If you had be in a relationship (long distance) with a young man for a year, both young and in school ready to graduate, great connection, feeling like its love. You do alot of things for him he doesn't have it so he can't do as much but when he can he does....you fly him out to see you and it really just feels like a good thing going on.
So you received an email from a girl saying that she just found out that (the guy you are supposed to be in a relationship with) you both have been seeing the same guy? she gives you details of how they met you find out that he said he did NOT have a gf, they go to school togehter, he had her visit him at his home, they have been intimate, he has been seeing her at least half the time he's been seeing you.... you two also talk on the phone about other little details.
Do you believe it, what would you do? The obvious answer is to walk away, but what if you have feelings invested?
how did she get your email address? or am i being dense...
anyway, so i assume you two were official/exclusive? in which case, he's lied to you. that's a huge breach of trust. personally, i'm not inclined to believe the girl. she could be a jealous ex, she could be a bit nuts in the mind, she could be a fantasist.
so you need to ask yourself-did you have any inkling he was seeing someone else? because if you did...then yeah, this girl could be telling the truth.
I suppose she found my email, no clue really but I gave her my number and told her to call me and she sounded really sincere. Yes me and the guy were in a relationship. I didn't have a feeling but I also live about 700 miles from him, how could I really know he and the girl are in the same area....
ah, got you. i just found it a bit odd she was able to find it just like that.
so what now? you could tell him what you found out and ask him why he seems to feel being in a committed reationship involves seeing some other girl and lying to her that you don't exist?
i'd put it down to age really. he probably likes the idea of being in a relationship but hasn't got the stamnia to see it through 😉
So you received an email from a girl saying that she just found out that (the guy you are supposed to be in a relationship with) you both have been seeing the same guy? she gives you details of how they met you find out that he said he did NOT have a gf, they go to school togehter, he had her visit him at his home, they have been intimate, he has been seeing her at least half the time he's been seeing you.... you two also talk on the phone about other little details.
Do you believe it, what would you do? The obvious answer is to walk away, but what if you have feelings invested?