Do Scorpios ever go back to someone

..come back in what way?

Why did he leave?

Depends on the timeline of events for your particular relationship, but

In my experience: yes, they do.

But: it's never the same.

Even if they want it to be. Even if you want it to be. It never will be the same; nor will it be "better".

The best you [both] can hope for is "different", but it would require you both to be different people, if only slightly so, for even that to work.

Sounds like youre leaving something out. Did you argue? Behave badly? Did he flat out say he wanted out?

Posted by cancerrose

Posted by kim30
Sounds like youre leaving something out. Did you argue? Behave badly? Did he flat out say he wanted out?

No nothing happened, he just went *poof*

I reached out twice, once he ignored, second he said he has just come out of a relationship and wasn't ready for another, although I said I wasn't either (not sure if he was telling the truth or not)

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There's a possibility he went back to, or is trying to go back to, his ex.

Or he was lying about not wanting something serious.
If seen more than one scorp male do that.

It's a weird dichotomy..

- If the "fault" (for lack of a better word) lies with him and he realizes it, there's a good chance some inner force will compel him back around. Whether that force be guilt, nostalgia, genuine affection, or something else entirely completely depends on the individual(s) and circumstances involved.

- HOWEVER, if he does come around and you accept him back knowing he was at "fault", there's a very good chance the same force that compelled him to you will then drive him away again.

Posted by cancerrose

Posted by kim30
Sounds like youre leaving something out. Did you argue? Behave badly? Did he flat out say he wanted out?

No nothing happened, he just went *poof*

I reached out twice, once he ignored, second he said he has just come out of a relationship and wasn't ready for another, although I said I wasn't either (not sure if he was telling the truth or not)

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You may need to read that over again.

He ignored your first attempt to reach out and you don't know if he's telling the truth or not, yet this is someone you think is worth your time?

Whether or not he is lying seems irrelevant honestly, he stated that he is not ready for a relationship.

May I ask what makes you want him back? If it were a long term relationship, I'd understand. But a short courtship?

Oh dear! I wasn't rolling my eyes or any of that. Its easy to feel a connection to Scorpios period. Doesn't necessarily mean they are meant to be life partners.
sometimes people pass through just to remind us what we want, don't want and what we deserve.

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May I ask what makes you want him back? If it were a long term relationship, I'd understand. But a short courtship?

Yes, I know I seem mad and it is obvious he won't be back

I'm sure you will roll your eyes when I say I felt a 'connection', but its true.. After all the men I've met in my lifetime, I am fairly intuitive and it felt like we 'understood' eachother on another level. That was until he pulled this. I also have never been treated so well by a man, until he pulled this also.
I know I will have to forget about him.. but still, it makes me wonder how someone could walk away from something that could be so special without even trying to wait and see.
Obviously he is not the one, otherwise he would have not walked away... but it makes me wonder if he would come back

I'm not going to roll my eyes. promise. It's okay to be angry.

Sometimes people just aren't on the same page......they might be perceiving the relationship different than the other......or it simply is just not the right time. All sucky reasons when you think things are rolling along just fine.....but all enough to make you upset when you realize you were in it, sort of alone.

don't beat yourself up....

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Posted by kim30

sometimes people pass through just to remind us what we want, don't want and what we deserve.

Best damn thing you've said.

I agree, and would include those who help us to realize that we want/need something different, or more than we originally thought.

Those people can be invaluable, even if their presence is temporary.


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Posted by Rabbit
Yeah...

They always say "nothing happened..."

smh

pffft...always

They do.. My ex did. He broke up with me in 2008.. A few weeks later after he told me if he missed me. It was an on and off relationship.. ended in 2009. last summer we started talking again for a bit.. Just friends now though.

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Posted by TwirlingStrawberry
that doesn't make any sense.

Ok, let me try to be more clear.

If a scorpio has been dating somoene for a few months, then for some reason decides they do not want to continue seeing this person, so they stop contacting you. You then reach out, but they ignore.

My question is, do the scorpios ever come back after disappearing, and after ignoring a person?

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If you were just dating and it was "open" dating (meaning you both had the knowledge of seeing other people), he may have come across someone he had a better connections with. The ignoring part is immature and cowardly imo. If he shows back up, I'd definitely get that crap out of the way and let him know it would've been nice to just say I'm no longer interested instead of being rude. Then I'd ask him why he's back IF he shows back up.

Posted by cancerrose
This is really weird, but I actually heard from him yesterday. Maybe I sensed he was going to contact which is why I posted here? 😛

Anyway he just asked how I am, I responded to him, but not in an overly friendly way (because he did after all dump me), just in a cool way.. But I don't know if I came across as too off??_ I don't know if he will take that to mean I am boring, or if I am distracted/not interested??_

I guess it doesn't matter too much.. he's not asking for me back after all.

oh..ok. Well, yea, whatever you do, don't make yourself a "Plan B" with this guy. Straight up ask him what the hell he wants from you. If he doesn't give you a direct answer...MOVE ON.

I take it he didn't apologize for the ice out either right?

pfft...don't make time for him. Make time for you and find a man who isn't a coward.

