saggie quandary

hello peeps.

at the end of 2011 i was working with a sag man who went on to develop a bit of an obsession. we hung out together a few times out of work but whereas in my head was that we were just hanging out cos we got on well, in HIS head we were having a relationship. i take responsibility for that cos i did have sex with him.

anyhow long story short, it all ended with me having to denounce him to the police and have him arrested for threatening behaviour and harassment. he was kicked out of the company we worked for and that was the last i saw of him. he tried to make contact a few times after by calling or texting (i can't block individual numbers on my phone)but on those occasions he was just saying 'hi' and not being threatening....he also sent me a few long emails telling me how i was emotionally challenged and that he thought he was in love with me and slagging off another guy we both knew who he knew i had a thing for. anyway. i didn't respond and i've not heard anything about him until today.

i ran into another former colleague of mine and he said he had bumped into the sag cos he lives near me now (i've only just moved to this area). apparently his first question was about me and if this guy had seen me. fortunately, the former colleague (a scorp) knew about the police being involved in the stuff to do with the sag and so he said he'd heard i'd moved away.

i was really shocked that the sag would be like that after all this time and now i'm worried i might run into him too cos the thing is....i can't work this guy out at all and so to me it makes him unpredictable. i've seen the extent of his rage which is nothing less than total contempt and how in the next breath, it's undying love.

i live on my own with my daughter and not very ferocious dog lola. is this guy likely to hold on to all this after over a year? he's a very violent man with a criminal record and is well known for punching people when they challenge him. one example is when his spanish landlord came to collect the rent and the sag didn't have it. so he's that kind of man and obviously not representative of you lovely saggies but how would you deal with this.

my natural approach if confronted by him would be to ignore him and carry on walking. is that likely to light some kind of fuse in him?

gracias.

btw, the former colleague said the sag was really in his face asking about if he'd seen me. they hadn't even said hello apparently cos the scorp was doing what i would have done, lol.

yeah he wound up punching his landlord's lights out cos he was getting pissed off with the sag for being late with his rent. it's not enough to get kicked out for in spain though cos the law is so biased towards the tenant. the sag could've claimed provocation if the landlord went to the cops cos landlord's aren't allowed to demand the rent in person here.

this sag also has a history of threatening women and so he's clearly all mouth and no trousers. i'm worried if i bump into him with my daughter cos he had started sending her nasty facebook messages before i denounced him. that had been the last straw in fact.

i translated the facebook transcripts and all the other messages he sent me and when the guardia read through it i could tell they wanted to kick the shit out of him.

he used to be a football hooligan bling. milwall i think...did i spell that right?

wow, this is a prime example of shitting where you eat. so you slept with him and then you had him arrested? FUCK.

seeing that he hasnt done anything yet, he hasnt made contact, you should just live your life. why should u operate out of fear?

also, i know u said that you share most of the blame because you had sex with him, but i feel some sorta kind of way because youve painted this man as a monster, when he wasnt always a monster. i mean, why would you sleep with a monster?

still, give him no right to stalk you, but asking questions is harmless...at least in the States.

All mouth and no trousers can get worse. As EEE said, keep the convos light and quick. It might be good to make sure your family and close friends knows that he's around and asking about you. This dude sounds like he needs help...

i'm hoping so seraph. i lack the imagination to come up with some of the 'plots' i find myself entwined in LOL!!! never a dull moment in roxi's world, that's for sure 😄

dmv....yeah he was actually a monster but in all honesty, it kinda turned me on a bit. i know i'll get lambasted for that but i always speak true 🙂

of course i didn't know the extent of his monstery from the off!

Posted by sugaries
Getting along, hanging out, and having sex...why would anyone ever mistake that for a relationship?

LOL....not at my age they don't and not after a short time of knowing someone either. besides, i've got kids and so there's ALOT more than that to a relationship from my perspective 🙂

how many times did u guys have sex? did u have sex after he was arrested?

i ran into another former colleague of mine and he said he had bumped into the sag cos he lives near me now (i've only just moved to this area). apparently his first question was about me and if this guy had seen me. fortunately, the former colleague (a scorp) knew about the police being involved in the stuff to do with the sag and so he said he'd heard i'd moved away.

Did you move into the Sags area, or did he move into yours?

awww shit. the judge is not going to like that.

Posted by DMV
how many times did u guys have sex? did u have sex after he was arrested?

we had sex just once. office party. i actually think he spiked my drink. i've not seen him since he was arrested.

Posted by Wynter

i ran into another former colleague of mine and he said he had bumped into the sag cos he lives near me now (i've only just moved to this area). apparently his first question was about me and if this guy had seen me. fortunately, the former colleague (a scorp) knew about the police being involved in the stuff to do with the sag and so he said he'd heard i'd moved away.

Did you move into the Sags area, or did he move into yours?

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i moved to the sag's area although not right on top of him and obviously i haven't bumped into him so far. i had to move here to be closer to the hospital for health reasons and where i lived before it was over an hour's drive away.

i was told by the police that the case probably wouldn't go to court for about 4 years and all he had to do was avoid arrest by moving. clearly he didn't move very far.