Help me with this Scorpio guy, He is confusing me

It's about this guy I met a month back on an online dating site (Matrimony site identical to match.com). He sent me a req on Nov 29th 2012 & I accepted it the next day. After which we exchanged email addresses & started chatting. I think we chatted a couple of times in 2 weeks and then we exchanged numbers.After some time we started talking & spoke for a couple of times in 2 weeks & then we finally met.

He is a Scorpio & so am I. We instantly clicked after we met & I generally don't prefer getting physically close to guys when I meet them but this guy he praised my hands to glory and started kissing etc them, i found it very wierd & didn't want to meet him again, but when he called and spoke to him, i decided to give him another chance, I had a great first impression of him. Our first couple of dates were amazing where we spoke for hours and didnt know when it would be 2 or 3 am. After we we decided to meet for a lesser time. & last week we met only once for 2 hrs. We kept a tab or time so that none of us is late the next day for work. Infact we even attended an event together with some meetup group after which he told me that he is ok with me talking to other people, but I shouldn't get romantically involved with anyone else since I am romantically involved with him.

In one mth we met around 7 times but only on weekends, never on weekdays, he hardly calls me on weekdays except for the 1st wk when he called. He hardly replies back to my text messages. he doesn't return my calls. He opened up in the 1st few dates & after that I see him going into a shell & not opening up at all. When he meets he talks about everything else but himself. He tries to be romantic etc-that is great but i dont want it.

My Questions:
1. Is this guy really interested in me, or is he just fooling around ?
2. If he is, then do guys who are interested in girls and ask them not to get involved with someone else do not pick up or reply back to calls or text messages ?
3. I am emotionally attached to this guy and I think I am falling in love with him, he knows that & is that why he has gone back in his loop ?
4. I had told him about my past that I was engaged once & that didn't work out, is that why he is behaving the way he is?
5. Are these just my thoughts which are not in the right direction? Should I just leave him and search for someone else or should I walk with him the way he wants for the next 6 weeks?
6. I have been hurt in my past i dont want to be

"We instantly clicked after we met & I generally don't prefer getting physically close to guys when I meet them but this guy he praised my hands to glory and started kissing etc them,"

Kissing your hands? Ewww that's creepy. He crossed boundaries doing that. Seems like a pick up artist to me, they start touching immediately to form a strong soul mate bond.

Emotionally attached? Why? He's done nothing to warrant that kind of emotional reaction. The most he's done is charm your panties off and now he's lost interest.

Do we really have to tell you to leave the guy? Go back and reread what you wrote. "In one mth we met around 7 times but only on weekends, never on weekdays, he hardly calls me on weekdays except for the 1st wk when he called. He hardly replies back to my text messages. he doesn't return my calls. He opened up in the 1st few dates & after that I see him going into a shell & not opening up at all. When he meets he talks about everything else but himself. He tries to be romantic etc-that is great but i dont want it."

Hopefully you haven't had sex with him (sorry for implying that you did). Cut your losses if he's not responding to you in a positive consistent way then there is no reason to continue.

@ nikki, No, I haven't slept with him & I have no intentions of sleeping with anyone before marriage. I made that very clear to him. He says the same thing, but then all guys say it, how many actually believe in it ?

@ aanchalp, I did get v upset last time & i messaged him " i am worried that you don't respond back to my text or vm's. If your not interested then pls let me know i will not text you or vm you any more. " to which he replied " Don't say like that I just wanted to go home and have dinner & rest after a long day & i hardly get to do that " that was the response for that day. No response for the other days when i text-ed him. I do not have his time of birth or even a vague idea about the time. Do you think i can still pull up his charts ? i just have his date of birth & place. do you have the link that will help me obtain his charts ?

the thing is i don't want to be someone's Sunday gf. If he is not interested i think i will just walk away, but i need to know whats in his mind. My intuitions says something is not right, but i can't figure out what ?

Rituv you come across needy and a bit desperate and this can turn a man completely off and send him away. Try just letting it BE what it is even if what it is unclear and uncomfortable which can naturally PULL HIM BACK IN to see why you are not initiating contact, nor rewarding him with more attention for ignoring you.

If he was only seeing you on Sundays then he he never developed real feelings for you. How can he develop a relationship on one day a week, virtually impossible to do if he's not consistently initiating contact, planning dates and aligning himself to have a future with you.

I couldnt login to my previous id, so created another one.

Well, he did give me an explanation on why was he not responding to my calls . He explained that he was very busy with his office work even on a Friday, Sat & Sunday !!!!

