Sagittarius male inconsistency w/ taurus

I am a Taurus female (Leo Rising, Cancer Moon, Aries Venus) and my ex is a Sagittarius male (Gemini Moon, Scorpio Venus). We have been dating off & on for 4 years. Since he broke up with me the 2nd time we ended up being together exclusively for 1 year now without dating since he moved 3 hours away after college 3 months ago. I have gone to see him a few times and it went great. But in the past 2 weeks he has been super distant. He has only been sending me 1-2 snaps during the day but we haven't really talked. He hasn't been as romantic either but this is a common thing now where he becomes hot and cold with me after getting very close. He has a very difficult job, but I just would like more effort. I will not go see him again unless we're dating. Should I say something about it or just leave it so we can leave the door open and be in good terms? He makes it so hard because he is so nice to me and appears so genuine. If he was rude or acted like he just wanted one thing, then I would cut him off easily, but I still just can't keep doing this because I don't want to be heartbroken if his intentions are different. Since sags are so chill I should just not say anything unless he asks me to come down again or says he misses me? I just need to focus on my last semester of college and I don't want any drama. What do you guys think?

Wow, nothing in your charts even go together...hm.

Taurus is my least favorite sign in the zodiac. ( no offense )

However, my brother who is a Sagittarius has been dating one for 4 years now and they seem to be really into it. Maybe male sag/ fem taurus works better.

I think you should focus on college and see if he comes around. Leaving you as many times as he has though kind of sounds ( regardless of sign ) like maybe he has some issues with commitment?

Just be careful so you don't get hurt again. But I understand wanting to get some real answers if you love him.

I’m a Sag and I would think that out of sight, out of mind. You should move on. He won’t tell you that he isn’t interested anymore cause you haven’t done anything wrong to him. I don’t think he will be an asshole about it.

But he will be seeing someone or at least trying to, closer to him. You live too far now.

He has a stressful job? All the more reason for sex close to home so he can get some stress relief. He probably does love you. I wouldn’t deny that. But love isn’t enough in this situation, in my opinion.

Time doesn’t really matter to me and I can not do the long distance thing. He has a very social moon. I think you guys will just be friends and get an occasional sex capade if the sex was good. But I think the actual relationship is done.

Thank you, @Sag898! Taurus males suck lol. Yes, he has commitment issues and I have been his only serious relationship. I think you are right though I just won't reach out first and I will be very chill so there won't be a way of pushing him away and making me overthink it even more. I do love him so whenever we are on the rocks I honestly think about him almost 24/7 because of my anxiety & attempting to figure it out. My flaw is always needing to know what is happening and where we stand so it is not a good mix with someone as inconsistent as a sag. Going to try to just move on for my own mental health I think. He is my best friend but I don't think I am as important to him as he is to me. He is the only guy I have met who understands me and the only guy I have ever met who even came close to being what I want. As a Taurus, I am the pickiest person ever.

@saggurl88 thanks for your reply!! I agree I think you are very spot on. I was going to move to his town if he asked me once I graduate in December since I also would NEVER do long distance. I didn't tell him that but I did say that I loved where he lived and gave a few hints cause it really is a cool area but i wouldn't go unless we were seriously dating. I think you are right we probably are both just afraid of letting go since we do have love & respect for each other. His best friend always tells me that him and I need to get married though which always made me wonder why they said that. But yeah it would be best if i move on while I still can without being as attached. I appreciate it!

We are pretty lazy in relationships, meaning I will just stay in one until I find someone more interesting. It’s easy to keep us around if you are fun and consistent. Especially if we love you.

I have a Scorpio Venus like him. Bit that doesn’t mean he is like me. Lol.

I wouldn’t be scared of ending a relationship. I would do it the chickeny way and start a new relationship and just wait for you to say it’s not working. You said the phone calls have been getting lighter and lighter. I would think it was done and go on with my life.

But you guys should both go spread your wings and see what else is out there. It’s college! Go have fun and meet new people.

Posted by Blairjones512

Thank you, @Sag898! Taurus males suck lol. Yes, he has commitment issues and I have been his only serious relationship. I think you are right though I just won't reach out first and I will be very chill so there won't be a way of pushing him away and making me overthink it even more. I do love him so whenever we are on the rocks I honestly think about him almost 24/7 because of my anxiety & attempting to figure it out. My flaw is always needing to know what is happening and where we stand so it is not a good mix with someone as inconsistent as a sag. Going to try to just move on for my own mental health I think. He is my best friend but I don't think I am as important to him as he is to me. He is the only guy I have met who understands me and the only guy I have ever met who even came close to being what I want. As a Taurus, I am the pickiest person ever.

I think your plan sounds good. You sound like a good hearted person. Hopefully this situation gets better for you.

Yeah haha a saggy with a gem moon doesn't sound like the most consistent person in the world lol have you looked at your mars?

Sag898: You do too, thank you very much. My mars is leo and his is virgo! is that a bad/good combo?

end it as friends and allow possibility of reconnect in the future.

but im also with a bull male. its pretty wonderful.

boring sometimes but full of love and support.

Posted by Blairjones512

Sag898: You do too, thank you very much. My mars is leo and his is virgo! is that a bad/good combo?

Well one is a Fire mars and the other is Earth. I suppose it could