Compliments?

Got curious, do you guys compliment your love interest?

My Scorp never EVER compliments me. Ever. Seriously. We've been together for a few months and I've gotten one compliment - he said I'm unique (and clarified that he means it as a compliment). He has never told me I look good or cook well or anything of the sort. It's really weird. I don't understand why. I don't need constant compliments but a life without any positive feedback is just scary 😄

Posted by allielee
Got curious, do you guys compliment your love interest?

My Scorp never EVER compliments me. Ever. Seriously. We've been together for a few months and I've gotten one compliment - he said I'm unique (and clarified that he means it as a compliment). He has never told me I look good or cook well or anything of the sort. It's really weird. I don't understand why. I don't need constant compliments but a life without any positive feedback is just scary 😄

*laughs and laughs*

*smiles*

Posted by lisabethur8

*laughs and laughs*

*smiles*

Care to elaborate on that? 😄

Uhm, 'my' Scorp compliments me a lot. But he'll also say it that he doesn't like what I'm wearing. But at that time when he did he also apologized and told me about his ex who was always complaining that he never gave her compliments.

Posted by allielee

Posted by lisabethur8

*laughs and laughs*

*smiles*

Care to elaborate on that? 😄

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I'm waaaaayyy too shy for this. *blushes*

but i am happy with this type of "love" *it's like magic*

while others don't find it magical, it just feels to me, like an aphrodisiac.

I meant 'when he doesn't like what I'm wearing'.

If I wanted love sonnets everyday I'd read Shakespeare. 🙂
He was a genius at that. And storytelling/dramatics and tragedy.

Mine compliments me all the time! He constantly tells me that I'm beautiful, he comments on my outfits, my home, etc.

"You will get compliments and when you do they will be HONEST."

^^Truth..99% of the time, and you will KNOW when it's from the heart. (gotta save that 1% for the grey lizard scorp who does it purely for manipulation purposes)

If your guy isn't complimenting you yet..he's still in observation mode. They will come though.😉

Posted by libraCUSPscorpio
Telling your girl that you appreciate her beauty from time to time ain't no sonnet!! And yes, they'll be honest compliments BUT if that shit goes unsaid for weeks on end, commmme on. Maybe you need some Leo man in your life lol 🙂

This. I think so too. For all I know, he could be thinking that while we have chemistry, I'm not pretty or something 😄 For instance. I don't need constant gushing, that'd be boring, wouldn't mean anything and would just be tiring. But I have no idea what he's thinking. Does he like the food I make him, does he like the way I look, the way I do things, the way I breathe for that matter 😄 I have no idea!

As for Leo men, oh no thank you 😄 A good friend of mine is a Leo (male) and he is the funniest creature ever, cute and fluffy and oh-so-vain but.. no 😄

No, I don't get compliments at all. Never. Nada. I don't have low self-esteem, but a girl needs a little reassurance every once in a while!

Well, actually, he will sometimes compliment my cooking (but that's rare, because I'm a really terrible cook). I think that just comes from growing up in a household where it was considered polite to compliment his mother's cooking.

Well I do, but not in the straight forward "you look amazing" way most people would expect. In relationships I'm not much of a talker, I do. If I think you look good, I won't be able to take my eyes off of you and I will constantly be touching you. I've been known to simply smile when my lover walks into the room and that smile doesn't leave my face. Next thing you know I'm all over him. That is my version of "I missed you like crazy". Some get me, some don't.

If I had to try to explain it, all I can say is I often feel like words of affection are meaningless sometimes, so I don't throw them around carelessly. If I can make you truly feel that I miss you or that I find you irresistible then you know it is real. Later, when you reflect on the various ways I've touched or kissed you, that is what will keep you smiling when we are not together. You will probably forget half the crap I say, but you won't forget that feeling.

When people reflect on past relationships they don't say —the person always told me how safe they would make me feel?? or —the person always told me how pretty I was?? they say —I always felt safe with that him/her?? or —I always felt like I was the only one in the room whenever she/he looked at me??.

I simply don't say things for the sake of saying them. If someone tells me they miss me, I won't say it back just because they said it and need to hear it said back to them. I will only express an emotion if I genuinely feel it at the moment. This is something that will not change. I also won't give a compliment (verbally) if I don't believe it to be true. I just won't. This is not to suggest that your Scorp thinks your cooking sucks or you're not attractive. It simply means you may need to look for the other signs that tell you what he's feeling about you.

Posted by IntriguedScorp

Posted by tauruscancerdelight
Because he doesnt want you to get big head. In his mind, compliment=you get big head and think you can control him, loss of control=scary to scorpio.
Dont worry about it, you know your own worth. If you werent worthy, he wouldnt be with you. They are not big sweet talkers, in time, you will get use to it. They show you more with actions how they feel, good or bad.

Uh no. Seriously do you honestly think this? blockquote>

I was wondering this as well....

Posted by IntriguedScorp

Posted by tauruscancerdelight

You will get compliments and when you do they will be HONEST. Scorpio isn't going to compliment you all the time because words mean nothing. It's actions, the look in his eyes, his reactions and his doing things for you that are the compliments. But when he does feel compelled to tell you how wonderful you are you can believe it.

It's like this. If everyday he tells you that you are beautiful, the word beautiful becomes meaningless. But if you wake up one morning and your hair is a mess, you don't have any make up on and your breath stinks and he tells you how beautiful you look for this first time which scenario means the most? Everyday or when you least expect it?

