Help! He is moving into my world again!!

Ok, I dated a Scorpio, about 2 1/2 years, I worked out of town he cheated and lied, I finally got the courage to say no more, I dumped him. Our project is put on hold for a while, I am back home and guess who is like a shark circling around me, well it feels line it anyway. I go out with my friends, he was there, sitting with the woman who well, he cheated on me with. He stared at me on and off all night. I said hello when I saw him, but kept walking. HER face was priceless, she was obviously not happy I am home. Ha ha!

Anyways, he comes over to me to say hello, tells me I look beautiful, I said thank you, then my friend comes up, I say nice to see you, he asks if I would like to meet for lunch the next day, I said I had plans, then he asks if I could meet him for dinner, all the while staring at me like ge was ready to pounce. I said I didn't think it was a good idea, ( shit, my knees were weak for gods sakes). Then I walked away. I could FEEL him burning a hole in my back and forced myself NOT to look back.
I went back to my table finished my drink and we all left.

I get a text that night saying when he smelled my perfume, it intoxicated him, told me he missed me and hoped I went home alone. I didn't respond. So in in the morning I get a call and he wants to know why I'm avoiding him and don't want to see him!!! Are you kidding me? Does he not get that I loved him very much! I KNEW in my gut that she was coming on to him, he took great pains to make sure I knew! HE hired her, HE lied to me, HE cheated on me and HE can have her! He told me she was not his type, she was not very feminine and that is what he loves so much about me, I'm feminene and classy, she's one of the guys. His exact words! I told him I can't do this, I said "you hurt me more than anyone ever has, I need time to ge over you before I could ever consider you as a friend". That really upset him.

What is he doing? WHY is he coming after me? Now, his little menagrie of female admirers give me these dirty looks when I see them, I ignore them and walk right by, but I will admit, he is getting to me. I puposley am staying away, I try and keep busy, hanging with my daughter, painting my bedroom, running everyday, even signed up for a yoga class ( great workout BTW). He is confusing me again and I'm finding myself remembering all the good times.

WHY IS HE DOING THIS—?

He doesn't like that you're trying to move on. He's trying to move back into your life before you have a chance to move on. Times your own enemy in this scenario. You sound like you've been keeping yourself busy. Just keep doing what you're doing and perhaps don't communicate with him at all if you can help it

It's not easy, being home, the memories I have, I still love him. When I see him my knees go weak. My head and my heart are fighting this one! In my head I can rationalize that if he loved me he never would have hired 'her', he swears nothing is going on between them, what ever. Then my heart misses what we had. The Sunday mornings soaking in the the tub, reading the paper, then laying around making love and watching tv, driving around and talking by the light of the stereo in his truck for something to do, going to random places and events, we always had such an easy way together. He told me he misses my head on his chest when I slept.

My brother says he is still in love with me. But I can't believe that, he would not have done what he's done if he loved me. When I see that skank he hired? Her smug looks and the way her and her friends treat me? I get furious. He humiliated me. I can't forget that. But I can feel the spark between us when we talk. It is still there. We were talking one evening, and he so gently brushed my bangs aside. It's like we locked eyes for a minute and he kept his hand on my cheek. For one minute it was like we were back in time.

I like a fool have even turned down dates since I returned, and I know it's because of him. When I am out of town? On a job? I go out on dates and have a good time. Here? It's like I said, a shark circling me. I am so scared to put myself in a position to be so hurt again. But what is odd? He is getting very public coming after me. Normally not his way. He will send me drinks, I will go to pay for my meal and he already took care of it. I let my guard down an inch, then I see her. Could he really still love me or is he just playing me for a fool? Why would he want to do this when he has to know he ripped my heart out! He knows how I cried.

I am trying to stay away, but he is not making it easy. I find ad I get ready to go out? I dress in clothing I know he would like, I get mad at myself, but I dont go change either. It's like some sick game. When I didn't deserve to be treated the way he treated me. I still love him so much, and to be back in town, with him it's hard. Could he really care? Could he be sorry for all this between us that he caused? Or am I just some naive dumbass who got played by a master? I will admit, I have not much experience with men. Was married young, divorced and he was the first and only other man I have been intimate with. God I'm

I am going to go run. I can't sit here and stew about this! Or I will cave. I need to run.

If he loved you he would have fired her and not be around her at all. She sounds like she pops up a lot when you see him.

He just doesn't respect you

This pisses me off! I thought I had it under control. I guess not, my head is spinning with what it's, could haves? What an idiot I am.

You need to talk this out with someone if you haven't. Those things we don't get out verbally we inevitably show with our behavior. That could spell trouble for you

I've tried to talk and I hear "oh he still loves you!". But my head says NO!!! He would not have treated me the way he did! I can't go back to that I know in my head. But it's hard. I dont understand why he would disrespect me. I am the one who dumped him, I am the one who is avoiding him. I dont drive my car when I go out I take my fathers so I am
Not so easy to find. I am switching up my hangout to NOT see him.

But WHY the game from him? Why is he doing this?

Posted by Bethann
I've tried to talk and I hear "oh he still loves you!". But my head says NO!!! He would not have treated me the way he did! I can't go back to that I know in my head. But it's hard. I dont understand why he would disrespect me. I am the one who dumped him, I am the one who is avoiding him. I dont drive my car when I go out I take my fathers so I am
Not so easy to find. I am switching up my hangout to NOT see him.

But WHY the game from him? Why is he doing this?

That's the way scorpios are. He wants to get to you and the harder you are to get to the more he'll want to get to you.

My mother literally left town and went away to her parents because she thought my father (scorpio) was untrustworthy. It ended up being others talking crap on him. But he still went after her and called so many times on the phone for her then finally drove several miles just to get her attention.

They are persistent and very resilient. And even if they're in the wrong they will still come after you and feel like they still deserve you

Well, I just ran 8 miles, going to take a hot bath and watch some movies with my daughter. Thank you for listening to me. Men. The thing that gets me? Not even an apology! Like he did nothing wrong! So for him to expect me to even be friends, if that is even possible, he owes me that.

But I'm glad she and little friends are mad that I am back. I'm glad it has rocked her world. He still swears their is nothing between them. But he knew how I felt about her and hired her anyway . Game over.

Exactly...and at this point it's good you're not letting him know he gets to you. Don't let him have that satisfaction. No one like that deserves to have control of your emotions...that's probably what he wants

He wants to play, he just doesn't want anyone else to be with me. It's like going through the breakup all over. It was easier when I was gone. But now? Fresh wounds again.

Id say something like this: "We both know what happened back when (cheating, lies etc). You never paid me the respect of acknolwledging, admitting and making amends for it. IF you are serious now about reconnecting, you will have no problem putting your thoughts together on those issues and coming back to me and being upfront and truthful. Until that happens, I wish you all the best". AND THEN DISAPPEAR! IF he does love you and IF he is sincere, he will put those thoughts together. Dont say it in anger, but very matter of fact. No ultimatums, just allowing him the choice. If he doesnt, and still contniues to play this game, you have your answer. Good luck!

You will never get over a scorpio. Not completely. But this one is NOT worth it. Stay away!!

You are so right, I know in my head to stay away. I don't like how I felt those days as I was learning what was happening. I remember the sleepless nights, the jealousy and the thing was? When I would ask about her he flat lied to me! I know I can't go back to him, in my head I know that. Man, he really hurt me. I need to keep telling myself that. I believed he loved me, and I loved him in return, yet the minute I turned my back? He was out running around partying with others, and hired a woman he knew I was onto! She threw herself at him, it was hell. I don't deserve that at all. In my head I know that. It's not easy. But I'm forcing myself to be strong and resist.