Attention All Scorpios...I need your help.

Well, I am back. I finally broke it off with my Scorp for good. I wrote him this very heart felt e-mail and his only response was...you are not mad are you? I asked him not to come back to my place of business but to send another representitive because it would be best for all. He said he couldn't do that.

Please scorpions...help this Aries out and let me know how you would react to this letter. If you are new to this site, please look at my previous comments for a background. Thank you.
The following is my good bye letter..may he rest in peace...Good Luck to poor Laurie. I hope that you have the same awakening that I had someday...save your cervix along with your dignity..while you can.

Dear Lonnie,
I have been trying to express something to you for quite some time and you seem to be preoccupied and not understanding the seriousness of the situation. Please understand that this relationship we have is not me. I care about you, but I am concerned that we have let the physical side of this relationship sink to a very shallow state....mainly having to do with lack of communication, frequency, and also the lack of any type of soulfulness. The entwining of the souls are the true essence of sensuality in any sacred sexual relationship or practice for the most intense purposes and gratification. There is, I am sad to say, no sacredness in our sexual interludes. I so greatly desired to develop this karmic connection with you and thought, from what I was seeing and feeling from you, (actually, I was catching glimpses of it) that you could offer something as precious as this. I guess I was wrong.
I am not into shallow relationships.

I haven't shared with you that I am studying and practicing the sacredness of sex through tao and tantra and thought that you might be a candidate for such practices. I am sad to say that I have lost that hope.
This practice is such a fulfilling experience and I hope you have the opportunity to experience it someday for yourself or, to the most gratifying level, with someone that you truly care about.


I feel that I have been quite patient with your current situation considering the information that you gave me, hoping that in a reasonable amount of time, certain opportunities would present themselves. But I have come to the sad conclusion that there are no meaningful opportunities with your present situation.

As a friend, I am asking that you really think about what you are doing. You are either totally with this person that you presently cohabitate with or you are not. If you are not being true to yourself, this will surely reflect in other areas of your life. To do otherwise is simply unhealthy for everyone involved. Life is way too short to play games. If you are happy in your present relationship and your situation, then embrace it.

I am asking that you please send another representative from your company to my place of business....I believe it will be best for all.

-Apollo

"Go placidly amid the noise and haste, and remember what peace there may be in silence. As far as possible without surrender be on good terms with all persons. Speak your truth quietly and clearly; and listen to others, even the dull and the ignorant; they too have their story. Avoid loud and aggressive persons, they are vexations to the spirit. If you compare yourself with others, you may become vain and bitter; for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.
Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans.


Keep interested in your own career, however humble; it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time. Exercise caution in your business affairs; for the world is full of trickery. But let this not blind you to what virtue there is; many persons strive for high ideals; and everywhere life is full of heroism. Be yourself. Especially, do not feign affection. Neith

I think that was a very mature, articulate letter that while clearly expressing your emotions, was not over-emotional, needy, whiney-sounding, or bitter. I would think this letter will be very effective for what you're trying to do. The only tiny thing, though, is that there is an element about it which is pretty detached-sounding (not quite "cold", but getting there). That may be how you want it to sound, though, and in that case, good. If he is any kind of true Scorpio (lol) *and* he wants an emotional connection with you, and/or a relationship, this will drive him insane and he'll be furious, furious I say. 🙂 Because of the detached thing. But, if he agrees and knows that there isn't enough of an emotional connection between you as of now, he will accept this letter pretty well and may even be able to be friends with you.

Good luck!

Phoenix
Thanks for writing back. I don't know if I could be friends with him. I am still emotionally attached and to see him without having him is going to be tough. Remember......my moon is in scorpio so the intense,emotional attachment is coming from there even though my Aries sun just wants to kick up my heels and go on an adventure and forget about him. Maybe his moon is in Aries...that would be something.

