advice from male Sags please

Ok male Saggies,
have any of you experienced manipulation and control by a friend of the same sex??
A Sag just ended what everyone including myself thought was a compatible loving relationship. I am a Scorpio.
We had been together just over 12 months.
He had wanted to be with me for a few years but gave me space to grieve for my husband.
All was fine between us until his friend a Cancer, retired and moved to our town 5 months ago, leaving his own g/f in his old town, which I find strange

Then the troubles began.
The friend started acting like a jealous girl dog.... he knew how to feed his insecurities and which buttons to push because of his habit of making mountains out of molehills.
Twice in the last 5 months my ex Saggie came to me and said "things didnt feel right" and wanted to end the r/ship.
We discussed these feelings and in the end he said he wanted us to stay together that he loves me.
He was always loving and caring. He told me he never met anyone as wonderful as me, and used to call me his beautiful girl. He had two bad marriages and never had the exes shown him as much love as I did. (this is true as our daughters have been good friends for over 20 yrs and I heard the stories)
This time he didnt face me, but rang me instead. He then said he would come in over the weekend so we could talk. He never did.
I sent him a few texts and a call and never got an answer.

It came to light that his friend told him not to answer. In the end his daughter told him he needed to tell me why...a text was sent that wasnt worded the way he speaks...the friend is a teacher.....in which he says he never wants to see me or hear from me again.
The friend then shared nasty posts aimed at me on FB (real mature for a 60 year old) and tagged my exes daughter so I would see them. Then the friend accused my son of placing a virus on his computer by FB inbox. The made my ex Saggie replace said laptop, which he did as he felt guilty.

Others can see the manipulation and that the friend is a troublemaker. Some have said to me the friend has the hots for my ex Saggie. I would love to send him a text, but with the friend hovering I am afraid he will start to hate me....

dont know his ascendant

Sun Sagittarius 14.46
Moon Sagittarius 23.14
Mercury Scorpio 25.22
Venus Sagittarius 1.52
Mars Libra 21.55
Jupiter Gemini 22.16 R
Saturn Scorpio 5.15
Uranus Cancer 22.27 R
Neptune Libra 25.21
Pluto Leo 24.58 R
Lilith Libra 8.50
Asc node Capricorn 24.34

So basically, the Cancer moved into town, got in your ex's ear and made him break up with you?

Something's not adding up here. Although we value friendships, I've rarely known one of us to get out of a relationship if it's good on the advice of "a friend" unless there was some irresistible attraction or something.

So either things weren't on the up and up between you two, or the Sag has been fooling around with this person for a while and they decided to be together.

yeah something isnt right for sure

Posted by Annie56
yeah something isnt right for sure

Probably the most prudent thing is to be patient. These questions usually answer themselves in time. You'll soon find out what happened,

Posted by dontgetmewrong
For most Sag, if we truly love someone and fully committed, NO ONE would be able to put their influences on us... We, or atleast me..am not afraid to put someone (family member, friend or not) in their place if I feel they disrespect me and my SO. I would hate to have to do that, but you have to set boundaries with some people.


The only thing I can think of on the part of your Sag is if...there was trouble brewing already between you two and he confided in his friend, and his friend took full advantage of the situation and set the wheels in motion so they can go be single together.

I mean, come one, the guy comes into town 5 months ago and suddenly there's trouble... ya, he wants his friend to himself and/or he doesn't like you so if there's trouble in your relationship, the Cancers not gonna try to encourage his friend keep you around.

+1...but still think there's more to the story between the Sag and the Cancers. The Cancers I know are how you described but they ain't the type to just pick up and move either. Idk.

thanks all. more to the story from one of his family members......the daughter who lives with him (the Sag) found out I wasnt the push over she thought I would be and she and the Cancer teamed up to get rid of me, as they did with the one before me.....she had hoped I would tow her line so her dad was still the convenient babysitter....... the Sag was caught between a rock and a hard place and decided it was best for both of us and hopes I understand....but the catch is I dont know what it is I am understanding...also heard the Sag and the Cancer are no longer close as they were, so maybe the Cancer made an advance.