@Sagittarius89
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Fighting For Your Mate
I wouldnt fight over anyone physically or verbally, too much drama for me and im getting too old for any of that, just want a quiet life! lol. I would defend them but I wont be instigating anything.
if he cant say no shes welcome to it. im more then just an option 🙂 . you can only catch someone who wants to be caught.
I would and I have...not just for a mate. but a very close friend as well.....again...depending on the circumstance....
Posted by everevolvingepithet
"you can only catch someone who wants to be caught. "
I think many a person and situation would refute such a statement lol
I could be wrong but hey ho.
tell me how, I'll go chase George Clooney! haha
Never .... within the context you mean.
I would protect him against injury, or legal issues .. that sort of thing. But, what you're talking about is fighting another woman for him?
Nope .. not in a million.
If he can't man up against another woman, and know his place ..... then at that precise moment, HE ended our relationship, so there is nothing to fight for.
In the end no one's worth fighting for. What's worth fighting for is the EGO and the games. That's better than the person fwiw..
(they should first try the nunnery/ monk-temple, where they fight God for their disciples..)
Can't see myself doing so... no one is worth fighting over, they'll chose their own fate!
Fighting for someone you Love....fastest way to go from Soul Mate to Cell Mate.
My advice is fight only for those who can NEVER deny you love, like your family or your pets.
Never fight for someone who can say they love you today and in a few months wont want anything to do with you, cause they have found someone else. You dont want to be heavy-hearted in a prison, no way, its soul crushing. Being released from prison and not having anyone there for you when you get out could be the coldest day you'll ever feel.
You wont want to reflect back on it years later and realize that you werent really loved and all you were left with was a criminal record that has negatively affected your future and has lasted way longer than the relationship you once foolishly cherished.
Well if you are writing a paper in psychology about this hit me up. I can give you all the juice since I speak from experience how impetousness can lead to incarceration at the snap of a judges fingers.
Don't fight for her or him. Their love for you is never guranteed no matter what they may say or do or write in a birthday card.
You dont want to be heavy-hearted in a prison, no way, its soul crushing. Being released from prison and not having anyone there for you when you get out could be the coldest day you'll ever feel.
..... I speak from experience how impetousness can lead to incarceration ...
That sheds a new light on the sorrow you express often in here.
You dont want to be heavy-hearted in a prison, no way, its soul crushing. Being released from prison and not having anyone there for you when you get out could be the coldest day you'll ever feel.
..... I speak from experience how impetousness can lead to incarceration ...
That sheds a new light on the sorrow you express often in here.
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Yeah it kind of never goes away. Maybe thats why i hate mirrors.
Well now you know why compassion is so important to me. I know its value.
Posted by P-Angel
Never .... within the context you mean.I would protect him against injury, or legal issues .. that sort of thing. But, what you're talking about is fighting another woman for him?
Nope .. not in a million.
If he can't man up against another woman, and know his place ..... then at that precise moment, HE ended our relationship, so there is nothing to fight for.
I agree
The judge was funny. I will never forget his face. Dude was like...fuck you...you are eventually gonna end up a statistic so lets get this thing in motion. hahaha.
But he was wrong.
Prison is hard .... my husband did 5 years on a 20
Georgia chain-gang .....
... hindisght is 20/20
Was it for the Aries chic?
Posted by P-Angel
Prison is hard .... my husband did 5 years on a 20
Wow. You were with him then?
I was 22 when I went, I didnt contact my mother when i was in so i had no inmate account so I had no funds for commissary , lucky for me, there were illiterate inmates who i ended up reading and writing letters for and thanks to them, I went from sneaking bread in my sock out of the chow hall (risking more added time for "contraband") to having an abundance of cookies and snacks and the Ramnen noodles that i have always hated, even more in prison but they are like GOLD on the inside.
For example I'd charge 3 soups for 2 written pages and then id trade those 3 soups in for 3 cookie packs and 2 kool-aids, etc.
I went from starving at night, sneaking bread to giving stuff away. I wish I couldve built a library like Andy Dufresne in The Shawshank Redemption, lol.
I kept as a pet in my toothbrush holder for a day and then I set it free during rec I felt bad for it and I almost got more time when the correctional officer thought i was trying to sell drugs out of the empty toothbrush holder in the yard that day. I told him I had an ant in it.
I think he left me alone cause he thought I was going insane. lol.
Posted by P-Angel
Was it for the Aries chic?
Yes. But as my current Aries says....you did it for yourself, you got in the fight cause you didnt know how to save face.
I regret it. I could have been someone, you know. I made it harder on myself. Didnt realize Id make it to this age. lol.
Cautionary tale about not loving oneself, thats all it is now.
I told him I had an ant in it.
I think he left me alone cause he thought I was going insane. lol.
That's lol and 😢 at the same time
It's a lonely life, even with letters from family.
Yeah, we were married when he went down the road.
Thankfully, he didn't get hardened, he is still a good man ... sounds like it didn't ruin you either.
What do you mean, 'could have been' .. you are someone very important, currently
Cautionary tale about not loving oneself, thats all it is now.