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Posted by IntriguedScorp
Okay revision: Once in a trusting relationship more compliments before then perhaps the compliments aren't as forthcoming until things are secure. *backpedalling* lol

No need to back pedal. What you posted before applies to some Scorps, what you've posted here applies to others. I thought the whole point of raising the OP was to get differnt perspectives. Eh....maybe its just me. Known of us really know why your Scorp doesn't give you the things you need (at the time you want them). All we can do is share why we do or don't provide these things and you take the lead from there.

Posted by IntriguedScorp

You will get compliments and when you do they will be HONEST. Scorpio isn't going to compliment you all the time because words mean nothing. It's actions, the look in his eyes, his reactions and his doing things for you that are the compliments. But when he does feel compelled to tell you how wonderful you are, you can believe it.

It's like this. If everyday he tells you that you are beautiful, the word beautiful becomes meaningless. But if you wake up one morning and your hair is a mess, you don't have any make up on and your breath stinks and he tells you how beautiful you look for this first time which scenario means the most? Everyday or when you least expect it?

A Scorpio in love WANTS you have a big head. They want you to feel like the most wonderful person in the world. Control has absolutely nothing to do with it. A Scorpio in love wants you to be in control-- or at least feel like you have all the power. Smh

MY SCORP compliments me, in someway, form or fashion..Makes me feel ADORED.
When we speak on the phone, he doesn't go without asking me what I'm wearing. and he's a CONTINENT AWAY!!

SO, There is NO EXCUSE for your scorp who is NEAR you, NOT to admire the efforts and TIME you took to doll up to SEE him..

I don't know maybe take a look at Mercury to see how communications flows. If he has Leo placements..he'll be more self-centered.

Idk, maybe he IS observing you..but I think Complimenting IS part of observing. Yes you may not NEED to survive and live off of his words alon, but it feels good to be admired LIVE in the present and in the flesh as he's observing.

If you catch him staring at you..ask him "DO you LIKE what you see??" Catch him in the act, and watch him stutter. haha. If he downplays it, or says he was "thinking about something", then he's an azz.

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Posted by IntriguedScorp
Okay revision: Once in a trusting relationship more compliments before then perhaps the compliments aren't as forthcoming until things are secure. *backpedalling* lol

No need to back pedal. What you posted before applies to some Scorps, what you've posted here applies to others. I thought the whole point of raising the OP was to get differnt perspectives. Eh....maybe its just me. None of us really know why your Scorp doesn't give you the things you need (at the time you want them). All we can do is share why we do or don't provide these things and you take the lead from there.

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I dont give my girl compliments prolly as much as I should. IntriguedScop typed it all. I do things for my lady every single day of her life. I show her!....Where most compliments are said, I'm doing something for her, buying her something, helping her with things, being there for her any hour of any day! ETC the list is endless. For me words mean Jack Shit! People say things they don't mean all day, everyday. I'm not goin to blow smoke up my girls ass by flooding her with compliments. Don't get me wrong I give compliments often, but they have way more meaning and are timed very appropriately. Making my girl say " ahhh thank you baby" . But, Scorpios will go through hell & high water for people they care about & love! Straight Up! We will give the shirts off our backs in a blizzard for those we care about. So like was typed. Pay more attention to what he does than what he says. Sounds like he's a Scorpio like me. What's his birthday?
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Very varying Scorps here when it comes to complimenting. Mine is born on Nov 6, his Merc is Sagittarius and Moon Capricorn. He has a lot of Sagittarius all over the board (but yay, Scorpio in Venus!).

He does do things for me and say things that aren't really compliments per se but are good to hear. He dances around compliments and emotions very gracefully when it comes to words, never touching either.

the scorp i dated for a coupla months a while back showered me with compliments. i'd known him for two years before we dated and he always greeted me with a compliment. i loved the way he treated me actually. felt like a princess...albeit an ageing one LOL!!!

shame he turned out to be a possessive condescending judgemental asshole.

My Scorpio tells me every now and then, lately he's been calling me gorgeous which I know is meaningful because he usually only says gorgeous when speaking about his daughters which are his world! 🙂 He's told me that he doesn't want to be a softy by being so mushy lol but in the beginning he never really complimented me either, so I wouldn't worry too much!

^^ I'll take honest observations/statements any day over a mere 'compliment.' The one thing I love about scorps. We get the nitty gritty about each other and are able to articulate it.

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shame he turned out to be a possessive condescending judgemental asshole.

Lol oh my!

" I show her!...."

^^That is what it's all about. Good for your woman!😉

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Posted by allielee
Got curious, do you guys compliment your love interest?

My Scorp never EVER compliments me. Ever. Seriously. We've been together for a few months and I've gotten one compliment - he said I'm unique (and clarified that he means it as a compliment). He has never told me I look good or cook well or anything of the sort. It's really weird. I don't understand why. I don't need constant compliments but a life without any positive feedback is just scary 😄

In the early stages... I'm very wishy washy with the compliments. Somedays I do, somedays I don't. But my facial expressions tend to give me away. If you walk out in a skin tight black dress... My jaw will drop and I won't be able to stop staring, and I'll likely try to pry the damn thing off of you for a go around before we leave.

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Dropping hints huh? 😛