Is My Scorpio Girlfriend Using Me?

The beginning of the relationship was great like all relationships. Then she gradually started becoming more secretive which is expected from a scorpio, and I respect that. My concern is that I'm in a long distance relationship with her. These past few days, I've tried calling her multiple times and she has not bothered to reply to my calls. When I finally got in contact with her through text and asked her why, she said she was too busy. I know that she's busy, but it honestly doesn't take very long to call back or text back saying that you're busy right now. And she rarely ever shows affection to me, I feel like she's always playing hard to get, no matter how much affection I give her. (the one time I asked her about it, she says it's hard to show affection when she's stressed) These past 2 days, I've decided to shut myself out and not contact her until she contacts me because I found it rude that she did not reply to my calls. But she has yet to contact me and now I feel like she doesn't even care. I know scorpios tend to get really quiet and secretive when they have a lot to deal with but there has never been an instance where she hasn't returned my phone call. So does this mean she's just been using me the entire time or maybe she doesn't love me anymore? She still tells me that she loves me occasionally but only when I say it to her. But ever since she told me she was "too busy to return my call," I just don't know if I believe what she says about truly loving me. This situation is also really weird because it's completely out of the blue-we didn't even get into an argument or anything. She has scorpio in sun and venus and sag moon. I don't think it matters what sun sign I am but I'm willing to give it if needed.

I do, but at the end of the day, I wonder if she even cares and it constantly worries me.

I am an aquarius sun and we met about a year ago. Aside from dating, we've known each other for several years as just friends but due to complicatons i've had to move to a boarding school. She's 17 and i'm 18 and we go to separate high schools. Do you want the back story as to how we met or how the complications started?

I feel like I'm not challenging enough to her, and I tend to let her manipulate me. But everytime I tell her, she just shuts off and I don't know what to do. Being a fixed sign, I know I'm pretty vulnerable to Scorpio manipulation but I need to get her to be contacting me, not me always chasing her. I thought Scorpios tended to be really affectionate so I have no idea what's going on. How can I get her to be with me more?

yes, i am very aware of my actions, and i've been very kind to her in every way possible, which is why I don't understand what's going on. I am aquarius sun, taurus moon, and pisces in venus. Is there anything else needed?

You make an interesting point. I think what I mean by that shes using me is that she just wants someone that she feels she can control. (of course i don't know for sure so that's why I'm asking) If she would even call or text, I would be fine, but she is constantly moody when she talks to me and never shows any sign of wanting to be with me. But she still says she loves me when I ask her. I'm just lost as to where I am right now in this relationship and I don't know what I can do to make it work out. And I don't know as to how giving it time would help it work out either =\

sorry, double posted above.

to be honest, i think the signals she's sending you should be clear enough for you to walk away. perhaps all she needs is to wake up to herself as far as you're concerned and if you're not playing her game, she'll get pissed off with it soon enough.

i personally think you should walk away completely. i'm usually all over someone i'm into. i prefer to respond to rather than instigate calls or texts but if i like someone, i will always respond immediately or when i've stopped being busy..even if, like you said, just to say i'm busy, talk later.

either way. you need to stop talking to her and shift your focus away from her. you're close to my son's age and i would be advising him the same if he were in the same situation....you're too young to be this intense about someone. 🙂

okay thanks, that makes a lot of sense. Just one last question, I know scorpios are all different but if they say they still love their boyfriend, is it necessarily true?

i was completely full of shit when it came to boys at that age. it's just a game without depth or meaning. you have to learn to toughen up, concentrate on reading the clear signals she's sending you and stop analysing what you don't know about. deal with the facts which are that you're unhappy with this relationship. think of yourself and stop trying to second guess her.

there are soooooo many more fish in the sea 🙂

thanks for the answers!

I don't understand why the OP is getting so much attitude from some of you. I don't care how busy you are - at 17 I doubt she's THAT busy - but if you have a partner then you also have an obvious obligation towards them! I mean you can't just pretend they don't exist, no matter how busy you think you are.

All I can say is that she's just not that into you.... and her being a Scorpio she's probably doing someone else. Not because she's a Scorp, but because there is no hot 'n cold with them. When they are into you, they show it. When they don't show it anymore, it's a red flag!