Are you being woe is you for the dramatic effect ... or do you really not love yourself?
Fighting for my mate? No
Fighting with my mate? All the time.
Cautionary tale about not loving oneself, thats all it is now.
Are you being woe is you for the dramatic effect ... or do you really not love yourself?
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No way. I love myself now.
What I meant was, thats what happens when you have to rely on some jerk-off to be complete thats all that experience was now, its not like i had this great love story from it or great friendship that survived that whole thing.
I had unconditional love for someone and it wasnt really wanted. Its no ones fault.
Unconditional love doesn't exist .... there are always consequences, expectations in love.
At least you are still emotionally healthy in the aftermath ... that's what matters now. 🙂
Physical altercation over a man? No. Defense of him verbally? Definitely. However if he ( anyone really ) does something straight up assholish, they can stand their own ground over it. I won't back bad behavior like that.
i'd rather die.
only way is if someone tried to hurt him-then the gloves are off. same goes for close friends/family.
but if it's other chicks being all over him, whatever. if he can't fend them off without my input, he's not much of a man
Interesting everyone pretty much said no lol
I see woman sometimes being like oh it's romantic if he'd fight someone for me or he really cares about me.
I always though hmmm why don't you think it's just his male ego?
Posted by P-Angel
Was it for the Aries chic?Yes. But as my current Aries says....you did it for yourself, you got in the fight cause you didnt know how to save face.
I regret it. I could have been someone, you know. I made it harder on myself. Didnt realize Id make it to this age. lol.
Cautionary tale about not loving oneself, thats all it is now.click to expand
YOU
ARE
SOMEONE
dammit.
Posted by wgamador2
I kept as a pet in my toothbrush holder for a day and then I set it free during rec I felt bad for it and I almost got more time when the correctional officer thought i was trying to sell drugs out of the empty toothbrush holder in the yard that day. I told him I had an ant in it.
I think my heart just melted
Oh. and back to the topic @ hand.....no, absolutely not. Lol that's just silly.
I would never compete for a man. It's ultimately his decision and if he chooses her over me, so be it.
What would be the point in fighting for him? I shouldn't have to...he should be with me because he wants to be, not because I fought off all his other options like a wild animal. Haha nuts
This brings back some very fond memories of when that insane Aqua bitch revealed that she was "fighting" me for her douchebag e-boyfriend.
LOL too good, good times. 😄
Lol.........................I'm saying you should never have to.
Give me an example of an instance where you HAVE to fight for your S.O.
Posted by Sagittarius89
Interesting everyone pretty much said no lolI see woman sometimes being like oh it's romantic if he'd fight someone for me or he really cares about me.
I always though hmmm why don't you think it's just his male ego?
Yeah idk, I find it kind of annoying and caveman-ish when my Libra acts all stupid like that.
I picture an animal pissing on shit and kicking dirt all over it to mark it's territory :/
Posted by Sagittarius89
Interesting everyone pretty much said no lolI see woman sometimes being like oh it's romantic if he'd fight someone for me or he really cares about me.
I always though hmmm why don't you think it's just his male ego?
Yeah it usually is an ego thing. But I really didnt feel like it was an ego thing for me since I didnt go hunting him down. I knew where to find him if i wanted to.
It just happened that that day we were in the same place (the park where we always ran into one another) in fact it was more like he was in hiding or avoiding the park for months, i went up to him and something came over me the more his weasely mouth moved.
I think she used him to have a reason to break up with me, who knows. All I know is that all she needed to do was be honest that she didnt care for me anymore and not need some excuse for me to see her in a different light because it altered my life.
But when i look back, of course it was an ego thing, I was humiliated. Cause i sure didnt feel heroic when they put me in that 'ice cream truck' and drove me to that prison that day.
Posted by Sagittarius89
Has anyone ever done this? Has it happened to you?Do you think you should?
And if it did or has do you think it was for love or for ego? Or both?
1st off, I fight over no man.
And if I was feeling the urge to, I'd expect for my man to stop me.
Any man who would sit & allow me to fight, especially over him, isn't the right man for me. If he'd take pleasure in me handling his battles or me fighting over him all so he can feel special & like a pimp, he's obvioously not worth it, therefore that's an even bigger reason NOT to fight for or over him
I've never fought over a man. For what?
If he's got things to the point where other chicks wanna harm me & actually have the access to me to do so, he's not doing something right OR something fishy is going on.
99% of the time females fight over men, they really need to be whooping HIS ass & not eachother's! 9 times out of 10, the females foolishy go after eachother while the man sits in the background, with a smirk on his face b/c he knows he's getting away with murder.
If my man would encourage me to mess up this pretty face all so he can get a 5 minute ego boost, screw him AND the chick he wanted me to fight or who wanted to fight me!
And I have had boyfriends say if they see a certain ex around they'd kill them.
This is a very stupid reason to fight for your mate...
Posted by wgamador2
Fighting for someone you Love....fastest way to go from Soul Mate to Cell Mate.My advice is fight only for those who can NEVER deny you love, like your family or your pets.
