happykitsune
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Has this Scorpio moved on?
If you didn't want to "rush into anything new" why were you seeing him 2-3x a week for nearly a month.
That's an awful lot of time to spend with someone you are not seeking a relationship with.
He was clearly courting you. If you were not ready you should have declined his offer initially.
This sounds like you led him on; he's hurt and knows that you are clearly not ready for a relationship.
Him telling you he is comfortable wasn't just him talking out of his ass.
He likes you a lot.
Why are you trying to contact him?
Are you now saying you want a relationship with this guy?
Or do you just like him and enjoy his company?
That's an awful lot of time to spend with someone you are not seeking a relationship with.
He was clearly courting you. If you were not ready you should have declined his offer initially.
This sounds like you led him on; he's hurt and knows that you are clearly not ready for a relationship.
Him telling you he is comfortable wasn't just him talking out of his ass.
He likes you a lot.
Why are you trying to contact him?
Are you now saying you want a relationship with this guy?
Or do you just like him and enjoy his company?
Just wanted to resurface this to see if I can get any more advice from the community. Help!
Posted by Koniucha
Plus you didn't do anything wrong. You just slowed things down. If he cares for you, he will be back
Can you shed some insight on the scorpio mind/way of doing things? I feel like a month is a pretty long gap time to not have contact especially since we were only dating for 3 weeks. How long do scorpios take to process things? Was he being sensitive?
Agree with Reincarnation. I'm a scorp and a month without contact is waaaay too long.
Posted by Koniucha
Plus you didn't do anything wrong. You just slowed things down. If he cares for you, he will be back
Can you shed some insight on the scorpio mind/way of doing things?
I feel like a month is a pretty long time to not have contact especially since we were only dating for 3 weeks. How long do scorpios take to process things? Was he being sensitive?
Posted by Koniucha
Plus you didn't do anything wrong. You just slowed things down. If he cares for you, he will be back
Can you shed some insight on the scorpio mind/way of doing things?
I feel like a month is a pretty long time to not have contact especially since we were only dating for 3 weeks. How long do scorpios take to process things? Was he being sensitive?
Posted by Koniucha
Plus you didn't do anything wrong. You just slowed things down. If he cares for you, he will be back
Can you shed some insight on the scorpio mind/way of doing things?
I feel like a month is a pretty long time to not have contact especially since we were only dating for 3 weeks. How long do scorpios take to process things? Was he being sensitive?
Posted by LunarMaiden
If you didn't want to "rush into anything new" why were you seeing him 2-3x a week for nearly a month.
That's an awful lot of time to spend with someone you are not seeking a relationship with.
He was clearly courting you. If you were not ready you should have declined his offer initially.
This sounds like you led him on; he's hurt and knows that you are clearly not ready for a relationship.
Him telling you he is comfortable wasn't just him talking out of his ass.
He likes you a lot.
My thoughts exactly ^^^^
I would like to add after you doing this:
Posted by papersunflowers Also, right before I started seeing this scorpio, I had just gotten out of a relationship (he knew) and didn't feel like rushing into anything new.
So the next day I bring it up. Three times..click to expand
Three times tells me and I'm 100% positive him...you are not over this other guy, because if you were, it wouldn't be mentioned AT ALL. The Scorp did exactly what I would have done. Walked and never looked back.
Posted by papersunflowers Also, right before I started seeing this scorpio, I had just gotten out of a relationship (he knew) and didn't feel like rushing into anything new.
So the next day I bring it up. Three times..
Three times tells me and I'm 100% positive him...you are not over this other guy, because if you were, it wouldn't be mentioned AT ALL. The Scorp did exactly what I would have done. Walked and never looked back.
Oh noo- i didn't bring up the other guy 3x. I brought up how I felt to him saying "i feel comfortable with you" 3x. I tried to make sure we were on the same page.
Posted by papersunflowers
Just wanted to resurface this to see if I can get any more advice from the community. Help!
I think this is just one if those situations where you've learned something and it need to move on.
There is nothing wrong with wanting to slow things down, however there is a way to go about it that doesn't offend a person. You were sending mix messages and you're doing it now. "I want him...I don't....I want him again". That is how the OP reads.
By going out as frequently as you did, and then saying it's too much, too intense is sending a mix message. If you felt things were going too fast, you could have simply eased up on how often you saw him. I'm sure he wasn't twisting your arm to go out, yet you want to play this passive role. Too much? Decline his invitation. You control the pace and go out once a week or whatever works for you. However, instead of doing that, you decided to have the "the talk" which just seemed unnecessary---only because you state you actually liked him. It was also unnecessary to state it three times. Like seriously? Okay, he heard you loud and clear. Problem is, he did not hear what you intended to say. "This is a lot, let's slow it down" came off as "I'm just not feeling you like that". So, like I stated above, lesson learned for you:
1) Stop sending mix messages
2) Stop being passive and
3) Learn how to communicate your intentions and needs effectively.
As for whether or not he's moved on. I can't say for sure. His actions suggest he has.
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