do all scorps do this.....?

im an aquarius female and i was married to a scorpio male for 10 years. we got divorced 4 years ago. we have 2 teenage kids. when we were married he would make it seem like i was the worst wife in the world (to his family). he would whine and cry to them about what i "didn't" do. i think he did it because he was no angel. so needless to say his family hated me up until this year when they realized that he is a liar and have used the same "poor me" stories with every woman he's dated since me. he still blames me for the divorce. why? is he nuts? one thing i can say is the sex with him was awesome all throughout the marriage. do all scorps feel like they are the victims?

do you still love him?

i love him but not in love with him.

Yeah more a man thing than a scorp thing. Sounds like my libran ex husband quite a bit. Grrrr.

Definitely a man thing. My ex-husband (Capricorn) did the same thing to me. He kept his mouth shut about me in public, but in private the breakup was all my fault. What it boiled down to is he got tired of trying to change me and coming up against my resistance. Silly man.

thanks everyone. he is just crazy as hell. not my problem anymore.

"he would whine and cry to them about what i "didn't" do."


Actually, that doesn't sound like a man-thing to me, rather, a people thing.

In fact, 99% of the population in here are female and whine and cry to other people besides their significant others about how aweful their man is to them, and call it ...... venting.

So, I don't see how it's unreasonable for a man to need to vent.

At any rate .. you're finished with him, so it doesn't matter. I thought I would just point out that women do this too .. in fact, you just did with creating this thread.

Later

i didn't whine and cry to you guys about the things he didn't do in this thread. i gave little info so i could get some feed back on my question. lying and making yourself out to be the victim is not venting. sorry.

My only point, baby .. is that for him to speak to his family about whatever his problems were .. is NOT just a man-thing.

You're right, you didn't whine .. I take that back. Sorry

My point was ... people were saying in here that it's a man-thing to do this and it's not ... all people seek out others who will be sympathetic to them. I'm not addressing whether what he said about you was a truth or a lie, right or wrong ... I'm merely saying that it's a people-thing, not just a man-thing, to whine, or vent, or lean, or any kind of emotional support with another person when their life is screwed up.

It's a people thing to do that .... we all do it, male and female. And all the women in here were telling you that it's exclusively a man-thing and it's not. Women do it, also.

Now addressing the topic ....

All people have a certain self-righteousness about us. Do we error? Of course we do .. however, we also don't readily admit it and will look for avenues in which to find fault that will hold ourselves blameless.

So, I don't think what he said about everything being your fault is a man thing or a Scorpio thing .. it's a person thing.

Daily, we get people in here telling us how every relationship they've ever had that screwed up was somebody elses fault ... this is normal.

Lying isn't right, I'm not condoning that ..... however, I think it's perfectly normal for a human being to find an excuse why something wasn't their fault, so they can pin it on another person.

p-angel i do agree that women do it too.it's just that i have had two experiences both with scorpio men (birthdays actually 7 days apart) where they have acted like the victims that's why i asked do all scorpios do this? nobody likes to be the person at fault.

"where they have acted like the victims that's why i asked do all scorpios do this?"

That has been my experience as well baby. With these men, it's always YOUR fault. Nothing you ever do is right. But then, would they let you go or find the perfect woman they are looking for? Noooooooooooo...because they just want YOU! They're insane.

But then again maybe I'm a little biased. The only men I've ever known close enough are scorpios.