How would you raise a Sagi child? (for archers)

Hello archers....


Eaglegirl (Scorp) here, reveling in my role as a mom to most smiley, exuberant, bright, risk-taking girl Sagi (she's five).

What do you remember most about your own childhood? Is there anything that your mom or dad could have done to help you "find yourself" quicker? Or don't you Sagis care about that so much...is life a journey, an exploration?

I'd be interested in your input..

Eagle girl

Freedom is a big one for us. Give her lots of that to make her own decisions and mistakes. We certainly view life as an adventure and feel we have lots of lessons learn from it.

I agree completely with Brianafay, freedom is a big factor, for some reason we just have to take that long road in learning a lesson. Be patient, understanding and patient again. *Grins*

As I child, (heck, as an adult even) I loved to play. We constantly have to be amused.. stories, little adventures out in the parks. My mother usta tell me stories when I was young, these fabulous imaginative funny stories about these magical little people that live out in the woods. She would go on about their culture, how they had little cities they built near a small stream and would use trinkets from our own daily lives to build them. Explaining that's why certain toys I had would suddenly disappear. The little people took them! Then during our afternoons together she would take me to a park, or even our back yard sometimes and look for signs of the little people.. and she will continue telling me stories of them. (She was a fabulous story teller and a Cancer..) Her stories however had a moral or lesson in them. Such as to not leave my toys out in the yard over night. The coolest thing she had done was.. I left my favorite barbie outside one day.. and it was gone the next day. We went searching for the little people, seeing if they took my doll. She laid down a little pouch of quarters.. and later I found it. She explained sometimes the little people would leave something of there own in exchange for what they had taken from us. I used the little pouch of coins to buy my first toy. I had to be no older then 5 myself, but I remember taking so much pride in the fact, I had bought that barbie and I did not dare leave it out over night!

As an adolacent, the make believe stories were really not part of my life, but the sharing of idea's.. thoughts and general talking did not. She had away about her, she understood just saying, " No Kat, you can not go out with your friends and stay out until midnight." would not work on me. Most sagi's do not do will with orders. We do the complete opposite. Its like seeing a sign that says.. "DO NOT PUSH!" and what do we do... we so push that button. Instead she would explain to me that staying out that late would cause her to worry, and that she would prefer if I came in at a time that was pleasable to us both. That worked for me, I hated to upset my mother. So she and I together would decide on a time. It gave me a sense of responsibility and freedom to make my own choice, well as she having a say in the >

matter. My mother was, and is still the most beautiful and remarkable woman I know. Not just outwardly, but well as inwardly. As a Sagi.. we observe.. we take in our surroundings and we mold our lives around them usually. For me, my mother was my role model. Be honest with her, explain to her why you feel a certain way rather then ordering her. Have fun and play.. tell outrageous silly stories. Tell her of you own mistakes and lessons you had yourself as a child when you were near her age. She will learn through you. She will most likely pick up countless after school activity but her curiosity and the desire to wish to experience everything will make it hard for her to stick with one thing. She will always feel as if she is missing something. But do encourage her interest.. and take time to talk to her.. talk to her almost as if she were one of your girlfriends.

My niece is a Sagi.. she is about 9 now. When I talk to her, I feel like I am chatting with a mini adult. She has a insight and understanding that is not like most children.. she comments a lot on how I talk to her as if she were one of my adult friends rather then a child. They sense this, and they close up. They want to be treated equal.. It's a hard role, because you still have to play mom and show her things.. but one thing is certain, she will make you laugh, her insight and observations and just general manner is silly and a bit quirky. But she will bring tears to your eyes and heart ache as you watch her go down the hardest paths, and knowing all you can do is just watch and comfort her when the time is right.

My mom and grandma tried to expose me to everything because very young I questioned every thing. It was most beneficial because as an adult I can relate to the poorest of the poor or the richest of the rich, not intimidated by either. I needed alot of freedom and I liked to play alot as well, im the same still today. I much rather for someone to give input but "ADVICE" is a big no no for me unless I ask. I always liked finding my own way by trial and error and if they say a specific way was the best route I needed to test it because I was always sure I could find a new and better one, in which luck for me was always true. It may seem naive to test whats been proven correct by wasting time but most of my life my intuition has been correct, so I would know.

Freedom.... Let her find her own way... Give her limits to keep her safe, but make sure she has the freedom she craves.. Expose her to new learning experiences, and watch her grow, applaude her accomplishments, and never be clingy...

Advice was always a big nono for me as well, my mom had a way of telling me of a similar experience of hers that would always point me in the right direction, but me being me I always got there in my own way..

Hi Sagis,

Thanks so much for your helpful comments...

Brianafay, you look like a grownup version of my daughter. Cute!

Txnkitten, I liked what you said about her feeling she is missing out on something. This kid could go all day, and still feel like she needs to do more.

As for the freedom part, well she's only five LOL. However, I do talk to her as an adult (always have), and she loves to hear funny stories about when I was a kid, especially when I goofed up or got in trouble. The story that cracks her up is when some girls in my class tape recorded us farting, and I did the biggest one. She loves that! She already has joke books, and loves to tell them.

The only source of conflict can be my Scorpio seriousness vs. her Sagi informality. I know she would like me to be more playful, but it's tough given my serious nature and being a single mom to boot. But I do feel I help her finish things and set goals, as she does have a tendency to start things then rush onto the next project.

I am always reading fairy stories to her, and she has a great imagination. She's already showing the writer side of Sag by making up her own stories.

Thanks Sagis.

Eaglegirl

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