So..I caught my Sag boyfriend cheating...

I've been friends with this great guy (or so I thought) for around 18 years. Childhood into adulthood. We were never together during this time, we talked about our relationships, confided in each other, he had two sons, we would hang out, etc...In short we decided to get together and for about 8 months it was great until I discovered via social media (her Instagram) he was in a whole other relationship. One day we were great, saw each other maybe 1-2 times a week. I have a busy life, so I didn't mind not seeing him all the time. I prefer quality over quantity. A mutual friend sends me pictures of him and another woman asking if I knew who she was. I had no clue. I asked him about it, we talked a few hours about the pictures posted and comments on Facebook, he pretty much lied about her, acted as if she was delusional and making up posts about him (yeah okay), refused to admit that what I was seeing was not me being "paranoid". Needless to say once I put my foot down and demanded the truth after growing tired of his blatant lies, he just basically said $ % &^^ me without saying it. He is a Sag, so I didn't expect him to give me graphic details just common courteous. Eventually he apologized, saying he messed up and he was sorry, once I was MIA for awhile. I wanted nothing to do with him but he kept trying to be with me. (Texting saying he loved me, coming over to my home unexpected, etc...) I caught him lying to me again (I know), he voluntarily told me he was sooo tired and sleeping all night when I called but once again there was pictures of him and her booed up at his home on her Instagram. When I asked him if he was still seeing her and to just stop lying, he never responded and I haven't heard from him since. In 18 years we haven't went more than an week without communication. I haven't spoken to him at all in over 2 months. Is this typical Sagittarius behavior?

**Later on I realized I had seen her before at one of his MMA fights, but he was no different towards me and I assumed she was a patron like everyone else. Guess that speaks volumes about his character**

Posted by DMVFangirl
Is the woman the mother of his children or a different woman?

Nope. I knew of most of female friends. When I trust you, I don't check up on you. I don't have time for that. All I know is her name and that she is a 5 years younger than me and him. If that's what he wants, that's fine. But it was no need to do it the way he did it.

Yes it was a different woman. I gave too many sentences w/o answering the question directly. Ugh...this emotional shit.

LOL...I have to laugh. I have no clue. After I found out I didn't care, I just wanted him away from me. I basically woke up and was like who the freak are you and what did you do with my man.

I don't have any advice or insight but I'm sorry this happened to you!! I hope your heart recovers quickly!

Yeah you dodged a bullet honey.

Let that boy go!

Best advice: After 18 years? Go back to being friends. Dont let him get any more of your goodies, but he is obviously a big part in your life. If you can forgive him and at the same time not give in to his advances, just tell him you want to step back and just be friends again, no hard feelings, he is FREE to be with her or whoever else. (This free thing will tear him up he will love the fact that youre "letting" him be free) you two may laugh about this 5-10 years from now

Posted by ragingfirelove
Best advice: After 18 years? Go back to being friends. Dont let him get any more of your goodies, but he is obviously a big part in your life. If you can forgive him and at the same time not give in to his advances, just tell him you want to step back and just be friends again, no hard feelings, he is FREE to be with her or whoever else. (This free thing will tear him up he will love the fact that youre "letting" him be free) you two may laugh about this 5-10 years from now

I would actually like to go back to just being friends. But I haven't heard from him at all. So I'm fine with it. I miss him, but that will go away too. Takes a little longer, we were apart of each others lives for a long time. I've never had him act like this before even when he has been upset with me before. I'm pretty much one of the only people who can piss him off without even being around him. The no contact is my fault because I told him to stay out of my life with his lies. I've never encountered this before let alone from him. Anyways, thanks for the advice maybe it will be applicable in a few months when he gets over me telling him where to go and how to get there. First time I've cussed him out.