love my sag with ALL my heart- HELP!!

First of all....... PLEASE, I need help either from sag men or women who have been through this with a sag man. First I tried to read other posts for help, but there is so much mixed up information and people answering who either are not sag men (when the question is about a MAN) or people who have not had the experience the person asking the question is asking about.

So here's my problem: I have been in a serious relationship with a sag man for a year and a half. We've actually known each other for 13 years. I met him when he was 15 and I was actually his first kiss. We lost touch for a few years and got back in touch a year and a half ago. There were sparks immediately. We went out one night to hang out for the first time since getting back in touch, we stayed out all night and until late the next morning until he had to go get a couple hours sleep before work. We did the same thing when he got off work that night and stayed out until late the next morning. At which point he told me "is it obvious yet or do I have to come out and tell you I have a HUGE crush on you". I turned him down in the morning because I explained I didn't know what was going on with another guy I'd been seeing. But we went out again that night, he spent the night at my place, and we've been together ever since. In fact he's lived with me since then. We've had an amazing relationship, we love each other very much, and we've been working on buying a house together. A couple months ago he asked me what my ring size was, he's talked about us having children, and even made comments about a song that he loves being our wedding song. I've never brought these things up or dropped hints, it's always HIM. But thursday night he came home from work and said he was breaking up with me. He said he wants to be free to do things he can't do with a girlfriend at home, like travel, work on a cruise ship, and go to bars with his friends and pick up girls.

I'm devastated but friday we had a two hour convo, hours after breaking up, and he seemed like he was looking for an. Excuse to come see me at home. I even said we could meet for lunch and talk, but he wanted to bring my meds by the house for me. Yesterday I texted him to let him know I was at the store pickingu up some things because we have a shared bank account and knowing I was at the store he asked if i needed him to get me anything. I said no. We talked about bills for a minute then he reminded me about the meds and asaid he would bring

Bring them by the house in a couple days.

Does he want to come home?? God I hope so........

Oh, and these convos have been through text so I can't tell anything from his voice/tone

Why does he have your meds?

I didn't fully explain the meds because the post was so long, but he's actually getting a few doses from his brother because I'm out and can't get an appointment with my doctor until the end of March.


@caballero, while I greatly appreciate the interest and advice that doesn't answer my question, and though I am currently unable to work psychology was my major in college. So I am not concerned about whether he has issues or whether it was right for him to do this in the first place. Those things I can deal with myself. I just want to know froma sag male, or male in general I suppose, or someone with experience with this, whether his behavior indicates that he was acting on impulse and is now wanting to come home.

Why are you unable to work?

I am on disability right now taking care of some health problems. I'm sorry, but I don't understand what this has to do with my question.......?

Sound to me lie he wants to come back. Just ask him what his feelings are. He probably feels he screwed up and is afraid to say so and talk about it.

Sound to me like he wants to come back. Just ask him what his feelings are. He probably feels he screwed up and is afraid to say so and talk about it.

How do I do that without him feeling like I'm putting pressure on him?

Also, I ended up texting him last night because I felt overwhelmed and I told him how I feel and that I do want him to come home. Then after I calmed down I texted him again to apologize for freaking out. He texted me back a couple hours later when he woke up and told me not to apologize I had every rught to feel the way I do, and I don't need need to feel bad for having feelings. I told him I don't feel bad for having feelings, I feel bad about being selfish and making him deal with my feelings. He told me again that I shouldn't apologize, that I didn't do anything wrong.

I expected him to be upset about the texts, but he wasn't. I see this as a good sign...... and I'm reading more into it than what's there?

*am I reading more into it (not and)

He called me at 2am and was crying....... he kept trying to say that he was never coming back but he was crying so hard he couldn't talk and couldn't breathe. I asked if he wantted me to come over and we could talk and at first he said no, but then after like another ten minutes he asked me if I would come over. He could talk when he was explaining that he couldn't talk, but as soon as he tried to get the words "I'm not coming back" or anything similar, out of his mouth he 'd start crying so hard again that he couldn't talk or breathe......... I went over and we sat in the car and talked for an hour and a half, and he still says he needs to go out and experience life, but he talks about doing things that he used to tell me he did before we started dating and he hated. Like going to bars and talking to girls...... when we first started dating he told me after work he usually went to this one bar with coworkers, but he didn't like that kind of thing, he just went along to be social, but he hated being there. He said he'd usually stay for one beer and a game of pool. But the pool was the only thing he was interested in and he'd hang out in the back room alone not even talking to anyone. His brother and his friend are the one's that like to do that stuff, he hates it. I know they pressured him and told him he's too young to be tied down.