Libra here. As Scorpios, do you guys let people know exactly where they stand with you? Everything I've seen till now points to yet, but recently I feel like I'm a bit in the dark. Just looking for some opinions!
Do You Let Someone Know Exactly Where They Stand?
Agreed with Intrigued, and there is also the question of your Scorp's Venus as I know mine overrides my sun in matters of the heart...
need more info..
but generally, yes, i always let people know where they stand because i am really bad at being fake no matter how hard i try, my real intentions always show, so instead i am direct and they know where they stand. however, that changes depending on the circumstances
but generally, yes, i always let people know where they stand because i am really bad at being fake no matter how hard i try, my real intentions always show, so instead i am direct and they know where they stand. however, that changes depending on the circumstances
Alrighty, I'll attempt to condense it as best I can. Basically we worked together for about a year. We were in the same department and in the beginning we didn't talk pretty much at all. That continued for about four months (started in Jan of 12 at this job) until we all had to sit in a conference room for a week while our suite was being remodeled. From that week on, we talked everyday, usually about nothing of importance. We referred to it as "mindless entertainment".
During the Summer we continued to talk daily, text/Facebook, and went to a number of concerts. Held hands once, but nothing too much more then that. I met most of her friends, one of her brothers, and her mother (when I met her mother she said "oh John from AC" another story, but basically an interesting one that I don't think one would tell their mother). During this entire time she never mention seeing anyone or having an ex. Also, I never asked either.
Around September she began to flake out on things we had planned. Always an excuse and I sort of went with though eventually the straw broke the camels back. Two weeks after that she apologized saying basically a lot of things were going on in her life and that she did enjoy spending time with me. I should note that during this entire time she was looking to leave the company, mainly aiming for Texas, but willing to go where ever.
It was in November I found out she was seeing her ex again, who lives in Texas. She didn't tell me, I basically heard through the grape vine. I accepted it and continue things as they were, still talking daily and texting throughout the week. In December she got a job and planned the move to Texas. We were suppose to see each other the last week of December, but it ultimately didn't pan out. We did still text throughout the week though.
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During the Summer we continued to talk daily, text/Facebook, and went to a number of concerts. Held hands once, but nothing too much more then that. I met most of her friends, one of her brothers, and her mother (when I met her mother she said "oh John from AC" another story, but basically an interesting one that I don't think one would tell their mother). During this entire time she never mention seeing anyone or having an ex. Also, I never asked either.
Around September she began to flake out on things we had planned. Always an excuse and I sort of went with though eventually the straw broke the camels back. Two weeks after that she apologized saying basically a lot of things were going on in her life and that she did enjoy spending time with me. I should note that during this entire time she was looking to leave the company, mainly aiming for Texas, but willing to go where ever.
It was in November I found out she was seeing her ex again, who lives in Texas. She didn't tell me, I basically heard through the grape vine. I accepted it and continue things as they were, still talking daily and texting throughout the week. In December she got a job and planned the move to Texas. We were suppose to see each other the last week of December, but it ultimately didn't pan out. We did still text throughout the week though.
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When she left we didn't talk for ten days and then out of nowhere she texted me. We talked via text for an hour or so with her saying good night and that she missed me. Things ramped up again and we basically were back to where we were before she left. In May we really were talking just about everyday again and during one conversation she invited me to visit her. About two weeks ago I let her know I was planning on coming and that I would book the flight, hotel, car then give her the details. She immediately said not to book a hotel, she had two bedrooms in her apartment. It was at this point that she said her ex had moved in and I'd have two people to show me around.
Thus I ask where exactly do I stand? Obviously, I know she wouldn't cheat and I would never put anyone in that situation. To me it always seemed that perhaps when things weren't great, she talk to me more and when they were good she'd talk a bit less. I also question why she never told me about seeing her ex (prior to my planned visit)? I can see where it would probably wouldn't be any of my business, but it's not like friends don't tell each other their seeing someone.
I'm definitely good with being friends with her, but I guess I just wonder what the past year was really all about.
Thus I ask where exactly do I stand? Obviously, I know she wouldn't cheat and I would never put anyone in that situation. To me it always seemed that perhaps when things weren't great, she talk to me more and when they were good she'd talk a bit less. I also question why she never told me about seeing her ex (prior to my planned visit)? I can see where it would probably wouldn't be any of my business, but it's not like friends don't tell each other their seeing someone.
I'm definitely good with being friends with her, but I guess I just wonder what the past year was really all about.
I have learnt to let people know where they stand now.
She did not talk about her ex because:-
a)It is a private and personal matter
b)There was no guarantee of success in the pursuit of her ex-she may or may not have been able to get him back but was nevertheless trying hard.We scorpio's like to win at everything and often try and erase all attempts of failure/don't talk about them.Its an ego thing.So she decided not to tell you about this 'pursuit' of hers then.
The past year was all about being around you when the ex-was not there with her.Pardon my bluntness but you were a substitute she filled her time with then.
She always saw you as a friend and continues to see you in the same light even now.But not as 'more than a friend'.
My advise to you is not to read too much into a scorpio female spending time with you henceforth unless she says she wants to be involved.Another thing to do when in doubt is to ask where we stand and demand a direct answer.
Hope this helps.
She did not talk about her ex because:-
a)It is a private and personal matter
b)There was no guarantee of success in the pursuit of her ex-she may or may not have been able to get him back but was nevertheless trying hard.We scorpio's like to win at everything and often try and erase all attempts of failure/don't talk about them.Its an ego thing.So she decided not to tell you about this 'pursuit' of hers then.
The past year was all about being around you when the ex-was not there with her.Pardon my bluntness but you were a substitute she filled her time with then.
She always saw you as a friend and continues to see you in the same light even now.But not as 'more than a friend'.
My advise to you is not to read too much into a scorpio female spending time with you henceforth unless she says she wants to be involved.Another thing to do when in doubt is to ask where we stand and demand a direct answer.
Hope this helps.
Sucks, but I basically figured that's what it was. A heads up would have been nice, nothing I can do about it now. Thanks for the help!
If a scorpio is interested romantically U WILL know, she kept u as a backup plan just in case....
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