I would rather he just go away. I feel if he tries the friend thing, it will be coming from a place of insecurity so that I will not rat on him or because he is making money servicing my place of employment....and I really don't need an insincere, insecure, friend....like that. That was his only concern about the letter is why I didn't want him to come around. So either he saw it as a door cracked to stick his foot back in or it didn't look good professionally...who knows? He kept trying to touch me and said "don't you like this?" I said "Under different circumstances I would but no...he continued I grabbed his hands and said "no....you need to do that to Laurie." He didn't know what to say at that point cause he has never mentioned her name to me. I was given that information from one of my friends over in Canada. I said..do you know what my situation is? He said no, so I proceeded to tell him that I was getting emotionally involved ...you know how women are and he shook his head yes...then I said , and you were not. He just looked at me and said "how do you know that?" "There you go saying things for me." I apologized but come on....in reality, actions speak louder than words could ever do..you lunkhead.

I have to watch my emotions cause a part of me sees him as a person in a predicament....not expecting this child in the first place (he is turning 40 this year)and to avoid hassles of child support and visitation is doing what is best for his son. But in reality, there are laws that will entitle him to his parental rights...and hassles are a part of living so deal with it.

Honestly, I think he likes coming home to a hot meal, clean underwear,casual sex with baby moma, baby boy there and then severely screwing around on the situation when he is at work.

My friend just got a divorce over there. If you marry a Canadian, and then, pop a couple of kids,divorce, the support you can receive is phenominal! Plus, their not so bright government gives you approximately $ 200 per month, per child to everyone just because...so, in reality, it is a wise financial move for lunker to live with her considering she has a 13 year old from another relationship, lives in what looks like government housing, and is hardly doing a thing for such living! Wow....Shallow Hale & Haley Part II!

Did you ever read the book...(the title is something like this...I have lent my copy to a friend so I can't quote it )How To Spot A Bastard by His Star Sign. It is outrageously funny....very negative of course but right on the money.

So that is it for now. As for me, I am on a roll....doing things that are good for me....and I genuinely feel like a huge weight has been lifted. I sometimes think of him...mainly at night when I am in bed...or sometimes when the phone rings at work...or someone else with a shaved head minus all the earings walks through my office..which is rare, but happens. I think of what could have been, and I still get sad. But I have to think, maybe he took my advice and is going to straighten up and be a good father and whatever to her and at least put forth some sort of effort towards discipling his sexual prowness. It just wasn't healthy..what was going on was really bad to the bone!

I think it is prowess...isn't it. Whatever.

Hi TinkyB.

I know you must be in a very hard place in your mind right now. I know he has been 'under your skin' for quite a while. You needed to make a decision about this, and from what I read in your letter, that decision was sound for both of you. No one is entitled to take what is not theirs. His childs mother deserves more from him too. His child deserves more from him. He needs to stop sitting on the fence. Sex for sex sake, isn't a fulfilling experience for anyone. Sex in it's highest form is a holy expression of selflessness.
I will send pleasent thoughts to you and yours, and know in my heart that you will find a great future, because of your brave decision on this relationship.

Love from Candlegirl the LEEBRA

Candle girl...it is people like you that makes life worth while. Thank you for being a positive light in my life. This has been a tough road, but, with support from people like you, the load is a little easier.

There is still a part of me that wants to call him and tell him to bite my ass!

Write to me at Yahoo and let me know how it's going out west.

Hi Tinkerbell,

Your letter was great and I admire your strength! I understand all about wanting to forgive someone for their weaknesses because of the predicament they are in, but really we aren't helping people when we make excuses for their bad behavior are we? I think we just end up hurting ourselves.

You did the right thing, and I think you are right about not maintaining contact. He doesn't sound like he would be a very good friend if he has taken advantage of his situation so much already.

Good luck to you...

Thanks for your support ScorpGal ....I am sorry if I sound like I am stereotyping scorpies...I know you guys are all different..the evolved opposed to the butter eating crustation that I was involved with. Sometimes I wondered if he was a little touched in the brain if you know what I mean...it was like he wasn't there.