Never fight for someone who can say they love you today and in a few months wont want anything to do with you, cause they have found someone else. You dont want to be heavy-hearted in a prison, no way, its soul crushing. Being released from prison and not having anyone there for you when you get out could be the coldest day you'll ever feel.
You wont want to reflect back on it years later and realize that you werent really loved and all you were left with was a criminal record that has negatively affected your future and has lasted way longer than the relationship you once foolishly cherished.
Well if you are writing a paper in psychology about this hit me up. I can give you all the juice since I speak from experience how impetousness can lead to incarceration at the snap of a judges fingers.Don't fight for her or him. Their love for you is never guranteed no matter what they may say or do or write in a birthday card.
This is a very insightful take.
Posted by wgamador2
Fighting for someone you Love....fastest way to go from Soul Mate to Cell Mate.My advice is fight only for those who can NEVER deny you love, like your family or your pets.
Never fight for someone who can say they love you today and in a few months wont want anything to do with you, cause they have found someone else. You dont want to be heavy-hearted in a prison, no way, its soul crushing. Being released from prison and not having anyone there for you when you get out could be the coldest day you'll ever feel.
You wont want to reflect back on it years later and realize that you werent really loved and all you were left with was a criminal record that has negatively affected your future and has lasted way longer than the relationship you once foolishly cherished.
Well if you are writing a paper in psychology about this hit me up. I can give you all the juice since I speak from experience how impetousness can lead to incarceration at the snap of a judges fingers.Don't fight for her or him. Their love for you is never guranteed no matter what they may say or do or write in a birthday card.
This is a very insightful take.
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Thanks.
I wish I didnt have the experience. Maybe someday it will serve for some good all that stuff I put myself through.
Posted by Sagittarius89
Has anyone ever done this? Has it happened to you?Do you think you should?
And if it did or has do you think it was for love or for ego? Or both?
Me personally, I've never had a physical altercation over it but I sure have bitched people out or got in their face to put them back in their place, from time to time but it's usually not in my nature I just walk away.
And I have had boyfriends say if they see a certain ex around they'd kill them.
But never had any of them around eachother to avoid any such thing!
So what do you guys think? What is your experience?
lol i'd like to say that i shouldn't have to fight over anyone. lol but you know what....
i have done so in the past, BIG time - to the point of mapping out how i'm going to do it, and then taking action.
i literally went to that ex gf's place to confront her. it was surprisingly feel good. like a triumph. then another time it was just some ex trying to test my love for him. oh man, i didnt realize that i was being tested at the time. i just had this inner passionate need to fight. it was absolutely juvenile i know. but truthfully it felt sooo good at the time. cause i won.click to expand
LOL. You think you "won".
I won my fight also. But i really lost.
It really depends on the situation for me. I have a pretty good range about these things. I feel like she can handle herself and I'm on standby when I feel I need to step in, and even then I would keep it to verbal sparring. But the millisecond I feel she is in "real" danger I'm quick to react an attack. My ego and temperament aside I have taught myself to wait and see how things play out, it never pays to rush in. And I weigh the adverse consequences and factor in the risk. But once let go... it's pretty bad. So I'm always holding back. Most of the time things can be defused with words are body language over simple miscommunication or disrespect. But ... sometimes you have to punch, elbow,knee, powerbomb them on their head an and headbutt the god given sense and basic social decorum into people nowaydays. I have only (knock on wood) had to smash two very ignorant people thus far. 1. Don't touch the lady, when she say no.
2. The B word, after he was politely turn down>> plus he spit in my face and his friend tried to tackle me so....
Posted by Sagittarius89
Has anyone ever done this? Has it happened to you?Do you think you should?
And if it did or has do you think it was for love or for ego? Or both?
1st off, I fight over no man.
And if I was feeling the urge to, I'd expect for my man to stop me.
Any man who would sit & allow me to fight, especially over him, isn't the right man for me. If he'd take pleasure in me handling his battles or me fighting over him all so he can feel special & like a pimp, he's obvioously not worth it, therefore that's an even bigger reason NOT to fight for or over him
I've never fought over a man. For what?
If he's got things to the point where other chicks wanna harm me & actually have the access to me to do so, he's not doing something right OR something fishy is going on.
99% of the time females fight over men, they really need to be whooping HIS ass & not eachother's! 9 times out of 10, the females foolishy go after eachother while the man sits in the background, with a smirk on his face b/c he knows he's getting away with murder.
If my man would encourage me to mess up this pretty face all so he can get a 5 minute ego boost, screw him AND the chick he wanted me to fight or who wanted to fight me!
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Good point Krysrenee7. It's often misdirected anger and aggression. But Guys do the same thing over a women and at times it's planned that way by the fairer sex... for entertainment and ego as well.
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Has anyone ever done this? Has it happened to you?
Do you think you should?
And if it did or has do you think it was for love or for ego? Or both?
Me personally, I've never had a physical altercation over it but I sure have bitched people out or got in their face to put them back in their place, from time to time but it's usually not in my nature I just walk away.
And I have had boyfriends say if they see a certain ex around they'd kill them.
But never had any of them around eachother to avoid any such thing!
So what do you guys think? What is your experience?