Need advice from Aquarians or other Sagittarius !

Hi Im a Sagittarius Women =] and I have this Aquarian guy friend. We were friends at first with the same group of people. Then I started talking to a guy in our group a Taurus But we werent officially going out so the Aquarius friend and I hooked up multiple times as "friends with benefits" and then his Taurus friend and I got serious and started dating. When Taurus found out Aquarius hooked up with me he was Pissed! They stopped being friends for the whole 4 years Taurus and I was dating..............BUT then at the end of our relationship Aquarius started coming around again and the guys became friends. Long story short, Taurus and I are over each other we stayed friends and everything is fine with us and the Aquarius and him are BFF again

BUT the night we broke up I told the Aquarius I wanted him and we were friends with benefits again for a month then he started feeling guilty and said we needed to stop since he saw my Taurus ex all the time.

Its been 8 months and they are Still friends and im ONLY friends with the Aquarian man NOTHING else BUT I keep trying. He thinks its funny and I do to but at the same time im serious. He knows me very well and says I have a "mode" I go into when I want him and there is nothing stopping me. He cant even hang out with me alone cause he is afraid he will do something hell regret.

Do you think he will not care soon or his mind is fixed ? Do Aquarians fix their mind on things that they define as BAD and that's it? Im his top Lay and we have sick sexual chemistry and I know he wants it but hes not letting himself go there...

***Also I hung out with him for the first time alone in 5months outside of his house (cause he refused to go inside with me) and he was licking his lips, I caught him staring at me and we were talking about how it was fun being friends with benefits, blah blah, we can talk for hours about bullshit BUT he had some strong will power and kept saying NO

Yeeeaaaa... im staying out of this one

@OP: simply reposting the thread in Sag forum just because you didn't get the answer you wanted isn't going to change anything. Nobody's going to validate your actions here or in the Aqua forum...just telling ya.

Posted by dontgetmewrong
Get out of that situation OP... stay away from them both. It's the "Bros first" mentality now....

What does OP stand for ?

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I dont think he thinks negatively of you, he just places a higher value on his friendship

Posted by YellowSubmarine
I don't know what everyone else has told you on the other boards, but I trust beautifulsoul74 is accurate in telling you to stop.

Here's my two cents:

Yes, Aquarius is fixed but you have the whole rest of his chart to consider.

—I'm his top lay and we have sick sexual chemistry and I know he wants it but hes not letting himself go there...??
---> this does not sound like someone that's serious. Frankly, you sound desperate, and I sure hope for your own sake that you haven't actually said these words to him.

—?_he was licking his lips, I caught him staring at me and we were talking about how it was fun being friends with benefits, blah blah, we can talk for hours about bullshit BUT he had some strong will power and kept saying NO??
---> maybe make decisions based on how people treat you rather than anything else? He is saying NO. His actions are saying NO. I lick my lips and stare off too, it doesn't mean I want to fuck the stranger next to me on the corner.

Overall, this sounds like a case of the Sag enjoying the chase — I'm sure once you get him, you won't want him as much. If you wanted him that much in the first place, you wouldn't have left him for the Taurus.

The heart wants what it wants, but in this case, it sounds like another part of your anatomy is running the show.

He doesn't trust you, and I don't blame him. Your only shot is to stay friends but stop pressuring him.

+1

Posted by DMV
I dont think he thinks negatively of you, he just places a higher value on his friendship

I appreciate that ^ and see what you mean. Thanks!

Posted by beautifulsoul74

Posted by YellowSubmarine
I don't know what everyone else has told you on the other boards, but I trust beautifulsoul74 is accurate in telling you to stop.

Here's my two cents:

Yes, Aquarius is fixed but you have the whole rest of his chart to consider.

—I'm his top lay and we have sick sexual chemistry and I know he wants it but hes not letting himself go there...??
---> this does not sound like someone that's serious. Frankly, you sound desperate, and I sure hope for your own sake that you haven't actually said these words to him.

—?_he was licking his lips, I caught him staring at me and we were talking about how it was fun being friends with benefits, blah blah, we can talk for hours about bullshit BUT he had some strong will power and kept saying NO??
---> maybe make decisions based on how people treat you rather than anything else? He is saying NO. His actions are saying NO. I lick my lips and stare off too, it doesn't mean I want to fuck the stranger next to me on the corner.

Overall, this sounds like a case of the Sag enjoying the chase — I'm sure once you get him, you won't want him as much. If you wanted him that much in the first place, you wouldn't have left him for the Taurus.

The heart wants what it wants, but in this case, it sounds like another part of your anatomy is running the show.

He doesn't trust you, and I don't blame him. Your only shot is to stay friends but stop pressuring him.

+1

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Thanks! But im not desperate Im picky. I don't trust guys but Im just comfortable with him and hes yummy...Also I think you mis-understood what I wrote. We were never "together" just had a thing, nothing serious. I didn't leave him for the Taurus. It was just our little secret friends with benefits relationship and we didn't care when it stopped the first time. BUT I think your right its the chase that's making me want him more..

Lol, yeah youre in huntress mode

@NikkiBoop: love, doesn't matter if you were "official" or not because sleeping with him makes it official and you need look no further than what's happened and what's taking place now 🙂

I'm just saying, there's no bending of the rules. Saying it's "fwb"(funny language because friends don't usually sleep together) doesn't change the laws of nature/consequences. It is the chase and this dude doesn't want to mess up things with the Taurus.

Lesson learned I guess..

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Posted by beautifulsoul74
@NikkiBoop: love, doesn't matter if you were "official" or not because sleeping with him makes it official and you need look no further than what's happened and what's taking place now 🙂

I'm just saying, there's no bending of the rules. Saying it's "fwb"(funny language because friends don't usually sleep together) doesn't change the laws of nature/consequences. It is the chase and this dude doesn't want to mess up things with the Taurus.

Lesson learned I guess..

Yeah.. I don't know that sex makes it "official" but it certainly ups the ante for sure!

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You have a valid point and I guess it's my interpretation of the usual chain of events once sex comes into it. Everything's all lovey dovey then poof...expectations...they type you have in a relationship.