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Competing with a Scorp's Passions - Seekin Advice
I've been in a similar position with the scorp I'm seeing now. Though we have never been "just friends." I allowed the intimacy to go on without the established, relationship-boundaries that I had been so used to from previous relationships.
I questioned often, am I being used? He doesn't express much in conversation about how he feels for me, so I was stuck reading his actions. For months I went in and out of "I'm okay where we are, I appreciate the time I spend with this person, and there is no reason to push him to somewhere he doesn't want to go" and again, like I said, in my insecure moments, questioning why he kept me in his life.
In one way, you should take what your scorp is saying at face value. You don't want to get involved in a fruitless situation if it is indeed fruitless, or if it isn't what you're looking for. On the other hand, if there is part of him that may warm up to you as time goes on, you could appreciate what you have with him now, and appreciate the slowness of the situation. Perhaps some day it will mean more to the both of you.
I think that an honest conversation with him about your concerns, but with no pressure for him to respond in a way you'd like him to, but to respond in his own, honest way, might be best. Or maybe just let it be what it is for now, and enjoy what you can about it.
I know what you mean though, about it being hard to hold yourself away from him intimately. They are sexy, those Scorpio dudes. That's why I allowed the physical relationship to continue, when I was questioning what was up. I tried to call it quits once, and it was impossible, haha.
I questioned often, am I being used? He doesn't express much in conversation about how he feels for me, so I was stuck reading his actions. For months I went in and out of "I'm okay where we are, I appreciate the time I spend with this person, and there is no reason to push him to somewhere he doesn't want to go" and again, like I said, in my insecure moments, questioning why he kept me in his life.
In one way, you should take what your scorp is saying at face value. You don't want to get involved in a fruitless situation if it is indeed fruitless, or if it isn't what you're looking for. On the other hand, if there is part of him that may warm up to you as time goes on, you could appreciate what you have with him now, and appreciate the slowness of the situation. Perhaps some day it will mean more to the both of you.
I think that an honest conversation with him about your concerns, but with no pressure for him to respond in a way you'd like him to, but to respond in his own, honest way, might be best. Or maybe just let it be what it is for now, and enjoy what you can about it.
I know what you mean though, about it being hard to hold yourself away from him intimately. They are sexy, those Scorpio dudes. That's why I allowed the physical relationship to continue, when I was questioning what was up. I tried to call it quits once, and it was impossible, haha.
A little off topic,
But is that an iMac I see in your sunglasses, intrigued? 😛
But is that an iMac I see in your sunglasses, intrigued? 😛
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I've been waiting all year for my tax returns to splurge on one
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