Confusing venus in scorpio !!!

Venus in scorpio confusing . Positive signs . He trusts me. He can read me. He's protective of me. He cares about my health etc. He's real comfortable around me. Negative. At first he said he's not ready for a relationship . Things turn bad when my feelings increased and he wants no commitment yet he wasn't seeing anyone else. Now I asked him and he said he still love his ex girlfriend but they would never get back together . He posts songs very close to my situation between me and him yet he says what he posts are inspirations not feelings. When I asked him face to face before if he still love his ex he said a big loud " no" and I believed him .. I feel like I'm being tested for numerous things or am I just imagining stuff in my head. Ps: we stopped seeing each a while ago coz I wanted more n he said he wasn't ready for a commitment. N he didn't want to lead me on etc. Please help. Is it the real truth he is telling me?

Stuff he posts are very close to me and him . Since he met me he's changed in so many positive ways. Stopped drinking. Etc .. N the song was about a man changing for a girl because he's so in love with her. How he's ready to commit and settle down Etc. How much his life has changed etc. .. Before that I was at the dancing competition and he posted a song about how much he loves this girl because she's independent and she's got her own life and Persuing her own dream. It was about me to a tea. He write songs n I know I read into lyrics . There were never songs about not being over ex girlfriend. So I'm confused as hell. Ps: I am still unsure if I am over my ex as well. I thought I was. Is he mirroring my action or am I just making things up ...

I don't see what's so confusing about it.
-He's not ready for commitment - BELIEVE HIM
-He still has feelings for his ex - Believe Him
-The songs do NOT equate to his feelings - He told you this.
-He's honest and not trying to lead you on. - He's telling you he doesn't have feelings (yet anyway)

You're reading way too much into this hoping to validate yourself. He's not testing you. He's not changing for you (that is for himself), but you probably are a good influence on him. He's not mirroring you. This is just how it is. Until he gets over the ex there isn't room for new love.

Venus in scorpio takes a LONG TIME to fall in love. They also take a LONG TIME to fall out of love (unless they are betrayed in the worse way). Once a venus in scorpio allows themselves to love, we love with our whole being. If a venus in scorpio is in love with you, there will be no doubt at all. The feelings are very intense. We want to possess our lover. We can be kind of smothering if the venus is turned loose.

Now all that said, he likes you. He's honest with you so that means he respects you, but doesn't want to hurt you, which he knows he will. He doesn't have any business seeing anyone right now.

Time will tell and I'm not saying this couldn't work out in the long run, its just that really he's truly not ready for commitment. He needs to get over his ex first.

You're probably better off walking away, but don't burn the bridge completely. In time, he will be over her. Sounds like he's on his way, so walk for now, but keep the option open for the future.

Oh, I have venus in scorpio. I just know how I am and figuring he's probably similar.

Posted by truecap
Oh, I have venus in scorpio. I just know how I am and figuring he's probably similar.

Thank you true crap. I am drawn to our friendship and the fact that he never shared anything about himself to anyone but me is a good thing. The fact that he's opening up to me about his ex is a good thing also. I asked if he's secretly waiting for her return. He said "noooo" she's taken and there's no way they will get back together. He said he will live heart broken. So yeah. I am moving on too.! I told him I'm seeing someone too. Which is true. Thanks for your insights!

Whoa! this sounds exactly like my ex Scorp and I.
It went on for 5.5 years. We have just started chatting again, and going for walks with his dog.

I told him I have given up on him/us. I believe that is what made him comfortable for him to
invite me for walks again. Would you agree Scorps?

However, I am not over him. I declined walks the past couple days, as well as an invite for supper yesterday.

I know I will leave his house upset, and can no longer do that to myself. My heart can't take it.

He is still texting me though. I'm not sure what to do about that.

I agree with TrueCap??_..you probably are better off walking away, as difficult as that is, but not burning the bridge.

Hugs to you, as I know how this feels : (

SunTauVenGem..

I remember most of your posts. The one thing that was blatantly clear in every relationship you mentioned or dating scenario..this craving of yours to be loved. You subconsciously attract the type of people who will hint at that and you assume "this is it! this is the soul merging shit I always wanted". When more likely than not, these people come into your life to teach you to give this depth of love to yourself first. I should know, I was stuck in the same dynamic (hello water venus).

You need to tone down these expectations to be able to see the real person, to get to the core of it. Would love be worse if it didn't follow the intensity pattern you crave? It would be more sane for you, rather than over analyzing this. Right now, this thing you crave is being the master of you. Step back, lighten up. If it's meant to be, it will reveal itself in time.

Posted by SunTauVenGem
Please help. Is it the real truth he is telling me?

Posted by SunTauVenGem
I told him I'm seeing someone too. Which is true. Thanks for your insights!

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😕 wtf?

Something I have learned from experience:

When a man says "they are not ready to commit/be in a relationship" it means they are still in love/ really holding on to someone else. If one was to be completely over someone, they would have no problem getting into a new relationship.
And this is how distractions are created. A man says he loves a new woman just to distract his mind from a past love, that he is still in love with. And the woman end up broken hearted/used, Ive seen it too many times.
So when any boy tell you they are not ready, it is true, especially for venus in scorpio because it is hard for us to move on. We give ourselves completely over, we fall very hard. So when we are no longer wanted it is just like someone ripping your insides out... one of the worst feelings.

Here is what you should do: Keep in contact. Give him time to move on from this past love. Treat him as a friend, not a lover. He's still holding a candle for them, wait for it to blow out completely, or you will never get close to him.
Tell him you are there for him. But I mean your feelings are gonna grow and grow while he is still stuck in the middle.
You are a taurus so I understand the attraction is strong here, but you got to give him time! 🙂

Have you told him that you really like him?