does this scorpion guy loves me?

we know each other for two years now...i don't know whether i should call it controlling or not...beacause he tries to tell me and teach me things which are appropriate...which i agree with him too....
hence the barrier is his religion ..that he belongs to a conservative muslim family and im an christian orthodox

I've been lurking around this site for over a year now, and Angela, after reading your post, have finally decided to sign up.

I was with a Scorpio who's a Muslim as well, and have finally decided a few nights ago to end this romantic relationship. It's been over a year and a half, and based on my personal experience, my advice to you is to stop now, don't not even go there. It's too painful a situation, there may be some good but it'll be mostly heartache and leaving empty handed except with your shattered heart. That's not what love should be.

1) Most Muslims are so strongly socially conditioned, both theologically/religiously and culturally, that an arranged marriage is what will be in store for them. This happens a majority of the time (my estimate's at 99% ), regardless of individual want or desire; it's a collectivist, scarcity-based mindset, where if you are not "with them" (meaning family, parents, especially Mother's wishes), you are "against them". 'Heaven lies at the feet of the Mother'; however unfortunately most mothers are illiterate, uneducated, and haven't been dealt too great of a hand in their own lives, and are given respect only when they become mothers (especially for sons), then wielding control over their children, is their main source of power/security in life. It is a sign of extreme disrespect if the son 'go against' the family's wishes, and he will be ostracized, cause "shame" to the family, and 'dis-owned'. My own experience, regardless of his heart-felt professions of undying love, his story being- has to "honor" his mother's wishes and was "emotionally blackmailed" to be "forced" into an arranged marriage.

2) Scorpio men already have a complex, dark, hypocritical, selfish, arrogant, extreme, confusing, self-absorbed, masochistic and even twisted persona. Even in the best of circumstances, it is painful, traumatic, frustrating, and emotionally draining, spiritually depleting to keep a connection growing. He may very well wish things were different, but because power and control are usually two of the highest goals of his life, will put everything else before you. That is, family, work, religion, what other's opinions are (even if they are ignorant ones he doesn't agree with or even despises), and THINGS, will be more important than you or the relationship. However, in his ass-backward way, he will expect your complete devotion to him as if he's your lord. Your putting him first above all else, he being possessive, jeal

controlling, you apologizing for everything, even when it rains or he's too damn cowardly to be authentic and courageous or responsible and take control of his own (self created) shitty circumstances.

Don't go there. The only way possible and indication towards a happy ending would be if he publically professed his love for you, meaning declared it to his family. Without intention, direction, goals, and outward demonstration/behavior, it is a losing battle you're engaging in; if he and you don't know where you're going, the definition of that is being lost. That is passing time, living in the moment, avoiding/repressing thoughts of the future. Also, in Muslim cultures, there's no such thing as dating, only engagement and marriage. Otherwise, it'll be a long, dark, twisted road, leading to a dead end with you all alone. Save yourself from the heartache and pain. You deserve more than being a subservient, supporting cast member to his life, which ultimately will become insignificant as you'd only be a temporary experience, regardless of momentary passions and heartfelt connection.

In such a masochistic culture, it is "unmanly" and a sign of "weakness" to be vulnerable, and even viewed as "shameful" to be in love (b/c lust and passion; refer to "nafs" in religious & cultural context). It is a very twisted, painful, ultmiately unfulfilling and heartbreaking journey to embark on. I survived a similar context, and don't wish such pain on even the worse of my enemies. There is only so much you can give, so much grief you can take, so much compassion or patience or understanding to have, before you realize that you've forgotten your own existence and best of interests. Love conquers all, and it's a shame that most Muslim men cannot conquer ego, thus forgo possibilities of attaining 'happily ever afters'.

Wow, brilliantgem, that was quite an entrance. 😉