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I know I haven't been on here much. Things have been so chaotic lately... I just found out I'm going to be a father. I don't know what to do.

Congratulations Don!!! Someday, some little boy or girl is going to thank you for giving them the gift of life.

What to do? Whatever you choose to do...do the BEST you can in each moment - you will then lead a life of no regrets.

G'luck with the new life! Your girlfriend must be excited.

She's very excited... and she's not exactly my girlfriend. She wants to get together now that she's having our baby, but I'm interested in someone else now. That's probably why she even wanted to get pregnant, so I'd never leave her. I kind of want her to get an abortion. I really don't know what to do... I've never been this confused in my life.

This is what we brits call getting caught sport F--King. One must be carful when one is out hunting and doing a little sport f--king. make sure you get a dna test.

No we used to be together, and I don't think she's slept with anyone else. She's so damn clingy. I understand what you're saying, though...

careful lad protect ones self

Go for a three way thing Don.

Actually I can blame her, because I made her go on the pill right, but she recently confessed that she lied to me about taking it. Which brings me back to my theory that she wanted to get pregnant to keep me or something. When I mentioned abortion to her she freaked out and started crying, so I guess that's out. Although I do blame her mostly, I'm not going to run from the situation. She might possibly move in with me, or closer to me, so we can both take care of our child. And James, I would if there wasn't a baby involved.

Why do all these treetrunking girls only reply to male post?

Well duh SimplyMe I'm wondering why the hell nobody replies to a post that deems worthy to reply? And why do you reply to something that you need to argue about? BAsing your assumptoins aT FIRST that this post is rotten?? A lame reason? I say a valid reason.

And oh, to your question dear old WISE parallax, it is because most men on this board try to converse with me more than women. I've tried countless times to 'help' women on this board but failed due to the fact that I get shunned most of the time. Not butt hurt over it, SO I've developed a sense of 'quasi-friendship' with you men. Understood, grasshopper?

don,
why don't you offer to be a decent father, but acknowledge that you can't be a marriage partner, because your heart is not there. that would be the truth. if you marry or live with this girl, you are just going to be living a lie and that will surely not work. somehow, someway this girl will get terribly hurt in the end if you are not truthful with her, and it might cost you more then you can imagine. how old are you don and how old is this girl? only the truth will set you free.

I'm 25 and Sara is 24. Yes, you're right, my heart is with someone else, but I don't know how long that will last once she finds out about the pregnancy thing. Sara knows I'm with someone else but she still claims to love me, which I don't get. Despite the fact that I don't love her anymore, we may still live together just for the baby. Or as I said just live at least closer to each other. I don't think I can prevent her from getting hurt, unless she just gets over me. I've made my feelings clear but that didn't change her mind.

just because we stop loving someone, does not mean that they stop loving us at the same time. first of all, she's pregnant. her emotions are running at top speed. she will go through many changes during this time, and they will probably not make any sense to you. her hormones are controlling her actions. any feeling that she has is magnified greatly. i suggest you start reading up on pregnancy and what to expect from a woman who is pregnant. there are many books on the subject. don't go into this blindly. knowledge is power. use it. the only right way for you to deal with this pregnancy is to be honest with everyone involved, for the sake of your child first and foremost. living with or staying in a marriage because of the child, to me, never works, because children can always see through things. i'm sure this will not be easy for you. i wish you the best. i can relate to all this, because i got pregnant and the relationship with the father did not work out either. unfortuately or fortunately, i had a miscarriage. but i still believe honesty is the best policy.

"We don't see things as they are - we see them as we are."
~Anais Ni

SimplyMe do you understand the purpose of this message board? To get answers. I've done exactly what this message board is here for and to not get the fair treatement is pretty lame. I never said you owe me anything, that's your doing. Stop defeating the whole purpose. I asked a simple question and you simply answered and by that I think you proved my point of my prior question.

Right... I think Zofia won, SimplyMe.

Anyway, Pato, I'm sorry things didn't work out for you. I'll be taking your advice on getting some pregnancy books, that's a good idea. So Sara is moving closer to me next week, I think that's best. She really wanted to move in with me, but after thinking about it, not only would that have probably hurt her in the end as you said, but it'd also be difficult to explain to my new girlfriend why this other girl is living with me. As for Sara's feelings towards me, I'm just going to ignore them. At least until after she gives birth so then we can see if she still feels the same way.

If one can not run with the big dogs, one should keep one aris on the porch.

When have I insulted anyone? I asked a question based on my fact(my tone was harsh but the point of my question was not the act of being but the act of DOING. Note the contrast.) and you can voice your opininos whether or not you coincide with that fact of mine but insulting? Lady, you are very hypocritical. Anyway, I'm bored with this and I'm sure you're tired of it as well later.

And the beat goes on.

Its simple just don't read what I put in then you can have no conplant, my last post was for zofia, this is for simply me.

Hi Ms immaturity #2. And I'm 18 I'm allowed to be *grin*

OOOHHHHHHHH my immaturity lov luz to bad I am old enough to be your pop O.K. I would of had to like 14 so what. you are however more mature than most here.

James how old are you? My dad's 60 or around there 😛

I am 35 years young. Your dad and my mate are the same age old jake is 60. but doesn't look that old. I guess I would have been sixteen when you were born. I went in the royal marines when I was 17 for 5 years.

James that's not old at all! Hence, 'years younger.' heh.

The reason why my dad's so old... wait let me rephrase that, so-not-the-idealistic-age-for-a-dad is because he had 3 wives.. not at the same time, though!

How was the marines like??

Reply soon after your destination from New York.

Aw thanks Wweet-p!

that was so sweet of you haha

and I meant Sweet-P *shifts eyes*