I'm a Libra and I just want to know straight up what the deal is. Very complex situation. I'm in love with a Scorpio- married, player, sleeps with women for sex. We got together last fall for sex only then realized we should be doing business together. Got along very well, business happening and then we both caught feelings (I truly believe he is a soulmate) and he stopped having sex with me because I started feeling guilty. At first I initiated it but then after was so angry about it because I wanted him. I kept working with him, and we both had sexual energy but he would get mad because I was resentful and would "act out". I got deeply involved in his business his family etc and knew the entire time like I was being tested almost felt like to be his wife. But it was love/hate and in the last 2 months would argue all the time. I felt if he was 50% committed to me and 50% not. Well I had it because he claimed he had my back and something occurred where he clearly did not. He's very selfish, immature and cruel. But the hard part is I am still in love with him and want him and love the challenge and we were successful at business but I could not take how cruel he was to me so I backed off and I feel like we have lost the connection and he has given up. It's always stop and go with him and def toxic. I'm curious if you think he loved me or in fact was he just using me? And will he ever come back for love? I think he treated me bad because he couldn't afford to care for me and my issue wa I always threw truth in his face and he can't handle truths so direct about himself. I know him well but he says he respects me in business but not in personal. Please let me know your thoughts. I know I can do better but I'm obsessed with him. Should I move on or hang in there? Will he gain interest back in me and love me?
Does he love me? Will he come back?

I'm gonna go with "using you" otherwise he'd be by YOUR side right now and you wouldn't be asking this question in the first place. Know what I mean?
Thanks. I agree he doesn't respect himself and actually cares for no one. He told me he only respects his mother and God. Agree with the rest I guess. He did stage a lot. Sad! What's the best way to make him miss me and realize he took me for granted?
I still think there was love at some point but he pushed it away.
What about all the testing though? He constantly tested me?
Ok thanks
Love that. I used to think about the mirror thing but not sure lately
Agree he taught me a lot about myself and I do think we were very similar at times. I do believe that he loved (may love quietly) me but he's not willing to lose his family over it. He said that I'm dangerous and don't have enough control for him. That's his own issues for his own life. I appreciate all of the learnings and I know I deserve better but he was just special and I know in my heart somehow we are soulmates even if you may have more then one or whatever I know we were together for a reason and I don't agree fully with the first poster I think he partially used me but I do think deep down he cares for me, but just can't afford to care fully.
I also do think he's been by my side through my healing process in his own selfish (not good enough for me way )
I also never imagined myself to be in this situation but at times I feel so confident that I fit perfectly by his side. It's strange but gotta move on.
I was also reeled in he scouted me for 2 years...
Also his wife knows....

Aren't you scared the wife will kill you—?
How do people do that? I'd be scared.
How do people do that? I'd be scared.

No it's a culture thing

I know how you feel, and I thought the same as you before joining this site and talking to people here as well as talking to my closest family and friends. I was dating a Scorpio man and we would have major breakups and stay broken up for a few weeks until we got back together. I am slowly realizing that he used me and made me believe that we were in love, but when things got tough or whatever, he would abandon me. In fact, this happened again to me last week which is why I joined this site yesterday. I know that it hurts, and I know that you still love him, but you deserve a man who comes back willingly, not when you just beg him to come back or when you have to go out of your way to make him come back. I'm not saying it's over for you officially, but if it was meant to be, then he will come back on his own. In the meantime, live your life the way you want to and try to find happiness within you. Hope this helps. Good luck, stay strong, and remember: you're not alone and there are many people who are going through what you're going through. 🙂

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Posted by Librascorplover
Agree he taught me a lot about myself and I do think we were very similar at times. I do believe that he loved (may love quietly) me but he's not willing to lose his family over it. He said that I'm dangerous and don't have enough control for him. That's his own issues for his own life. I appreciate all of the learnings and I know I deserve better but he was just special and I know in my heart somehow we are soulmates even if you may have more then one or whatever I know we were together for a reason and I don't agree fully with the first poster I think he partially used me but I do think deep down he cares for me, but just can't afford to care fully.
I guess you and I just define love much differently.
I define it as total reckless abandon. You asked if he was using you or not. There is no "I was KINDA using you." If he kinda was, then he was. There is no grey area. You can't help who you fall for and I'm not going to blame you for your feelings. That wouldn't be fair. But it kinda seems like you've built this fantasy around him where he wasn't as bad the initial impression you gave off. There's no shame in having mixed emotions but I'm not sure what you want to hear at this point...? 😢

Posted by seffleePosted by Librascorplover
Agree he taught me a lot about myself and I do think we were very similar at times. I do believe that he loved (may love quietly) me but he's not willing to lose his family over it. He said that I'm dangerous and don't have enough control for him. That's his own issues for his own life. I appreciate all of the learnings and I know I deserve better but he was just special and I know in my heart somehow we are soulmates even if you may have more then one or whatever I know we were together for a reason and I don't agree fully with the first poster I think he partially used me but I do think deep down he cares for me, but just can't afford to care fully.
I guess you and I just define love much differently.
I define it as total reckless abandon. You asked if he was using you or not. There is no "I was KINDA using you." If he kinda was, then he was. There is no grey area. You can't help who you fall for and I'm not going to blame you for your feelings. That wouldn't be fair. But it kinda seems like you've built this fantasy around him where he wasn't as bad the initial impression you gave off. There's no shame in having mixed emotions but I'm not sure what you want to hear at this point...? 😢click to expand
she wants to make him miss her uncontrollably.

Posted by Librascorplover
I'm curious if you think he loved me or in fact was he just using me? And will he ever come back for love?
Love,in a true scorpio's dictionary, is sacred and a scorpio does not 'engage' with multiple people when in love.We demand exclusivity and remain loyal.Your situation is not even close to this.
Posted by Librascorplover
Should I move on or hang in there? Will he gain interest back in me and love me?click to expand
It never was 'love'.If the interest was genuine,he would stay on his own and treat you with respect.I suggest getting on with your life and focusing on yourself instead of worrying yourself sick about 'what if's'.

Agree with that! I guess the best questions are : how do I move on from him? He finally made a decision and said that he doesn't want me because I'm dangerous and have no control. On one hand I'm so happy a decision has been made on the other F him! What a sick sad and not good person for what I've done for him. But I'm trying to be strong and just he glad I'm done and realizing how sick he is. Now I'm worried about me and healing.

Posted by Librascorplover
Agree with that! I guess the best questions are : how do I move on from him? He finally made a decision and said that he doesn't want me because I'm dangerous and have no control. On one hand I'm so happy a decision has been made on the other F him!
So, the only reason you are asking how to walk away from him is because he told you he doesn't want you anymore.

Posted by Librascorplover
What a sick sad and not good person for what I've done for him,. But I'm trying to be strong and just he glad I'm done and realizing how sick he is.
While it's never ok for someone to mistreat someone, stop playing the martyr here and blaming him for doing things you allowed him to do and would still be allowing him to do if he hadn't called it quits. Maybe he broke it off because he doesn't like hurting you or how it makes him feel. I don't know. But You have issues. You need to check out your own behavior. If you continue, you will find yourself always in these kinds of situations.
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