Friendship between man and woman

Is that possible or will there always be sth sexual there?

funny you should bring this up: me (male scorpio) and my best friend (female virgo) have been best friends for around 2 years, now. about two weeks ago she told me she'd been in love with me for the past 6 months, and wanted something more. she knew i was currently involved with a girl and ever since she said what she said our relationship has been really strained.

i think it's possible, but it's very hard, becaue sometimes one party doesn't see the other party sexually, while the other does. or things just don't work out because you know eachother too well in a certain way, or the circumstances (ie life) just doesn't allow for it.

I've never believed men and women can just be friends. One party is always more interested than the other at some point.

Well, I'd like to beg the differ.

In my experience, most of my friends have been men! Due to the fact that I've always been a tomboy. However, now that I am order I do sense a chnage in how I ralte to males verses how the relate to me. It just seems so different now that I am an adult -- being friends with males was so much easier as a teenager but now it seems weird. The guy friends that I do have are the ones I've had since secondary school and my freshman year of college.

But now, things seem really different, guys don't look at me like a "gal-pal" anymore and I don't like it 😢 ... maybe it's because I've changed alittle. I'm definately not the same person I was a year ago so maybe that's it, I've changed!

Same here sb,

I think Branh is getting the whole intergendered friendship thing confused with the "Friend ZONE" OOOOOO what a horrible place to be put into ... that's happen to me before and it sucked. If you don't like me like that, then don't make me your backup chick 😛

I would never put a guy in the "Friend's Zone" Nope, EVER! I didn't like it so why would I dod it to somebody else.

Plus if a guy is my friend he is my friend for a number of reasons BUT he surely isn't a backup!

Most of my male friends are involved with someone. All I am saying is that nearly all my male friends have openly stated that they have had more than friendship thoughts for me. That is not really platonic friendship is it?. I care for them, and still continue being friends with them no problem but they are aware there will never be anything more than friendship. If they are ok with that then fine..I just like men in general because they are straight forward and no pathetic jealousy issues like women have. Thats not to say I don't have any female friends..Cos I have lots of them too..I choose my friends very carefully.

With my experience I'd say there's always something more.. I have never wanted any of my guy friends but the reason why they have been my friends is that they wanted more. And when I've told them about my relationship getting more serious, just "POOF" and they are all gone..

JD,

Do you really believe that ... oh that's terrible if you are right 😢 I think I have a comforting type of persona so they should be able to tell me anything.

However, I do believe that two individuals who happen to be great friendship (not necessarily a best friend, just a good with plenty of chemistry) can need up being a great couple.

LOL, I seen friends break with their girlfriend or boyfriend because they fell for one of their buddies *** cappy shrugs shoulders ***

Mostly I feel awkward with those guy friends I know are interested in me. I try to avoid them. When they tell me that they are interested I stop flirting and I'm trying to avoid their touch or being alone with them. I turn cold towards them. I think it's because I don't feel safe anymore if I know that.. That's when they poof..

Hmmm, I've never turned cold. I've only became indifferent with a guy if he was trying to force a relationship.

Other then that, I've never been cold because regardless if I don't see someone in a LTR type way then I don't entertain the thought. Same with me, if I guy I like doesn't like me the same way then what can I do ..... it will hurt but I will not stop being his friend. Haha, I'll just take certain precautions to make sure I won't get hurt as badly anymore.

It is difficult sweet&sour so I see why you have the type of defense plan.

Well I don't think that good at all, if you like me then indulge it. However, I do see your point JD ..... sadly I do ....

OMG, men and women just make things soooooooooooo darn complicated.

I had been friends with a scorpio male through thick and thin..all throughout his divorce etc, he works with me..on my 28th birthday he bought me a Gucci watch. I thought that to be a little too excessive. I refused to accept the present because in my opinion, it implied more than friendship. He was shocked at first but then said he was sorry for making me feel uncomfortable. Now its all cool. But that hasn't stopped him from dropping the occasional flirtatious comment. Makes me feel uncomfortable especially when I only see him as a friend. There are some who are quite geniune in their friendship and they are the involved ones. But as SB said, even they don't stop at times. I think theres too much temptation and I would hate to break up a solid relationship or even give the girlfriend a reason to think there was more. I hate it done to me so I wouldn't do it to anyone..

Now if a beautiful friendship turns into a relationship at some point..then thats great. But you can usually tell which ones are likely to turn into "more than friends"..

