Friendzoned by Scorpio lover

I'm new here and just wanted a little advice. I'm a Gemini woman who recently got involved with a Scorpio man. We got along great. Talked for hours, laughed and had what I thought was a good time.

I'm an independent girl.I like to do things on my own sometimes and I like to have time to myself. It seemed like every time we had a break from each other there was always some sort of weirdness between us afterwards.

I'd ask him later if he wanted to hang out and he'd be like "I'm hanging out with a friend" the friend was a girl but he was quick to explain she was just his friend. The next time we had a break it was that his ex wanted him back. It was always something. And what I mean by a break is not hanging out for a day or two. When we were together he was always complimenting me being very sweet very attentive.

When we finally had sex he seemed to be in a good place about it. So a day or two goes by and i'm busy with work and he once again has a bomb to drop.

Someone has really caught his eye and he wants to start seeing her. I'm upset of course and he acts as if I have no reason to be because he was honest. So at that point i'm done with the whole mess. Don't want to talk about it anymore with him. He says he wants us to remain friends because friends are forever blah blah.

So I stopped talking to him. The thing now is he won't stop contacting me to talk about this crap. He knows he hurt me.

If he only wants to be friends and has someone else why won't he let it go and leave me alone?

Tell him your happy for him and you agree with his decision and that'd you would love to stay friends. Say have a great day i'll text you tomorrow.

Than block his phone number, block him from every social media site you have or email and give him a taste of his own PA bullshit.


Than he can not hurt you anymore. You walk away with dignity. And if he is enough of a loon to come by your house after all that call the cops and he looks like a moron.



You deserve better Gem.

It sounds like you're looking for some reason to maintain contact with him, but disguising it in this whole "I'm trying to find "answers" for his behaviour" thread. If it's such a problem, see below:

Posted by Sag89
...block his phone number, block him from every social media site you have or email...

Than he can not hurt you anymore. You walk away with dignity.

It's quite simple.

Posted by Sag89
Tell him your happy for him and you agree with his decision and that'd you would love to stay friends. Say have a great day i'll text you tomorrow.

Than block his phone number, block him from every social media site you have or email and give him a taste of his own PA bullshit.


Than he can not hurt you anymore. You walk away with dignity. And if he is enough of a loon to come by your house after all that call the cops and he looks like a moron.



You deserve better Gem.

Thanks for your advice.It's the best I've heard so far.

Lol ya no problem Khoas : )

From your OP, I don't see where you and he were a couple. — You say you were "involved" with him, but your OP reads like you and he were just friends and eventually added sex to mix. You don't mention that you were his girlfriend. It appears you were always in the friend-zone. Imho, he doesn't deserve your hatred. If you wanted a different type of relationship with him, you should have said something. Did you? If you did, you don't mention that in your post.

So my question to you is how was he to know that you would be upset that he wants to pursue a serious relationship with another woman? I think it was considerate of him to let you know his intentions towards the other woman since you and he are friends after all. If you want to shut him out because you didn't take the step and let him know you wanted to pursue a serious romantic relationship with him then pf course, you can do what you want, but to do so because you missed the opportunity to tell him how you feel is not his fault.

Posted by pathfinder
From your OP, I don't see where you and he were a couple. — You say you were "involved" with him, but your OP reads like you and he were just friends and eventually added sex to mix. You don't mention that you were his girlfriend. It appears you were always in the friend-zone. Imho, he doesn't deserve your hatred. If you wanted a different type of relationship with him, you should have said something. Did you? If you did, you don't mention that in your post.

So my question to you is how was he to know that you would be upset that he wants to pursue a serious relationship with another woman? I think it was considerate of him to let you know his intentions towards the other woman since you and he are friends after all. If you want to shut him out because you didn't take the step and let him know you wanted to pursue a serious romantic relationship with him then pf course, you can do what you want, but to do so because you missed the opportunity to tell him how you feel is not his fault.

You are correct neither of us said the words. There was no label given for what we were doing. But spending that much time with someone and some of the things that were said and done are not things that I do with people that are just my friends. Maybe he does I don't know. And to answer your question. He knew I would be upset because time and time again I told him how I felt for him and he in return told me how he felt for me which now just seems like a load of crap. Apologies for not making that clearer in my post.
Thanks for your input.

Posted by IrresistableScorp
Who initiated these "breaks"? Because if it was you and your independent self you hurt the guys feelings. Once you decided the break was over scorpy poo had taken two giant steps back. If that happened enough times I am sure he directed his attention elsewhere.

Not everything is a game.

I initiated them. I had work and other things I had to do normal everyday things. Work, errands, etc. Nothing major. I never once was rude or nasty to him. I just figured it would have been understood and maybe he had things he needed to do as well. No biggie. But I do think you are right that I probably hurt his feelings. So I guess now we're even 🙂

Thanks for your input.