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Posted by LetltB
I take it he didn't apologize for the ice out either right?

pfft...don't make time for him. Make time for you and find a man who isn't a coward.

I reached out twice back when he pulled away originally, once he ignored, second he said he had just come out of a relationship and wasn't ready for another, although I said I wasn't either. And he did apologise for not responding originally. So I don't expect another apology as he did already

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Oh..ok, I'm glad he apologized. Well, your antennas are up, nothing wrong to feel out what it is he wants from you. If he does happen to ask you out on a date again, I'd ask him what he would do if the roles were reversed. It'd be interesting to see what his response is. Good luck.

Posted by cancerrose
..that they may have previously ignored?

YES...but often the someone doesn't know it.

Ok, but if you're both different this time around, and you're still drawn to each other, why wouldn't it work this time (Scorpio man/Pisces woman)?

Posted by IrresistableScorp
If the plug hasn't been pulled, the door is still open. Trust me you will know when the plug is pulled. You'l look for the Scorp and they will be nowhere, a shadow, a non-energy in your life. You won't feel them. You won't even be able to tap into a coherent thought about them--remember how you could feel your scorp thinking about you? GONE.

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Posted by TwirlingStrawberry
that doesn't make any sense.

Ok, let me try to be more clear.

If a scorpio has been dating somoene for a few months, then for some reason decides they do not want to continue seeing this person, so they stop contacting you. You then reach out, but they ignore.

My question is, do the scorpios ever come back after disappearing, and after ignoring a person?

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Scorpios come back to people they really want , but sometimes they (or at least me) have the "you are dead to me" approach .. That means he is gone for good


But I am actually wondering why u want him to come back after he went "poof" on you once?

Posted by silentkiller

Being hurt and a scorpio, you will never forget that hurt. Ever.

You're a SAGITTARIUS.

Why do you pretend to be a Scorpio? Does that give you a free pass to act/be a certain way?

Many, many dxpers are born on cusps who don't pretend to be the sign they're not. I'm curious...

Posted by shellshocker

Posted by silentkiller

Being hurt and a scorpio, you will never forget that hurt. Ever.

You're a SAGITTARIUS.

Why do you pretend to be a Scorpio? Does that give you a free pass to act/be a certain way?

Many, many dxpers are born on cusps who don't pretend to be the sign they're not. I'm curious...

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Maybe they feel more like one

^ I always thought that must be weird cusp to be on.

Posted by Sag89
^ I always thought that must be weird cusp to be on.

I think it must be weird to be on ANY cusp, not being sure where you've landed, exactly-- but it does seem that one should always be looking forward; not backwards.


*shrugs*

Posted by Sag89
^ I always thought that must be weird cusp to be on.

idk... maybe it's tougher for a Mutable to be on the Fixed cusp, but self -awareness is about accepting who you are, whether you like it or not. I have 4 Sagi bffs... 2 are on this cusp and tho one is a bit more aggressive & critical, they are both still true Sags.

My ex is a Mutable/Fixed cusp. I'm with a Mutable/Fixed cusp, now. I'm a cusper too. I would love to pass off some of my inconsistency to being part Gemini.. but that would be making excuses

Posted by silentkiller
Sun: sag
Mercury: sag
Saturn: sag
Uranus: sag

Venus: scorpio
Pluto: scorpio

I don't understand, how it must be weird being a cusp - that's just another definition, you know?! Because so many people are cuspers

I'm not sure how the placements of your other planets would make you more or less anything.

Plenty of Scorps have Sag placements.

Plenty of Sags have Scorp placements.

*shrugs*


As for what I said about cusps-- I've read, and heard from cuspers themselves, that they feel they embody a great deal of traits associated with the other sign.

Or both.

Typically it's the approaching sign, though-- I don't know anyone on the other side of a cusp.

Yes, I know I seem mad and it is obvious he won't be back

I'm sure you will roll your eyes when I say I felt a 'connection', but its true.. After all the men I've met in my lifetime, I am fairly intuitive and it felt like we 'understood' eachother on another level. That was until he pulled this. I also have never been treated so well by a man, until he pulled this also.
I know I will have to forget about him.. but still, it makes me wonder how someone could walk away from something that could be so special without even trying to wait and see.
Obviously he is not the one, otherwise he would have not walked away... but it makes me wonder if he would come back

This same exact thing happened when my Scorpio 'disappeared'. It turns out he slept with his ex-girlfriend. He was too ashamed that he ended up doing something that had been done to him in the past. Even though that was years ago, he still enjoys bringing it up, because he's still feeling guilty, and I refuse to forgive him. He wouldn't say anything at first. Ignored me for days. Didn't react when I finally ended it. Offered me no explanation, until I forced it out of him. Lied about his reason for ignoring me / wanting to end things. Told me the truth a year later and has been making himself pay for it ever since.

Whatever drove him away, is 100% not you. He probably did something stupid. And no, he probably won't be back to rekindle things. Maybe he'll be back for friendship, since Cancers and Scorpios have an amazing connection.