sayings of Den #1

If the shoe fits, buy a pair in every colour.

Goes hand in hand with "I can't be out of money, I still have checks."

lol....I've said that one before....(hangs head in shame)

I might have even said that thing about shoes...

shame phoenix shame

How about.. "Diamonds are a girl's best friends.."

This has got to be the most sucessful brain washing in history. It's a lump of COAL, gals... And don't get me started on where pearls reallly come from. (Twist) Ok.. "Clam Phlem!" ick.
Now back to diamonds.. "who said" a ring's supposed to equal 3 months (Months??) pay? The diamond dealers?

Whoa there, diamond-basher. 😛

I will take this opportunity to proclaim that I am the biggest jewelry freak ever. I love sparkly jewelry. It's not so much that I'm a materialistic person--I'm truly not. But oh my God, I LOVE pretty jewels.

That's gross about pearls. But it's okay, since pearls are the only jewels (stones?) I don't like.

Diamond Basher? Moi? Hey, I like that. It's just.. gheez, it's a complete stereo system.. on your Finger! It's an airline ticket somewhere probably Really Nice.
Don't misunderstand, I like gemstones. Unlike diamonds, their prices haven't been sooo inflated. My birthdays in August, and I've come to like deep green periodot's. BTW.

well, when you put it *that* way (a complete stereo system or an airline ticket somewhere probably Really Nice)...that airplane ticket sounds nice...lol. If I had to chose, I'd choose the Really Nice place.

Deep green peridots are very nice. I'm a fan of the green and blue gemstones.

I actually don't have or wear any diamonds (thanks to my cheapskate ex)...but one day, by god, one day I will have a diamond. 🙂

Emeralds and sapphires and topaz, oh my.. Emeralds and sapphires and topaz Oh My.
Sorry. It's that silly post Because Because Because. It's finally drilled into my brain. I've got Oz on the brain now.

I hope you do get your diamnod Phoenix. Women look nice in diamonds. (Nothing esle.. Just diamonds.) Ooh.

That's funny. BTW, random statement, I love the Wizard of Oz movie. Pure brilliance.

The only thing is, I can't seem to ever get the words right to that Because Because Because song. "If ever a wonderful wiz there was he is because because because because becaise because because becuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuz, because of the wonderful things he does!"

or something. I'm sure that's not right.

ooh, nothing but diamonds, I'm SO up for it. 😛

Thanks for the support, hehe 🙂

and I misspelled "because", twice. Shameful

S'ok, I see I mangled "diamond" the first go round.
Lemme see @ the Wiz business.
If ever a wonderful wiz there was,
the wizard is one, because,becauwe, becuz..
because of the wonderful things he does.

However.. I remember saying.. Doe's (deer) eat oats, and mare's get oats..and lil' lamb's ski-divy. It took me years to figure out, it's "eat ivy". So.. no bad feelings there.

whoops.. "eat" not "get". Dang.. did it again.

LOL, thank you. I do feel better now. Except, I've never heard of that song, about the goats and lambs, etc. Must be a Louisiana thing? How long have you lived there? That's cute, that you thought "lil' lambs ski-divy". 😛

btw, what's a prickly pear? am I a prickly pear?

Sounded proper to me. Cats scat, so lambs ski-divy. Natural law, I thought, back then. "Prickly Pear" eh? You're sifting through prior postings. Just so's you know, I know..you know.. I know you know. Prickly pears I "think" are .. cactus fruit? Actually I'm clueless. It's definitely not a LA. thing. Probably CA. or AZ. I don't remember where I picked it up. But "don't be so sensitive, stop being such a Prickly~Pear".. is it's origin.

lol, of course, if cats scat, then certainly I could see a sky-diving lamb. Ahh, the logic of children. lol, that's okay, I thought "elemenopee" was an actual letter of the alphabet, because of that alphabet song. I also thought "Allison Wonderland" was the name of the movie "Alice In Wonderland". hehee.

And what I meant to ask was (sorry, my fault for being unclear), what's it mean to call someone a prickly pear? But now I see. It means they're overly sensitive.

lol. I really need a spell checker. Skee Divy. Ah well.
Yes, regarding Pricklies. I've dated some. Very difficult to get to know one. Mainly meaning, I had to struggle to get past their bad relationship experiences.. without being able to ask what they were. Made it hard to know how to be.

eew, yes I would imagine so. Baggage: everyone has it, but we all need to get over it. It can be really hard, I'm still not "over" what a treetrunker of an ex I have, but I'm not going to change who I am when I'm with a new guy. It's not his fault, or hurdle to jump over, just because I got screwed over by the last one.