What I mean by I don't want to be someone's sunday gf meant that he only meets me on weekends and never on weekdays, he doesn't respond to even a GM text. Well i thought if someone is interested in you, they would talk to you atleast once a week and not only on weekends. Initially he did meet me twice during every weekend, this time he was a bit hesitant.

I guess your right about giving him too much attention, I have decided to ignore him for a week or 2 now. I am not sure if I should respond back if he texts or calls or asks me to meet him.

do you think this is going to work out ? I accept that I do like him a lot, but if he is not going to come back then I don't wanna keep waiting for him !! how do i know that ?

His & my charts are below:

His chart: Is this what you are looking for ?


Zodiac in degrees 0.00 Time unknown
Sun Scorpio 9.08
Moon Cancer 11.37
Mercury Scorpio 17.40
Venus Libra 19.24
Mars Leo 2.25
Jupiter Cancer 6.01 R
Saturn Leo 29.07
Uranus Scorpio 11.56
Neptune Sagittarius 14.34
Pluto Libra 15.05
Lilith Gemini 21.27
Asc node Libra 14.59


My chart:

Zodiac in degrees 0.00 Placidus Orb:0
Sun Scorpio 7.53 Ascendant Cancer 3.26
Moon Scorpio 5.48 II Cancer 27.56
Mercury Scorpio 26.18 III Leo 24.25
Venus Scorpio 19.15 R IV Virgo 24.46
Mars Scorpio 29.01 V Libra 28.27
Jupiter Leo 8.03 VI Sagittarius 2.07
Saturn Virgo 11.24 VII Capricorn 3.26
Uranus Scorpio 16.11 VIII Capricorn 27.56
Neptune Sagittarius 16.38 IX Aquarius 24.25
Pluto Libra 17.28 Midheaven Pisces 24.46
Lilith Leo 2.00 XI Aries 28.27
Asc node Virgo 25.59 XII Gemini 2.07

This is my new id.

His Venus is in Libra which indicates a tendency to vacillate🙂

Give him his space.

Don't ignore him and respond to his messages if you want to stay connected with him even if he doesn't to yours.

Let him come to you when he wants to.

It is not possible to predict whether anything will last this early on in the relationship.

Relax and let things take their own course.

So, i have seen his tendency to not communicate at all during weekdays. He doesn't reply to my msg's or return my calls.

Before last week he would tell me that we will meet next weekend, etc & I would follow-up with him. This time he told me that if we meet for an hr or so each time (unlike our previous meetings where we used to meet at 7 or 8.30 at night and go upto 2 or 3 am) we can meet frequently. & we did meet for 2 hrs last weekend.

So I don't know what to think !! I have dated guys before and I am talking to another guy as well and they make it a point to call me atleast 1 time during the weekdays.

I was worried coz its after a long time, i really found someone whose thoughts about life, relationships, work, ambitions, etc matched with mine & we do share a great chemistry too 🙂

But i will follow what u say and see how it goes for the next 2 weeks. I will let you know as well if this progresses or disappears into nothing. 🙂

thank you.

^She scare you dazed ^.^?

@Sweetscorp13-Wish you luck🙂

Sweetscorp13 You said, "I have dated guys before and I am talking to another guy as well and they make it a point to call me atleast 1 time during the weekdays."

If you are used to men calling you at least one time during the day or the week & you really like that pattern, then keep it that way. This is your standard! Don't ever lower it for one guy that doesn't measure up to it. Good Luck 🙂

Posted by NotYourAverageAquarius
^She scare you dazed ^.^?

What's wrong with my chart —/

Posted by seraph

Posted by SweetScorp13


My chart:

Zodiac in degrees 0.00 Placidus Orb:0
Sun Scorpio 7.53 Ascendant Cancer 3.26
Moon Scorpio 5.48 II Cancer 27.56
Mercury Scorpio 26.18 III Leo 24.25
Venus Scorpio 19.15 R IV Virgo 24.46
Mars Scorpio 29.01 V Libra 28.27
Jupiter Leo 8.03 VI Sagittarius 2.07
Saturn Virgo 11.24 VII Capricorn 3.26
Uranus Scorpio 16.11 VIII Capricorn 27.56
Neptune Sagittarius 16.38 IX Aquarius 24.25
Pluto Libra 17.28 Midheaven Pisces 24.46
Lilith Leo 2.00 XI Aries 28.27
Asc node Virgo 25.59 XII Gemini 2.07

You just be careful where you point all that, y'hear?

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What do I have to be careful about ? Please tell me.

Well, If they don't call then I call them but I keep in touch with them atleast 2 times a week. This guy doesn't return my calls or messages. Did I really scare him away ?

It's been 4 days now and he has not yet returned my txt or call. Seriously !! am I that Scary —?? Sob Sob Sob !!

