greenergrl
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Are Scorpio women really this vindictive?
First of all, all you writing here is hearsay.
If his wife hang in there for 23 years.. ask yourself the question, how it would feel to PRETEND.
How long can a person *pretend* to be someone else. If so.. WHY?
I think you should be careful in your judgement.
Good luck to you!
If his wife hang in there for 23 years.. ask yourself the question, how it would feel to PRETEND.
How long can a person *pretend* to be someone else. If so.. WHY?
I think you should be careful in your judgement.
Good luck to you!
Some of 'em can carry a grudge, for sure.
Good luck to you.
Good luck to you.
Posted by greenergrl
My boyfriend of 10 months is still legally married to a Scorpio woman. They were married for 23 years because he knocked her up and they had a long and miserable marriage. He finally left her 4 years ago. She met somebody else within a month and is still with this guy.
They hammered out a divorce agreement quite some time ago, but every time it comes down to filing the papers, she tries to negotiate for more, blaming him for everything bad that happened in their marriage and using it as an excuse to renegotiate their settlement. Apparently she's holding something over his head that he's afraid she'll use to destroy his career, he's concerned that she'll manipulate their teenage kids against him, and she fails to take any responsibility for the kids and their issues-she heaps all of the blame on him. And teenagers tend to have a lot of issues! So he's very patient and has checked in with her every few months since we've been dating to see if she's ready to proceed, only to be met with hostility and more demands.
And you're not even a bit curious as to what this is, if it's true. I mean career ending, perhaps you should be worried....but anyway...
BR>
Posted by greenergrl
That's his story anyway. His mother (who is one of the nicest ladies I've ever met) also gave me an earful one afternoon a few weeks ago about the ex- a similar story to his. Yes, I'm partial because I love him, but I'm about to leave him. He and I have a fantastic relationship, I don't want to break up with him. He's a stand up guy with a heart of gold. But with him being legally married this is a dead end relationship and there's only so long before I get off the boat.
So I came on here to ask a question: are Scorpio women that vindictive that even after 4 years of being separated and finding new love, she would still try to destroy her ex, including his career and his relationship with their children, to get what she wants?
It looks like you have your own doubts about his honesty, despite your words. If you need mama's confirmation to believe your man, then it looks like trust is the issue here, not some "vindictive" Scorp. I actually wondering why you're making this about the Scorp at all. You knew you were getting involved with a married man filing for divorce, no?
Posted by greenergrl
If what he tells me is true, that he really is trying to work this out as amicably as possibly, which basically means letting her do it on her terms, when she's not angry about one thing or another, I can be patient and let him for a bit longer. He's very good to me, and as far as I know he's never lied to me. I have no reason to not believe him, but this seems so crazy to me that anybody would want to continue to play these games long after they've moved on with their lives. Then I learned that she's a Scorpio...??
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She probably is everything that he is saying she is, but at the end of the day she is refusing to divorce him even though she has someone else because she wants to stay married. Immature Scorpios have a hard time letting go even when things are dead in the water. It's about control for her and she will drag everybody in their situation down in the process...even herself and the kids. And if he wanted her out of his life....he would give her any and everything he has and be dead broke just to get out of this. After all it takes two to tango.
Wow, thanks for all of your comments so quickly! Wouldn't you know that as soon as I sent this, I looked up and he had left his planner here. It was open to this month and there on Thursday it says DIVORCE 1:00.
All of those words I used are mine. They are my deductions of 9 months of trying to figure out what is going on and why this divorce has not been underway. Those were my observations, not his words. He doesn't say much about her at all-trying to 'shield me from the darkness', as he puts it. He doesn't tell his mother much either, her comments were based on her observations.
Yes, I do have trust issues over this. He didn't tell me that he was married for the first month we were dating, and when he did tell me, he said that the divorce was almost done. I later learned that, yes, the agreement had been worked out with a mediator, but the papers were never filed. We did talk a lot about this, and I felt that we worked through it, but then month after month, the papers were still not being filed. I know he had gone to talk about it with her a few times, and I eventually learned that she was the one holding it up. He did put it much nicer than I stated it here. I've been not sure what to believe- so I came here to the Scorpio board to understand if Scorpio women are this vindictive. I feel that I should believe him, but then I feel like an idiot for doing so.
That is a good point about him filing, and her choosing to sign or contest. I'm hoping that I will have some good news on Thursday.
All of those words I used are mine. They are my deductions of 9 months of trying to figure out what is going on and why this divorce has not been underway. Those were my observations, not his words. He doesn't say much about her at all-trying to 'shield me from the darkness', as he puts it. He doesn't tell his mother much either, her comments were based on her observations.
Yes, I do have trust issues over this. He didn't tell me that he was married for the first month we were dating, and when he did tell me, he said that the divorce was almost done. I later learned that, yes, the agreement had been worked out with a mediator, but the papers were never filed. We did talk a lot about this, and I felt that we worked through it, but then month after month, the papers were still not being filed. I know he had gone to talk about it with her a few times, and I eventually learned that she was the one holding it up. He did put it much nicer than I stated it here. I've been not sure what to believe- so I came here to the Scorpio board to understand if Scorpio women are this vindictive. I feel that I should believe him, but then I feel like an idiot for doing so.
That is a good point about him filing, and her choosing to sign or contest. I'm hoping that I will have some good news on Thursday.
And you're not even a bit curious as to what this is, if it's true. I mean career ending, perhaps you should be worried....but anyway...
Yes! I am extremely curious. He wont tell me. I am just his girlfriend at this point, and I would definitely not marry him until and unless I know.
Yes! I am extremely curious. He wont tell me. I am just his girlfriend at this point, and I would definitely not marry him until and unless I know.
