that... briefly.

Firstly thanks for replying. No one here does.
1. Guys do. But his behaviors is so confusing and all. I can't understand.
2. Whe . We talked on the phone he said he was very hurt. I guess he was hurt about me saying and all. Cause of affecting our friendship. I guess it's as hard for him as for me.
3. Judge as in he had said that our friendship will remain the same and all. I felt that was the reason for him lying about not liking. I felt he was lying cause of all those moments and all.

Posted by Confused28
Firstly thanks for replying. No one here does.
1. Guys do. But his behaviors is so confusing and all. I can't understand.
2. Whe . We talked on the phone he said he was very hurt. I guess he was hurt about me saying and all. Cause of affecting our friendship. I guess it's as hard for him as for me.
3. Judge as in he had said that our friendship will remain the same and all. I felt that was the reason for him lying about not liking. I felt he was lying cause of all those moments and all.

You're welcome.

And no one understands it, completely-- men

claim to not understand us, either... it just

is what it is.

For now...

Stop initiating contact-- no calling or texting

or getting your FRIENDS to go talk to him (omg,

don't do that).

Why should he go out of his way to get your attention,

when you're content to go to him?

Knock it off.


LEOs love Geminis... be your bright, happy self and

make him wonder wtf, why isn't she all over me.


That is the best advice that you probably won't take

(but I hope you do). : )

Sounds like he got freaked out when you told him you liked him, and he didn't know how to respond so he ran away screaming instead of letting you down gently. Maybe he thought of you as a close female friend, but a friend only; someone he could trust with his emotions and innermost secrets. Remember that both of your teenages brains are way far from fully developed, so the "logical" way of dealing with a friend who has a crush on you might not seem logical to him. Montgomery is right, keep being your awesome self and let him know what he is missing!

OR

He's gay. I had a guy friend in high school who I just fucking adored. We did everything together, had inside jokes, would MSN until midnight. I fell "in like" with him and confessed, and he immediately pushed me out of his life for a few months until he randomly one night started chatting with me agin, said he missed me, apologized for his behvior, and said that the reason he acted the way he did was because he's gay and NOBODY knew.

@Montogomery
I didn't ask my friend too. She went herself. And the only reason I went was so that be doesn't feel I told someone about it and all. Which I told him.
Will it make a difference ?
I'm always happy like I pretend to be. But he always comes to know. I don't know how. No one else figures out.
I was thinking of that too. And also of not coming in front. Giving him time to figure stuff out and all. And after going away for sometime being absolutely normal after we meet again. Do you think it'll help ?

@Ackeibler
Hi. Thanks for replying.
I feel he freaked out too. I mean that was the last thing he would have been expecting. That's why I didn't say much about blocking and all. Cause it was like reflex action. He got scared. I have no idea. He's behaving as if he liked me and it had changed his whole life. Any normal friend won't be like that. Any guy would be okay and be normal. He's being different. Do you think the solution I just said will help ?
No. He's not gay.