I don't know what to do...

I have been friends with a Scorpio, but he has moon, mercury and venus in sag and ascendant in leo, so thought I'd post here instead.

I myself am a Sun, Ascendant, Mercury and Venus in Gemini and Libra moon.

He has been flirty with me, joking about getting married, holding my hands, tickling me, pays every time we go out, introduces me to his friends and his mum etc. We see each other roughly 2 days a week and txt each other daily. And I like him a lot.

A couple of nights ago I was over at his house, we were both feeling tired and fell asleep cuddled on the couch. He then got up and carried me to his bed. Started massaging me, then it turned sexual, but we didn't have sex and he said that we shouldn't kiss because that's too intimate. He kept saying not to get attached to him, not to be awkward in the morning and if I was lying about being a virgin (which I wasn't). I stupidly played along and reassured him that I wouldn't get attached.

The next day I'm really upset with myself and feel that I've let myself down, especially after he said all those things I just feel used for my body and that he doesn't really care about how I feel.

So I confront him saying that I don't blame him, but that I am going to start getting attached to him if we are still friends and decide to end the friendship, at this stage I am balling my eyes out. He was crying as well saying that I'm really important to him and he didn't want to end our friendship. But I was adamant because if we're still friends and I have feelings for him, I'll get hurt in the future and I told him this as well.

Before all this happened we decided to create a business together, so over the past week I've only contacted him a few times to inform him on business and nothing friendly. He has tried to contact me, but I just reminded him that I wasn't talking to him until I get a hold of myself.

I just want an objective opinion on the situation. Do you think I overreacted? Is it possible to go back to being his friend in the future? What makes me really upset is that he seems fine with everything and has no emotional attachment where I am all over the place 😢

Although he has Sag in his chart, he is a Scorpio and this question may be better asked on their board. Maybe some Scorps will come here and answer it

He kept saying not to get attached to him, not to be awkward in the morning and if I was lying about being a virgin (which I wasn't). I stupidly played along and reassured him that I wouldn't get attached.

The next day I'm really upset with myself and feel that I've let myself down, especially after he said all those things I just feel used for my body and that he doesn't really care about how I feel.

he sounds very sag, even though he has a scorp sun. It's all that sag energy: sag venus/moon/merc

"not to get attached" : sag speak for freedom loving, physical touchiness, and not sure of you yet. Probably wants to make sure you are able to keep up with his need for freedom and exploration. (in a physical way)

just take it easy. Relax, he sounds like he likes you. Just wants his "freedom to roam" but wants to be attached to you. Remind yourself: keep a longggg leash. A very long one. Astrology dictates those with strong sag energy need this.

beautifulsoul74: You're right, he's pretty manipulative, I can see right through it...but don't say anything, he has so many other scorpio traits as well, but traditional astrology says to look at a man's venus and moon for love, so I asked here, but I will look into the Scorpio behaviour as well.

MrDomino: I know what he did was wrong, but as the saying goes "it takes two to tango", so it is my fault as much as his, I'm just confused on what to do now

R24: thanks for your encouragement! I'm not going to let him "deflower me" (hate that term), I think sex is something that should be expereinced with the mind, body, soul and heart, so I only want that with the person I love and hoping we stay together long term, most will call it naive, but I believe it's naive of me to give in to social norms instead of aiming for what i have always viewed sex as. All in all, I won't be losing my virginity to him, and after what has happened, I know i can't handle casual hook ups, so that was the first and last.

lisabethur8: he is pretty sag, minus the spontaneous aspect...but I have been taking it easy and just focusing on myself and taking a break from him. I'm just going to treat it like he doesn't like me and gets a girlfriend so i know for sure and so i can close the "romantic" possibility, and if he does like me, he should just come out and say it.

So thank you guys for helping me out. Even though it was not an ideal experience, it happened and is in the past, I've learnt about myself and that I take physical intimacy serious. I will be more careful next time....

😄 really appreciate it!!!

You're welcome. A persons sexuality is also partially determined by mars as well

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beautifulsoul74: You're right, he's pretty manipulative, I can see right through it...but don't say anything, he has so many other scorpio traits as well, but traditional astrology says to look at a man's venus and moon for love, so I asked here, but I will look into the Scorpio behaviour as well.


lisabethur8: he is pretty sag, minus the spontaneous aspect...but I have been taking it easy and just focusing on myself and taking a break from him. I'm just going to treat it like he doesn't like me and gets a girlfriend so i know for sure and so i can close the "romantic" possibility, and if he does like me, he should just come out and say it.

So thank you guys for helping me out. Even though it was not an ideal experience, it happened and is in the past, I've learnt about myself and that I take physical intimacy serious. I will be more careful next time....

😄 really appreciate it!!!

🙂 good, take up hobbies, plenty of them out there. For me it's got to be mentally/visually: artistic endeavours.

I get sag energy. my sis has it, and my husband has a Sagittarius Mars, (very COMPETITIVE) so yeah I really get it. The Mars is almost like the Sun in many ways. competitive but give them room to breathe. It's run and come back, run and come back. Playful even.

Well I was honest with him and told him how I felt and he said he's not ready for a relationship and that he values our friendship too much, sucks, so now I'm not friends with him anymore, because I feel really sad when I see him because of what happened and i'll never ever do that again.