Na I don't know what you are talking about ? I am not sure how to sure them. I know one thing I can't play games, it stressed me out a lot.

What @ this guy ? Do you think this guy is someone who is go into a shell & not open up ?

When a man slows down in calls/messages that's showing his desire to chase you is gone.....For only reasons HE knows.

I just think he realized you have high morals & you actually plan to wait until marriage. He won't be able to jump In the bed with you anytime soon. If that was his goal with you, then you should be happy he disappeared. You want a guy that's waiting & dying for your phone calls & messages. That's what's exciting 🙂

Posted by SweetScorp13
Na I don't know what you are talking about ? I am not sure how to sure them. I know one thing I can't play games, it stressed me out a lot.

What @ this guy ? Do you think this guy is someone who is go into a shell & not open up ?

That is a LOT of scorp placements....

Just one or two can be powerful or troublesome. I only have sun, neptune and midheaven in scorp and it is more than I can handle sometimes.

Just a moon OR venus OR mars in scorp can be significant

Posted by Rapunzel
When a man slows down in calls/messages that's showing his desire to chase you is gone.....For only reasons HE knows.

I just think he realized you have high morals & you actually plan to wait until marriage. He won't be able to jump In the bed with you anytime soon. If that was his goal with you, then you should be happy he disappeared. You want a guy that's waiting & dying for your phone calls & messages. That's what's exciting 🙂

Well he was the one who told me that he too doesn't want sex, infact he told me that he didn't have sex with his ex gf(his gf wanted it & he said no). And he didn't seem like he wanted it.

Also he himself told me last time that he likes me a lot !!!

So y do guys go upto the extent of lying so much if all they do is dissappear after that. Moreover talking all that crap on first couple of dates is fine, but this was our 7th date. he actually lasted a month with me, i was like " Wow for a change a guy didnt dissappear coz he didn't get sex" & he dissappears !!

So do guys have some time period till which they keep lying ?? & some time period after which they start speaking the truth ??

How does one find that out ??

That's exactly it my friend. Women all over world...Women of every age are trying to figure it out too:

Why Did HE Disappear—??

Unfortunately, Whatever reason a man goes away is something out of our control. All you can do is just KNOW that YOU are fabulous & he was silly to leave you! U think thoughts of how Great YOU are. Not asking yourself :
Why did he go
When did I go wrong
How long will this torture last
Where did he run to
Who is he with
Is he thinking about me at all

Because in the end, you might not ever know this answers. I know you like him, but You can get a headache from worrying so much about WHY he's gone. You seem to have a good heart, don't let this guy rob your joy 🙂

Hi,

I think your totally right to say that I shouldn't let this guy rob my happniess. Guess what, after a full last week of no contact, he calls me on saturday & asks me to meet him. Obviously I am busy getting my hair treatment so I meet him in the evening. We talk nicely etc etc for 3.5 hrs ( we were supposed to meet for 1 hr)& then after that again he has disappeared.

I messaged him yesterday and there is still no response. !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

The thing that pissed me off is that he goes for a meetup on Friday(specially when last week he had told me that he is not sure if he is going to attend). I went to another cultural event & he was concered that I didn't ask him to join me. He too didnt ask me to join him. !!!

Anyways, I am going to give it another week or so & if this once a weekend still continues with no changes I am going to stop taking his calls or answering him as well for that matter.

So when he snaps his fingers and decided to call you, you meet him the same day?

Do you know what message that sent him, right? "Snap, Snap...whenever I snap my fingers, SHE will be there". You need to teach him how to treat you DIFFERENTLY.

Posted by SweetScorp13
It's been 4 days now and he has not yet returned my txt or call. Seriously !! am I that Scary —?? Sob Sob Sob !!

He had already made it clear that he is busy weekdays so he will not connect with you on weekdays.If you're expecting it to happen by calling him/texting him weekdays, it won't happen(guess I already told you that).

Posted by Rapunzel
When a man slows down in calls/messages that's showing his desire to chase you is gone.....For only reasons HE knows.

Not necessarily true.

Also, for a scorp it is the quality of conversations and meetings that matters more than the quantity.

So he does not feel it necessary to stay connected to make small talk/reassure you.

Yup your right, I stopped calling him on weekdays, & weekends how do I teach him to treat him differently ?

I have thought of not meeting him if he calls me to meet him this weekend. Will that work ?

Posted by SweetScorp13
Hi,


I messaged him yesterday and there is still no response. !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

The thing that pissed me off is that he goes for a meetup on Friday(specially when last week he had told me that he is not sure if he is going to attend). I went to another cultural event & he was concered that I didn't ask him to join me. He too didnt ask me to join him. !!!