That's a good point. Do you miss the social scene? Or were the two of you more of the home body types?

Wow, that is a great question, and here's why: we were both complete and total opposites in that respect (and therein lied the problem maybe? Just maybe...). He was a social butterfly, ALWAYS felt the need to go out and be with his friends, granted, with me, BUT, to me it was very high school. I don't want to always "hang out" with my boyfriend's friends all the time. I was perfectly content to go out maybe once a week, and the other nights stay "in", if you know what I mean. 😉 And I guess it really hurt my feelings that he was all about being with his friends *and* me at the same time instead of wanting to stay "in", as much as I did.

I hope you're good with code-language. lol.

Now that's a shame. I got it.. and it's via the internet, and in code.. how you wished to be *more* alone with your beau. Apparently he was right there and didn't get it. I had the higher number of friends when I was part of a fraternity.. but even then, there was no question of where I'd rather be the majority of the time. And it wasn't with the frats. I'm definitely more of a home body. And I don't mean that boringly either. Two people can pick up and go anywhere, do whatever with all this group deceison making needed, etc. I enjoyed that aspect.

"without" all this group discussion etc.

You put it perfectly. And all the conclusions you drew from my post were right on. And, I completely agree that two people can do anything, talk about anything, go anywhere, without an audience, without other couples, etc. He was just truly a very loud, showy, obnoxious, overly-dependent-on-friends, immature person. Was not capable of talking about our future together, was not capable of even *discussing* anything related to our future. Even without any pressure whatsoever. I wasn't even allowed to *say* "children", or "five years from now", or anything. I had to beg him once to buy me a nine dollar ring, because he was so afraid of me wanting it to mean something he wasn't ready for. When really I just thought it was a pretty ring and I didn't have any money. Very interesting, you being in a fraternity. I've always been somewhat fascinated by sororities and fraternities, though I don't think I'd join one. I like traditions, and history, and rituals, etc.

Was this your four year companion? About frats and sororities, you'd have liked it for the same reason I did. It made the transition from high school to college much easier. People to sit with on break, "mixers" to go to, etc.
I happened to meet the 3 big girlfriends of my life in college, and 2 at the fraternity. (Just to mention.) I hate to tell you, in my case, the traditions and rituals had naught to do with hardly anything. Although we did do a few public service functions, etc.

About your boyfriend. I'm not defending him, because he sounds like he was a very emotional guy. *But* I had to let a girl go myself (I didn't have to.. I thought I did)(hindsight). At the time I had no job, no idea of what I'd be doing, etc. And she was very nice, but I wasn't sure we were right for each other. (Now..[Today] I wish I knew where she'd gone.) But you can't predict these things. I thought I'd always have people around me, lots of people. You graduate (or don't get to go, in your case) and suddenly realize that's not how life is.

(SORRY about the delay in postings, my god forsaken computer froze, I hate technology)

It was my first four year companion. The longest relationship I'd had before that was six months.

It is strange, how life suddenly goes from having eighteen million people around you every day, to basically no one, or just a few good friends every couple weeks or whatever.

I understand that. It's why I'm reining myself in with this friend at work. "Work" is one of the major components of my day, and about the only time I rub shoulders with anyone esle. (Errands, etc, don't count.) I'm not the kind of person that does well in what you'd say is "cold calling". Just walking by & striking up a conversation doesn't come easily to me.

Me either, I can totally sympathize (or is it "empathize"?). I don't really ever just talk to a stranger out of nowhere unless he talks to me first. And yes, work is my main thing too. It's unfortunate, but it is. I've somehow got to force myself to break out of my anti-social rut. Although I'm really not a person who needs a lot of people around me.

I thought all you gals just had to learn to say "no". It's tough being a guy, approaching girls. (For me anyhow.) I don't know alot of people around me either, but just 1 would be very, very nice. I know we've supposed to enjoy our own company, etc. But I know me. I want new ideas, new directions.. things I DON'T think about. That's the whole point for me. Sure I like my private time as well. But I'd definitely need alot less than I currently have. (grin).

hehe. I know what you mean. I've only been single for what, about three months, and I really am wanting someone in my life (please god, don't let it be a rebound thing...) who is different yet complimentary to me. I'm sure it is tough for guys to approach girls. I do feel for you there.

Phoenix & espernaut who would of thought.