schitzo sag?!!!!

okay so me and my sag that i was dating for a bit have not spoke in a month or so. he seemed to be drifting away and i just kinda of let things go. i quit trying to call or write or whatever. we have a mutual friend (his roommate) that is how we met. i have been friends with his roomate for a yr and a half, way before i ever knew he existed. i hung out with my friend last weekend, no big deal. but he forgot his house keys with me. my ex happened to be out of town last weekend. well today i went to take my friend back his keys but could not get ahold of him his phone was disconnected or somethin so i left the keys under the mat. i did not just want to leave them there without telling anyone so i wrote my ex and let him know. i figured he would either not respond or just write ok. then he calls me and is like why do you have his keys, when did you hang out, where did you go, ect 20 questions. i am really not wanting to talk to him or make chit chat as i am upset with him for the way things played out btwn us. so i answer his questions and tell him im busy i gotta go, and he hangs up on me! so i text and say
me: why did you hang up on me?
him: im just laughing to myself right now, plz dont ever call or write me again.
me: no problem sweetheart. really nobody asked you to call me, you did that on your own. a simple ok would have sufficed. take care =)
him: i called cuz i didnt know who you were... ciao

wtf!!! did i miss something here? can anyone decode this ridiculous schitzo sag behavior? did i overstep my boundaries or is he just plain crazy—

This is what happened with my libra. If ever calls me I would probably do the same thing. If you ignore a sag or just stop caring that's gonna hurt their pride and if you ever try to get back in the loop with them they will bitch at you and act like a totally jackass. I'd just leave him alone, sags can get nasty and say REALLY mean things.

i was never mean or disrespectful or hurtful to this man in any way. i went out of my way to treat him well because i felt he was the type of guy who deserved it. so that would knock that theory out of the running. i just dont understand how he could be so cold towards me when i'm the one that got f..ed over in all this. i didnt want to break up, he did. he got freaked out by the future and bolted. i wasnt trying to drag things out by making a scene and embarrass myself so i just quietly let him drift away. was i suppose to fight for someone who told me himself that the thought of committment scared him? i just can't understand where his anger is coming from. he didnt want a relationship so i let him out of one. now i'm the bad guy?

"was i suppose to fight for someone who told me himself that the thought of committment scared him?" Yes. Sags love to be chased and if you keep fighting for them like that they will trust you and want to settle down. It shows your care. We need to feel like if we make this with you, your in it 100% . We aren't like other signs where we will just date for the sack of needing someone by are side. Cause we don't. It's funny, because even for the rep I think sags take relationships more serious than most signs. For the main reason "if" we ever get into them it's for the person not the sucrity. Sag's don't need sucrity. That's why we don't rush things because it is not honest and we want to be friends first and take our time in the relationship. You can't look into the future with a sag and say in a year we should think about moving in honey. That's what scares them off and run for the hills. Live in the moment. That's what you got to do if you want to keep them. Live for the now and there is a better chance they'll stay. And always remind them of that too. We are just in the now. Do that and we'll give you are 1043902943% . You just gotta show your worth it.

i really dont know what to do. i am so hurt and confused by his behavior. he is not a mean person. this is not him, if he truly doesnt like you, he would never waste his energy on being mean. i feel like there is so much more behind this, than the situation i orginally thought we were in. i dont know if i should email him and tell him how his actions have hurt me and try and see if he'll respond or if i should just leave him alone. i just want to know why or how he feels i have wronged him. its like whatever i do i can't win with him. i didnt push for a serious relationship and he did, i just followed his lead never getting more serious than he did and that came back and bit me when he got freaked out. he distanced himself from me, i gave him the distance he wanted and now this is coming back to bite me too.

My guess is that he thinks you are sleeping with the roommate. I think he will question the roommate about it and when he finds out that nothing is going on he will apologise to you if he has any decency. If he doesn't then he is just a jerk anyway and not worth your time.

gs love: i would love to think that was true but they, the roommates don't exactly have the best relationship. he probably wouldn't ask or clarify.

whatthe:

i care about him very much. i thought i was getting over him since we had not had any contact in awhile. although i do have alot of anger towards him for the way things played out. i feel like he just threw me out with the trash, like everything he did for me and said to me was just fakeness. i really find it hard to believe that there would be any reconcilliation between us in the love department for some reason. just with the way he distanced himself from me it was painfully obvious his mind had been made up. i really more than anything just want things to be ok between us, as friends in the least. i dont make it a habit of ending relationships on bad terms and like i said i care about him so i would like to know if i wronged him in some way (in his eyes). but the guy blantantly told me never to contact him ago sooooo here lies the dilemma. lol. maybe i am to much of an open book but i can't stand when people keeps stuff like this inside. if i did something let me know and i'll make it right! just as i would expect someone to do the same for me.

I think if your just totally honest, it will turn him on and he'll do the same. But I think you have to make the first move. (IF you want to.)

Do not contact him again! Not for a while. I know when I am done with someone the last thing I want is for them to pursue me. I get nasty and rude.
He either thought you were screwing around with the roommate (which hurt his pride) or he thought you were using his roommate to somehow stay in his life (conceited Sag guy assumption).
There is always a chance of getting back together but it takes a while for a Sag to come back around, especially if they think there is no challenge. If they think you are totally into them they are bored.

UUUUGGGGHH!!! i hate my friends. lol. so on friday i hung out with my friend the roomate of my ex. there was a group of us goin out so me and my girl friend went to go pick him up. he assured me my ex was out of town and his flight wouldnt be coming in til the next day. so i'm like cool as long as he's not there i'll come get you, i dont want anymore problems. so we walk up to the door and i knock and guess who answers... my ex. my "friend" (if thats what we'll even call him)apparently didnt warn my ex either that i was on my way over. we both just stood there at the door with the longest most akward silence (according to my friend i brought with me) my mind was in a million different places so i dont know how long we stood there but i must of had a horrified look on my face cause all he could manage to stutter out was uh uh i just got home from the airport! so i just asked for my friend and walked past saying nothin else and proceeded upstairs to strangle the crap out of my "friend". i need some ideas on how to murder someone with out getting caught. lol. just kidding. kinda. =P

"or he thought you were using his roommate to somehow stay in his life (conceited Sag guy assumption)."


I was going to say this same thing basically....
I'm going to assume he probably broke up with you because he got nervous about the commitment (as he admitted) and wanted some space and time away from you so he could sort things out. Then you went and hung out with his roommate! - who I will also assume wasn't more than an aquaintance to you...and if he was a friend you probably met him through your ex in the first place.
I know I would be mad, as a sag.
I wouldn't go as far as to say I would think my ex was trying to stay in my life by hanging out with my roommate, but I would think there was some kind of motive there - which would royally piss me off.
So, I'm betting you hanging out with his roommate is only worsening things.

brianafay...

i was friends with the roomate for almost 2 yrs now. much longer than i ever knew my ex, we have been good friends for a long time now. thats how i met my ex. i would never continue to hang out with my ex's roomate if he wasnt already a good friend b4 i met my ex thats just plain disrespectful

Oh okay. Then he's just jealous and acting like an asshole.