Anyways, I am going to give it another week or so & if this once a weekend still continues with no changes I am going to stop taking his calls or answering him as well for that matter.

Guess i have already explained why he won't respond.I am not saying it is the right thing to do, but it won't change.

He is a scorp man,fixed in his ways and likes his independence so if he wants to attend an event,he will.

More than wanting to attend the event with you, he wanted to know if you like spending time with him.If you would have asked,he would have been reassured that you do like doing that.

If you are okay with the way things are,are willing to give him his space and be understanding and patient, then continue.

Your call.

Posted by SweetScorp13
Yup your right, I stopped calling him on weekdays, & weekends how do I teach him to treat him differently ?

I have thought of not meeting him if he calls me to meet him this weekend. Will that work ?

It will turn into a typical scorp-scorp power game where both of you sting each other to destruction if you behave that way.

So what about that thing which BigGirlPanties wrote: that if he snaps his fingers, i will be there for him ? He did tell me that its ok to be busy and i may have different plans so i should meet him only when he is free, i mean thats understood, but y say it out, is he trying to set and expectation or indirectly tell me that no matter how much a person reaches him, he is going to meet me only when he is free and it will always happen "Snap" or does it work both ways ?

Posted by SweetScorp13
So what about that thing which BigGirlPanties wrote: that if he snaps his fingers, i will be there for him ? He did tell me that its ok to be busy and i may have different plans so i should meet him only when he is free, i mean thats understood, but y say it out, is he trying to set and expectation or indirectly tell me that no matter how much a person reaches him, he is going to meet me only when he is free and it will always happen "Snap" or does it work both ways ?

He needs his space and respects yours too,so it works both ways.

He doesn't see it as 'SNAP'....just wants you to understand that he is busy and respect that.

Also,it is for you to decide whether or not to be with him.

Posted by seraph

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My chart:

Zodiac in degrees 0.00 Placidus Orb:0
Sun Scorpio 7.53 Ascendant Cancer 3.26
Moon Scorpio 5.48 II Cancer 27.56
Mercury Scorpio 26.18 III Leo 24.25
Venus Scorpio 19.15 R IV Virgo 24.46
Mars Scorpio 29.01 V Libra 28.27
Jupiter Leo 8.03 VI Sagittarius 2.07
Saturn Virgo 11.24 VII Capricorn 3.26
Uranus Scorpio 16.11 VIII Capricorn 27.56
Neptune Sagittarius 16.38 IX Aquarius 24.25
Pluto Libra 17.28 Midheaven Pisces 24.46
Lilith Leo 2.00 XI Aries 28.27
Asc node Virgo 25.59 XII Gemini 2.07

You just be careful where you point all that, y'hear?

What do I have to be careful about ? Please tell me.

You have what can be called a "powerful" chart. And with great power comes great responsibility.

You've got six Scorpio placements. Know how to handle them, and you'll go far. Let em get outta control, and it's going to suck. But this is the beauty with this sort of chart. You're wielding a sword. Just know how to use it. So how do you use it? Same way you learn how to use any other tool at your disposal. Learn about it. Dig down deep into your chart and learn everything you can about yourself. Use astrology in its highest and best expression: self-development.

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Hi,

I took your advice & took my first class in astrology yesterday. It was good. Ofcourse we just spoke about basic start signs for now, but i guess we will cover planets next time and more to go. So I am taking these 6 classes. & hopefully I will know more about my chart & other star signs as well.

She did tell me that i have a powerful chart & I have to learn how to balance myself, i still have to figure out a whole lot of things, but that definately gives me a lot to read on 😄

Regarding the Guy, i think you are right ScorpVenus, he may not see it as a snap & he is busy, or I guess so. I have decided not to worry myself on that till he decides to open up & tell me about himself. I will give him another 3 to 5 weeks more... which is a total of 2.5 months since we met & 3 months since we started talking, if he still doesn't open up then I will start writing on this forum again to check what I should do next.

For now i just have to wait and watch and enjoy my time with him 🙂

Thanks a lot guys.

Hello Everyone,

So after obtaining some advice from all you guys earlier, i think i owe this update to you all.

Last week while discussing about this Scorpio guy with my friend, somehow I had a feeling that I should give this Scorpio a taste of his own medicine.

Till last week, he continued the same thing, no contact on weekdays & a sudden call on weekend to meet up.

So this week I decided to not call him or text him at all and see if he contacts me. & after last tuesday, he has not contacted me at all. I had decided to ignore him completely and see how he reacts if I do not pick his calls or reply to his messages. But I guess now I will not get the pleasure of seeing it. He is gone !!!!!