And you're not even a bit curious as to what this is, if it's true. I mean career ending, perhaps you should be worried....but anyway...
Yes! I am extremely curious. He wont tell me. I am just his girlfriend at this point, and I would definitely not marry him until and unless I know.
Yes! I am extremely curious. He wont tell me. I am just his girlfriend at this point, and I would definitely not marry him until and unless I know.
Posted by ellessque
and we BOTH had venus in libra too.....LMAO
it could have went on for YEARS if we didn't have a mediator 😛
My Venus is in Libra too 🙂
Posted by ellessquePosted by GeorgiaPeach
but at the end of the day she is refusing to divorce him even though she has someone else because she wants to stay married.
This isn't even logical.
Why would anyone do this? you gain nothing.
I can't speak for all scorpio women but we really aren't known for juggling multiple partners. I'm sure there are exceptions.....but you were really confident in that statment, as if it's a "known" trait.
Call me manipulative, vindicitive, even "Bitch".....but more than one man in my life at a time...I will never impose that kind of disrespect on myself or others.click to expand
Shes controlling. I didn't say all Scorpios just the immature ones.
The question asked by the OP was about the wife. I wasn't trying to blame her for everything. Like I said before it takes two to tango.
Posted by ellessque
Maybe she is, maybe she's not.....but I don't know how anyone can control two men and why they would even need to. That would be a miserable existence.
He needs to take accountability for himself and his life....his action and non action and the fact he didn't come clean right in the beginning....and why he's withoulding now.
It's easier to blame *her*....then he doesn't have to own a damn thing.
I totally get that. I will end the relationship in the near future if the divorce isn't forthcoming. I thought I would give it a year- that's two more months. The bottom line is that he's legally married and he needs to grow a set and deal with the situation, or he loses me.
Not that it's an excuse, but I was really wondering what he was up against here. He's had a working relationship with her because of the kids and didn't want to make waves. He stuck his head in the sand, ignored the fact that his marriage is still legally binding and hoped it would go away. It obviously didn't.
But his wife isn't insignificant, or what I should say is that what she could do to him isn't insignificant. She is still his kids mother and she could make life very difficult for him. She could hire a lawyer to contest the divorce and drag this through the courts. She could turn the kids against him and create further emotional toll on them. She could expose whatever this secret is. From what I understand, none of that is beyond the realm of what she could, and may still, choose to do. This all sounds so extreme. That's why I came to this Scorpio board- I learned that she's a Scorpio-supposedly the vindictive sign. I'm a Virgo, I like to wipe of my hands of the past and move on, dotting "I"s and crossing "T"s and moving on. Done, next...If my marriage ended 4 years ago and I had a new love, I wouldn't still be plotting revenge. But he's treading so lightly because he thinks she might be.
Posted by PhoenixRising
And you're not even a bit curious as to what this is, if it's true. I mean "career ending"? perhaps you should be worried....but anyway...
Posted by greengrl
Yes! I am extremely curious. He wont tell me. I am just his girlfriend at this point...click to expand
Funny. My scorpio grandma, who has been divorced since before I was born, still talks about my grandpa in a negative light. So I say to you "good luck!"
Posted by PhoenixRisingPosted by PhoenixRising
And you're not even a bit curious as to what this is, if it's true. I mean "career ending"? perhaps you should be worried....but anyway...
Posted by greengrl
Yes! I am extremely curious. He wont tell me. I am just his girlfriend at this point...
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Oooo love Misfits!
it depends on what you did to make me even want to carry that mindset. but still, i wouldnt take 4 years to destroy a person. sure i'd destroy them, but i'd leave the kids out of it. has nothing to do with them. you dont pit your kids against the other parent because you both made them. i'd say what i meant the first time so i can take you to the cleaners in one big painful swoop. but i wont waste 4 years on you when i have a great person already. it takes away from the good i can be giving to the new person in my life.
that bitch needs to get her mind right. if it takes you numerous tries to crush a person, you're not on your game. 1 big move is all you need. but like i said, it depends on what you did to make me want to do that in the first place.
that bitch needs to get her mind right. if it takes you numerous tries to crush a person, you're not on your game. 1 big move is all you need. but like i said, it depends on what you did to make me want to do that in the first place.
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They hammered out a divorce agreement quite some time ago, but every time it comes down to filing the papers, she tries to negotiate for more, blaming him for everything bad that happened in their marriage and using it as an excuse to renegotiate their settlement. Apparently she's holding something over his head that he's afraid she'll use to destroy his career, he's concerned that she'll manipulate their teenage kids against him, and she fails to take any responsibility for the kids and their issues-she heaps all of the blame on him. And teenagers tend to have a lot of issues! So he's very patient and has checked in with her every few months since we've been dating to see if she's ready to proceed, only to be met with hostility and more demands.
That's his story anyway. His mother (who is one of the nicest ladies I've ever met) also gave me an earful one afternoon a few weeks ago about the ex- a similar story to his. Yes, I'm partial because I love him, but I'm about to leave him. He and I have a fantastic relationship, I don't want to break up with him. He's a stand up guy with a heart of gold. But with him being legally married this is a dead end relationship and there's only so long before I get off the boat.
So I came on here to ask a question: are Scorpio women that vindictive that even after 4 years of being separated and finding new love, she would still try to destroy her ex, including his career and his relationship with their children, to get what she wants?
If what he tells me is true, that he really is trying to work this out as amicably as possibly, which basically means letting her do it on her terms, when she's not angry about one thing or another, I can be patient and let him for a bit longer. He's very good to me, and as far as I know he's never lied to me. I have no reason to not believe him, but this seems so crazy to me that anybody would want to continue to play these games long after they've moved on with their lives. Then I learned that she's a Scorpio...??