Now if a beautiful friendship turns into a relationship at some point..then thats great. But you can usually tell which ones are likely to turn into "more than friends"..

Really MM —? Well I guess I'm still a bit clueless at this stage. I do know that if I were to ever get married. If it's a friend of mine that I've grown to love, have great chemistry with, and have a good emotional support on both ends.

Honestly, I think people need time to grow and contrary to popular belief ... I think you need to be friends first before you can fully appreciate the love you have ...

One thing that I find may work (I just thought about it actually) let yourself get close to one specific friend the most ... this may rule out dual feelings 😉

"So those who don't want to loose the benefits that you give to those not interested in you, will settle for your friendship."

Haha.. Are there any left?.. 🙂 I know there is this one guy who always asks about me, and tells to my friend how he misses those times we were going out together a lot.. I was also attracted to him so I never turned cold on him. But I was more cautious with him not to show that I was attracted to him.. haha.. I loved those old times, we had great time..

Well JD, I even your approach ...

I been treated like the "gal-pal" for so long, I've just sort of accepted it. However, I would be lying if I were to say that I always like my postion.

Haha, I don't know how to be anything else really ... OMG, I would love to be friends with a guy with a potential for a relationship.

LOL!!!! If you haven't noticed sb and I have been putting a great deal of enphansis on "relationship leading to marriage". Unlike most women of our generation, I think marriage is very appealing to us because it's a very REAL union between two people if approached appropritely .... without all the BS that most people take with them into marriage 😉

This is a big topic because there are so many aspects to look at it. I'll give you a few different sides to see it.

There are some out there not classified in the "beautiful people" catagory. They usually make the best of friends. They don't have to beat off the men/women who are sexually attracted to them. They have tons of friends because of this reason. Their opinion will differ from MM's.

I have quite a few male friends. Our friendship started out of their "attraction" to me. When they have been around me for a while and start to see the real me inside, the sexual attraction subsides and they become a true friend. They start coming to me for advice.

What if your best girlfriend started to drop hints she was into you in more than a friendship (talking to the other girls here). I've had a few g/f start getting moony eyed over me. I was out the other night with my g/f and she needed a shoulder to cry on. She is very trusting in me. She unloads on me alot because I don't judge. Like a good friend should, right? By the end of the night she was all moony eyed and was touching me. Stroking my sides and giving me little kisses on the cheek. I know 99% of you out there would dump her in a heartbeat. Am I right?

Erm I would freak out..I don't like that kind of physical contact with a chick..lol..I love all my girlfriends to death but I can't deal touchy feely affection by members of the same sex..Maybe I'm just a cold callous bitch..lol..

sure

*feels-up missmorals and runs off the thread*

🙂

cheerio!

JD - Me it's the opposite, I would stop being her friend, being a friend when I want a relationship will break me, it's really all or nothing at all.

Yep aint that the truth...going through that phase at the moment. It REALLY is all or nothing with the scorpios..It just works better that way..

LMAO @ Shoen..nutter!..ooooh are u feeling me baby!!..

I feel bad for the girl. She is in some deep shit right now, and I'm the only one that knows how bad. I think she just needed to feel secure with me for the moment. I can't blow her off. She'd probably go suicidal. Besides, we were both pretty drunk.

*pinches MM on the arse and gives a smug wink*

**lesbo alert** - LOL...Well scorpio is a bi-sexual sign after all..We were put on this earth to love..

Comfort her by being there for her..but I seriously would freak..I can't deal with things like that..

both sexes like the dynamic between guy and girl friendship and vice versa i think. there isn't the strain of responsibility over emotions and feelings of ourselves or someone else. When we realize how good we have it with a friend of the opposite sex is when we might begin to wonder what things might be like if... ya know? i think we get the attention we crave when we have friends of the opposite sex.

As for the 'cappy female and her guy friends' discussion... that's an interesting idea. one that should apply to more than just cap women, but in my experience, yea... i guess guys do settle... if they haven't proposed anything and run off from rejection.

"Me it's the opposite, I would stop being her friend, being a friend when I want a relationship will break me, it's really all or nothing at all."

Word. I'm the same way. I've tried otherwise and it just doesnt work out. If I've let myself go so far as to want a relationship with someone, it's probably a good bet that my emotions have taken me. And as much as I'd like to think I could be true enough to my or their feelings and remain a friend, I would at least need a long time apart before I could do that.