A question for you Scorpios

As a branch off of my last topic ... I would like to know what Scorps want and don't want to hear when you've hurt someone that loves you. Do you want them to say anything? Do you want them to do anything, maybe a hug or kiss on the cheek? Of course, this is assuming it may be the last time you see them or speak to them.

Thank you. I guess I shouldn't go in with a set thing to say, because things never gonas planned. I haven't wronged him in any way, he's the one doing the hurting. I wasn't sure if I should let him know that maybe after some time, I'd be open to the idea of being friendly with him. As much as I'm hurting right now, I don't want to completely dismiss him out of my like after 3 years, so I don't know if he would want to hear anything along those lines.

Rockthenerds, here is the original post: https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/scorpio/please-help-3265105/

IntriguesScrop, that is pretty harsh on your end and I am actually going to say I did NOTHING wrong. I did everything for this man and loved him and was there for him even when other people didn't know how I could be. Maybe I'm just not the person for him and he is realizing it now, yes after 3 years, but maybe it takes a little longer for some people to realize it then others. Maybe that is what I did wrong ... the fact that I was always there for him willing to do anything and was loving and caring and kind and extremely self-less ... maybe he doesn't want that and well, there's nothing I can do about that. I'm not going to change the person I am so for you to assume that there was indeed something I did wrong, is pretty judgmental. When we spoke the other night he kept saying he doesn't even know what to tell people because nothing makes sense ... he said he would understand if I did something to wrong him and I was a bitch to him, then that would explain the situation ... but there's nothing to say except for it doesn't feel right for him.

Sometimes people just fall out of love....

😢

Then I guess it wasn't really love on his end to begin with. Come to think of it, he never did verbally tell me that in all the time we were together, except for it was written in a card he gave me this past Valentine's Day.

Anyways, I just wanted to know what to tell him on Friday. I'm not sure how Scorpios react to these things, and obviously he's not as hurt as I am, so I don't even know if it matters what I say.

i'm not very nice if i've hurt someone. tbh, if i've hurt them, i don't like them that much anyway but i just don't wanna know about their 'pain'. it's even worse when you have to reiterate the thing that hurt the person and hurt them all over again in front of you....i just can't deal with it. complete coward. i remember about 3 years ago, i was involved with a leo who had actually left his wife to be with me but i didn't want him...especially as they had kids....i ignored all his pleading with me cos i knew that i had to hurt him to make him go back to his marriage. kicked him out of my house minutes before new year...he was a complete wreck.

but 3 years on...absolutely no contact. he's happily back with his wife and kids and all is tickety boo 😄

if someone hurts you or you hurt them, you have no choice but to walk away imo

I just feel so lost right now. Part of me feels like I still have to fight for him, but I know I'm not what he wants. It's just hard to think that in a few days from now, it'll be the last time I ever see him again. 😢 😢 😢

Don't compare your feelings to his. Because you have no idea what/how he feels. You are in a world of pain right now, its natural for you to be spinning and attempt to control what you do or say in order to get him to act/react how you want him to. But controlling this situation will not give you what you want. Letting go of him will.

Not in time frame you wish, or in the manner you'd like, but in time. You cannot force him to give you something he just doesnt have it in him to give. Most people, myself included, cannot bear to come right out and say *I dont love you anymore*. IF that's the deal with him, and I dont know. What you know is he doesn't wnt to be with you for now. This is like a sudden death. Someone you love drops out of your life....no warning...no reason...yet they are still living and you want answers. either he wont or cant, whichever...but you have ONE choice. To accept what is....and work on living through the pain...a day at a time.

You will heal.

Posted by Virgo84
As a branch off of my last topic ... I would like to know what Scorps want and don't want to hear when you've hurt someone that loves you. Do you want them to say anything? Do you want them to do anything, maybe a hug or kiss on the cheek? Of course, this is assuming it may be the last time you see them or speak to them.

I don't want to hear anything really. If I've ended it, it's over and anyone trying to talk to me, spend time with me, will only anger me because I feel like you're not respecting my wish/request that we go our separate ways. If you want closure and I loved you, I will give you that and listen, if I am in that frame of mind. However, I will ONLY give you that and perhaps reflect on what you had to say afterwards. If your goal is to drag on the "breakup" it will serve you no good and I will eventually see through it--which will, in turn, anger me and you will not get a second chance to "have closure". For the most part when I am done with someone I am done. No phone calls , no msgs, no quick hellos, no cards for my birthday . If I see you on the street and it's the wrong day or time I will more likely cross the street and keep it moving. It sounds cold I know, but IMO there is no real point in pretending or catching up. We are done.

Posted by Sunrays
" I'd be open to the idea of being friendly with him. As much as I'm hurting right now, I don't want to completely dismiss him out of my like after 3 years, so I don't know if he would want to hear anything along those lines."

I would not hint anything towards how the future should look like for you both. I believe that saying this would make him think that you are trying to manipulate the situation.

Agreed!

Thanks everyone for your opinions! Hopefully everything goes smoothly on Friday ... part of me is getting a little nervous!

Don't put all your eggs in one Friday basket....don't be surprised if he flakes on you. Proceed with caution.

My last comment got deleted, ah!

Anyways, no you're not the only one who feels that way. Trust me, there were PLENTY of times when I wanted to bring it up, but he is VERY uncomfortable with affection and mushy/lovey dovey things so I never wanted to make him feel awkward. The inside of the V-day card had a pre-printed message and when you opened it up it said "...but I love you anyways." He wrote a really nice message for me thanking me for all that I do for him, which I know was hard for him to do. I told him the card was probably the best gift he ever gave me and he thought I was silly and said something along the lines of I love you is just a saying.

I hope he doesn't flake on me ... at this point it's only 1 day away.